HIV+ FREE HOLIDAYS

 

We have been forced to reconsider our position in offering free vacations
so we do not feel taken for granted, messed around and abused any more


I have offered numerous free vacations to those on benefits and struggling financially as a gesture of kindness in this otherwise hard and cruel world and have met a few very kind and thoughtful people - and sadly, I have also been taken for a ride too many times by people and organisations that really should know better and so - from now on - I am restricting these free vacations to those I have met and whom I know.
 
This costs me considerably,  financially as well as emotionally,   and as a NOT FOR PROFIT VENUE  where I do not get paid a wage after investing all my  life savings and hard work into this venue,  it hurts,   when all you are trying to do -  'is the right thing'.  How many other gay hotels, night clubs or any venues come to that,  offers anything FROM THEIR OWN POCKETS  and not because it gets loads of people into the bar spending loads of money.   How may venues work for the love of it and what profit made, is reinvested back into the venue and the people - THE PEOPLE - who use it ?   Yet there are those who abuse this and it realy is quite insulting behaviour - those who expect everything for free - and as nothing was ever handed to me on a silver platter - and as I have always had to work damned hard for everything I have ever had in life,  and as there really are NO FREE RIDES - I have changed how I offer these free vacations.

In any year - I offer over 25 week(end) periods free of charge.
 

Terrence Higgins Trust

In 2010 I offered the THT £1,400 worth of free vacations for service users in need of a break and the THT staff couldn't even be bothered to reply to my 3 e mails sent over a 3 week period.  So I phoned and was passed around and passed around on the phone and eventually I was so frustrated and irritated with their attitude - that I withdrew the offer and told them exactly what I thought of their planning skills if this was how they treated someone who was trying to give them something for free.

I was absolutely gobsmacked and disgusted.

O.A.P.  FREE HOLIDAYS

  If you are elderly and living on a pension and cannot afford a visit,
we offer free periods with Bed, Breakfast and Evening Meal.

The same applies as above.

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I had an old gentleman friend ( a client when I was a sex worker ) who lived alone,  was lonely, could afford to come each week for a massage with me but wanted to spend some more time -  on another day than 'massage day' - with me because - as he said - just being around me and my insanity made him feel better, it made him laugh and we always shared a gossip and he would leave with a smile on his face and a skip in his walk.  So every Monday morning he would arrive with his packed lunch,  we would share a coffee and a chat, and then he would do my ironing while I got on with my own business - office work - seeing clients etc.  We would have lunch together and he often stayed the afternoon and went after the rush hour to drive home.  People always laughed when I told them he came and did my ironing for me -  but if he wanted to 'hang around and be my friend' when I had a life and a business to run, and as he was retired and had loads of spare time - and as he was good at ironing and enjoyed himself - in my home and around my energies - he had a ball and loved it - and for almost 4 years I never ironed a thing... I enjoyed his company and respected his advice - for friendship goes two ways - and until I moved away from the area and he met someone and started a relationship and our friendship changed,  we had a laugh.

Another time in years gone by, I always had housekeepers keeping my London house clean and tidy and one time I knew this  man who was a little older than I - around 45 when I was 35 - and he had colon cancer and who enjoyed cleaning and needed the money,  so I had him for 2 years do my cleaning and while he was actually slow and not that good,  I knew that the company twice a week as well as the money,  cheered him up, gave him something to do each week as he didn't work and gave his week some meaning.  He would share a laugh with some of my clients who came to know him and many of the guys working on my escort agency grew fond of him,  as he was a sweetheart.  Now - I could have got a younger, healthier cleaner who did a better job and was better eye candy,  but this guy got so much out of his twice weekly visits and to see him smile, and laugh and enjoy those hours was all I needed to know I had made the right decision in employing him.
One day he didn't come, and his father phoned to say he had died,  and I was saddened at his loss but pleased I could have been a part of his life at the end, to introduce some distractions and a little insanity into his days - which cheered and delighted,  and while it is over 20 years ago, I still remember him and know I did the right thing.

We are not a care facility and do not offer personal care and social service facilities. 

All corresppondance must come from the same e mail / phone number / social worker each time and please return all e mails sent between us each time, so we can keep track of what has been said in the past between us -  as we get hundreds of requests and do forget who we are dealing with.

counselling

Many times in our lives we just want someone to talk to, who will listen and not pass judgement and will have a sensible head on their shoulders and will help if and where they can with words of advise.  Friends are often NOT the right people to turn to as they do have hidden agendas and will often simply not have the time for you, which often becomes a heartache in itself when you realise your friends are not as 'there for you' as you thought.  family - the same - and while there are many good and loyal friends who are there for you,  the sad fact is that all too often,  they are too busy with their own lives to bother when you have a melt down.

So - If you wish to speak to me about your relationship, your life or any kind of subject matter that is hurting and causing distress - and you feel you need a friend more than a counselor - then I am available will always offer a friendly shoulder to cry on and a 'wise old owl'.
If you can afford to make a donation - as remember - this will be during my 'off time' - the anything from £30 - £50 is appreciated but ONLY if you can afford it. 

I usually invite you into my private apartment, where I can relax and we can share some privacy, and I will spend the evening - after dinner - with you.  There will be no ' Your times up'  and I shall offer a friendly and caring attitude and non judgemental. I am not easily shocked.... so you can be honest and open ,,, knowing it is truly confidential.  Sex, drugs and rock 'n' roll - it's all the same to me and I do not blame, accuse or judge.

There are times in anyone's life when you just need a friend, a shoulder and an ear to hear, to feel and to guide,
and with total discretion and privacy,  I shall always do what I can to help.

ALWAYS

All monies donated go to Hamilton Hall and just to remind you -
I DO NOT GET PAID A WAGE

Dear John:.  I have never known such kindess.  I have never known anyone quite like you.  The time you spent with my boyfriend and myself trying to help sort out out messed up love life, was so rewarding and consructive, I was amazed at your kindness and thoughtfulness.  We both realized a great deal after our lengthy chat with you and we spent the whole of the next day talking in more depth together than we had ever done before and we both stopped hiding from each other and, because of you, spoke openly and honestly and we moved so much clutter from our relationship,  it has really helped.  So thankyou John. Thank you sincerely.  J & R.