In a world of corporate bullying - political and media lies, abuse by the church and blatant theft by the wanker bankers, we offer a symnpathetic ear, a compassionate shoulder and a venue where you can share your journey with others who take the time to listen and between us, see if we can offer some constructive and alternative viewpoints in order to help. After all, we are all in this together.
LIFE CAN BE HARD AND AT TIMES - LONELY
Quite often, someone may wish to speak with me privately on a personal issue - ranging from sexual problems with their boyfriend to spiritual - self development stuff, anything really, and I often will invite them into my private space at the top if Hammy Hall where we can talk and share and see what guidance and help can be offered. Many people do not have the time to listen - or the inclination to be bothered with someone elses life problems and so turn away and you can feel isolated and alone at a time when you are seeking guidance and help. Friends and family are not always there for you and often do not have the time or interest ( many are good weather friends when it really comes down to it ) and I am here, I will listen, understand and FEEL what you are saying and where I can, in whatever way possible, I will be here for you.
WITH COMPLETE DISCRETION AND PRIVACY
Sometimes all we need is to 'spill our guts' - speak what is on our minds, get it out in the open and say it aloud to the universe, and all too often, the answers come to us from ourselves, in an instant - 'Oh I never thought of that before...it just came to me ...' and sometimes with a little cajoling and encouragement from a non judgemental caring person, revelations and lifechanging moments can occur, and a light will go on somewhere in your mind and an inner healing may be activated.
It is all private and personal, very discrete and from the heart.
You see, we all need a Mother figure sometimes, someone who is there who we can turn to in times of need, a friend, and yet many feel so isolated and alone. Many feel they have no one to hear them, no one to care and in this ever changing - fucked up - confusing mess of a world, we can feel so very small and alone. Many gay men have been - or still are - married and with families and this can cause such confusion - coming out later in life as a gay man - trying to find your way into a community that seems all about things that are alien to a 'straight' man - and it can be really scarey.
I do ask that if I spend an evening with you in the privacy of my own apartment - talking and sharing - helping where I can, that you make a financial donation to Hamilton hall to help towards my time. Any therapist charges between £50 - £100 AN HOUR - and as a NOT FOR PROFIT VENUE and where I do not get paid a wage - all monies offered go to Hamilton Hall and not to myself. This makes you value what it shared more than if it was for free.
As an escort for 2 decades, I heard many ( thousands ) of similar stories and every one thought it was just them, that they were the odd one out, that life had dealt them a bad hand and only through realization that they really were not alone, and that some gay men care and show interest in their 'plight' - and not for any reason other than trying to help and guide, many of my clients found it easier to come to terms with their sexuality, with their life change in middle age ( often ) and this made it easier and less painful for them.
If you have a problem with the fact that I was a sex worker, please be aware that any problem you have with it - is your own and not to be spilled out to me as I am not interested in your bigotry. If you cannot move beyond blind ignorance while expecting others to accept your lifestyle, then I am not interested. I shall always share a laugh about my work as I have many funny and interesting stories, but bigotry and blind ignorance I do not accepot. Life is too short.
I also come from a background in psychology, counselling and therapy but choose to use spiritual counselling and/or ' casual counselling' techniques these days as I find this approach much healthier for all concerned... not so structured or limiting.
REALISING YOUR OWN INNER POWER
IS OFTEN ALL YOU NEED
THIS IS THE SPARK
THE INNER SPARK
THAT WILL HEAL EVERYTHING.
YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOU
NO ONE ELSE
A personal story
A few years ago I had a boyfriend who took me to hell and back - and I had what I call an emotional meltdown, and I appreciate it was awful, and I mean AWFUL for friends to be around and one of my best friends who I had helped, supported in all ways - ( emotionally, financially, with somewhere to live etc for 17 years ) completely turned away and 'ran for the hills' and took several of my other friends with him as he simply was not mature enough to be there for me during my time of desperate need, and the loss of his friendship hurt more - MUCH MORE - than the relationship shit I was going through, and continued to do so for almost 2 years after the relationship ended and my X and I became close and dear friends. I felt betrayed that after 17 years of being there for this friend, the FIRST TIME - YES - THE VERY FIRST TIME - I actually needed help and support, he ran for the hills and has never returned since - never spoken, and this has caused a problem with my other friends who took his side and now feel 'in the middle' and part of me wants to smack him hard to get him to see the hurt and pain he caused a good friend, and part of me feels desperately sorry for a grown man who could not be there for the person who did more for him over the years than anyone.
So I know what it is like to feel isolated - with no one to talk to - betrayed and alone - and it was at this time that - when I was feeling at my lowest, a client from my escort days who I have always kept in contact with and who I see at least 4 or 5 times a year - phoned me one evening and I just burst into tears. You see - he WAS there for me - he heard my pain and my tears and he did not run away - he stood firm in his friendship and love, and helped - with saying very little - but was there - and it helped enormously.
We create our own 'gay family' around us for many reasons and the level and depth of friendships vary from person to person and when we need help, guidance and support, we all hope that our friends will be understanding and not 'just good weather friends' - which sadly this friend of mine turned out to be - as he was more worried about some shag he had visiting at that time than his best friend having a melt down - and karma will pay its due rewards. It made me question who my friends truly were and who was worthy and after decades of being there for many - it seems 'good weather friends' come in many shapes, colours and sizes and often surprise you - and hurt you - right when you need it the most.
LOST & CONFUSED ?
LOST YOUR DIRECTION IN LIFE ?
LET US HELP YOU FIND YOUR WAY
SOMETIMES JUST GETTING AWAY FOR A FEW DAYS -
IN A SUPPORTIVE SPACE - WHERE YOU CAN BREATH SOME FRESH AIR, TAKE SOME WALKS, FIND SOME PEACE AWAY FROM RINGING PHONES, WORK AND FAMILY - YOU CAN FIND THE SOLUTIONS THAT HAVE BEEN LOST TO YOU AND YOU CAN HEAR YOUR OWN INNER VOICE HELPING YOU ONWARDS
FRIENDLY, SUPPORTIVE PEOPLE
IS SOMETIMES ALL YOU NEED
WE HAVE A LOVELY SMALL
YOU DO NOT NEED TO FEEL ALONE
IT DOESN'T MATTER
WHO YOU PRAY TO
HEARS YOUR WORDS
Be old - Be young
Be gay - Be straight
Be women - Be man
Be black - Be white
Be whatever makes your heart sing
And respect the songs of others
© HAMILTON HALL PROMOTIONS 24102011
HOLD ON TIGHT
TO THE ONES YOU LOVE
The value of a sister/brother
Who doesn't have one.
The value of ten years:
Ask a newly
The value of four years:
Ask a graduate.
The value of one year:
Ask a student who
Has failed a final exam.
The value of one month:
Ask a mother
Who has given birth to a premature baby..
The value of one week:
Ask an editor of a weekly newspaper.
The value of one minute:
Ask a person
Who has missed the train, bus or plane.
The value of one-second:
Ask a person
Who has survived an accident.
Time waits for no one.
Treasure every moment you have.
You will treasure it even more when
You can share it with someone special.
The origin of this letter is unknown,
But it brings good luck to everyone who passes it on.
Hold on tight to the ones you love!