Wednesday September 02 , 2015

Free Senior Citizen Holidays





So what are we offering ?

Most free periods these days are offered to people we know and trust and who have been guests here and have proven themselves genuine. One guy booked in for a month - paying the full amount - after having a Pace Maker inserted and at the end of his stay,  as he was retired and struggling to pay for the hotel etc.  he was offered various free periods in the future and has since become a good friend and stayed many times.  He comes alive here. His whole manner is brighter.  In his 70's and only recently coming out as a gay man and knowing nothing of the gay lif style,  his many holiday periods here have helped him find friends and a ' gay family' that brings a smile and a giggle to his face that was one not there at all,  and t brings great joy to hear him laugh with the guys and see how he has changed for the better.

If you are an OAP and genuinely 'hard up' and in need of a couple of days or maybe a week away - or you have cancer of HIV or some other serious medical condition and are living on benefits and struggling and a few days away would be beneficial, including   bed and breakfast and evening meal, - I will read your e mail request and may ask for more details, and if we like what we hear and feel we have something to share - we will then offer a 50% discount on our normal charges .  You will book and pay in advance with a credit / debit card as normal.  If all is well and we do not feel you have just conned us, as many do,   we will refund all your monies at the end of your stay so all you have to pay is your return fare and any extras you may spend locally.  The hotel and food will be free of charge.

This protects us. It protects you. It offers respect and value on both sides.

Please send me as much information and input as you can think of,  including why you feel you deserve a free holiday with us and detail your benefits etc.  Include your Social Workers details as we may wish to get in touch and please respect our reasons why.  I do not wish to pry into your private finances or affairs but I also do not intend putting my neck on the chopping block either. 

Sadly,  too many people set out to con us, to lie and manipulate the truth to suit themselves and this disgusting behaviour has made us very wary of trusting - and we do need verification and evidence before we offer anything as we have been stung too many times, and considering we are offering what we offer from the heart,  it truly disgusts when we hear how we have been conned - duped and fooled by someone with pots of money and how they have lied and bullshitted us and how they think themselves so clever,- when all they have done is ruin it for someone more worthy and more in need as we then pull away and offer less.  These people, sadly - are unworthy of my time and effort and yet exist out there and still try it on.   You'd be amazed how many e mails and phone calls I get that are full of lies and blatant cons.  I have had to toughen up in business or I would have been dragged under decades ago by these self centred people.


One of our free guys who came through a HIV charity in the north of England, half way through the week with us announced he had just bought a £3,200 television and I most certainly could not afford a TV at that price - so he was not broke as we were told , not if he could afford that much just for a telly, and he could well have paid for his week here himself and not wasted so much on a TV...  as that is a LOT of money to spend on a telly.

Priorities for some people are all screwed up and I will not tollerate that kind of thing.  I work damned hard - long hours, 7 days a week 52 weeks a year AND I DO NOT GET PAID A WAGE - DO NOW HAVE HOLIDAYS MYSELF AND DRIVE AN OLD BASHED UP MINIBUS THAT IS DECADES OLD;- I buy my clothes in Primark and all my money, all my thoughts, all my worldy deeds are put into offering Hamilton Hall as a sanctuary for others,  and for this to continue, we rely on people paying their way and not conning us.

The Terrence Higgins Trust and the Elton John Foundation offered me nothing but contemptous and obnoxiously rude service when I offered them both £1,400 worth of free holidays ( a few years ago now ) FOR SERVICE USERS IN NEED, and the attitude and unprofessional manner offered was astounding - ABSOLUTELY ASTOUNDING , and I withdrew all free offers to these organisations out of complete and utter disgust for the way they were attempting to treat me and my kind and thoughtful gesture and I would never - EVER - offer them anything ever again.
It has been a very sad -- almost tragic - experience for me realising that even charities designed to help, often offer abuse to others - as above - and how so often gay people abuse other gay people in business and I simply will not stand for it. I do not need the THT or the EJF and I CERTAINLY do not need fucked up staff members offering me their asinine and disagreeable attitude when they are paid to do a job and yet seem unable to offer any semblance of thought and good manners to those their charity is designed for and in need of - as people who donate are what keep these charities alive and ticking and without volunteers and those of us who financially donate,  they would fold. 





an e mail:

Dear John:
Thank you. Words are not enough but this one will do to start with. Thank you.  For the time you offered me to stay for free and for the time spent within your wonderful home - Hamilton Hall.  My HIV and my mental health was so weighing me down  I could not see any hope and you really did help me find a way forward. It is so good to know that you are at the other end of an e mail or phone and with a 5 hour drive, I can be with you again.  Even just knowing you are there helps me a whole load. Thank you John.


After my usual 6 monthly visit to the cancer clinic it is always with great joy that my few days as your guest helps me calm down and move forward leaving the stress and fear behind.  I go home afterwards feeling better for having people to chat and laugh with and your kindness will always be remembered and appreciated, dearly.
North Wales.

John: As you know from my visit with you, I was at a complete loss and after hiding myself away on a farm up here in Scotland because I felt unsafe around people, you helped me see things differently and I now feel braver in being with people. Allowing me the space to be with people, or to find my own space alone within your delightful home at those times when I was feeling agitated,  was rewarding and I was surprised at myselkf how much better I would feel and as fast. I am a long way from finding peace within but do feel that my time with you helped a lot and I shall very much look forward to returning soon, as the magical healing energies you offer really do help.

John. After my heart attack and long time in hospital, my emotions were at an all time low when I checked into your venue for some R&R.  What I got was so much more.  Although I paid for the first two weeks,  I had absolutely no idea you would offer for me to stay a couple more weeks as your guest and I was dearly moved and it truly helped me get back on my feet again.  From my heart John, thank you.

Randolph W.

Dear John:

Thank you for the wonderful free week you allowed me to stay due to my health problem. Living alone and being a quiet man, I have few friends and I was really in need of some company and help, and you rose to the occasion with an open heart and a willingness that moved me dearly.  I never really said much during the week but at home and with keyboard, it is so much easier to really let you know how your kindfulness helped at a time when I was in despair.  I just wish there were more like you on this world and more in the LGBT community.  

You are a real treasure John. From the bottom of my heart. Thankyou.
Stanley F.

I had an old gentleman friend ( a client when I was a sex worker ) who lived alone,  was lonely, could afford to come each week for a massage with me but wanted to spend some more time -  on another day than 'massage day' - with me because - as he said - just being around me and my insanity made him feel better, it made him laugh and we always shared a gossip and he would leave with a smile on his face and a skip in his walk.  So every Monday morning he would arrive with his packed lunch,  we would share a coffee and a chat, and then he would do my ironing while I got on with my own business - office work - seeing clients etc.  We would have lunch together and he often stayed the afternoon and went after the rush hour to drive home.  People always laughed when I told them he came and did my ironing for me -  but if he wanted to 'hang around and be my friend' when I had a life and a business to run, and as he was retired and had loads of spare time - and as he was good at ironing and enjoyed himself - in my home and around my energies - he had a ball and loved it - and for almost 4 years I never ironed a thing... I enjoyed his company and respected his advice - for friendship goes two ways - and until I moved away from the area and he met someone and started a relationship and our friendship changed,  we had a laugh.

Another time in years gone by, I always had housekeepers keeping my London house clean and tidy and one time I knew this  man who was a little older than I - around 45 when I was 35 - and he had colon cancer and who enjoyed cleaning and needed the money,  so I had him for 2 years do my cleaning and while he was actually slow and not that good,  I knew that the company twice a week as well as the money,  cheered him up, gave him something to do each week as he didn't work and gave his week some meaning.  He would share a laugh with some of my clients who came to know him and many of the guys working on my escort agency grew fond of him,  as he was a sweetheart.  Now - I could have got a younger, healthier cleaner who did a better job and was better eye candy,  but this guy got so much out of his twice weekly visits and to see him smile, and laugh and enjoy those hours was all I needed to know I had made the right decision in employing him.

One day he didn't come, and his father phoned to say he had died,  and I was saddened at his loss but pleased I could have been a part of his life at the end, to introduce some distractions and a little insanity into his days - which cheered and delighted,  and while it is over 20 years ago, I still remember him and know I did the right thing.


We are not a care facility and do not offer personal care and social service facilities. 

All corresppondance must come from the same e mail / phone number / social worker each time and please return all e mails sent between us each time, so we can keep track of what has been shared  -  as we get hundreds of requests and I do forget who we are dealing with.


Many times in our lives we just want someone to talk to, who will listen and not pass judgement and will have a sensible head on their shoulders and will help if and where they can with words of advise.  Friends are often NOT the right people to turn to as they do have hidden agendas and will often simply not have the time for you, which often becomes a heartache in itself when you realise your friends are not as 'there for you' as you thought.  family - the same - and while there are many good and loyal friends who are there for you,  the sad fact is that all too often,  they are too busy with their own lives to bother when you have a melt down.

I usually invite you into my private apartment, where I can relax and we can share some privacy, and I will spend the evening - after dinner - with you.  There will be no ' Your times up'  and I shall offer a friendly and caring attitude and non judgemental. I am not easily shocked.... so you can be honest and open ,,, knowing it is truly confidential.  Sex, drugs and rock 'n' roll - it's all the same to me and I do not blame, accuse or judge.

There are times in anyone's life when you just need a friend, a shoulder and an ear to hear, to feel and to guide,and with total discretion and privacy,  I shall always do what I can to help.  A donation towards Hamilton Hall is always nice - as an average therapist charges between £50 - £100 an hour.

All monies donated go to Hamilton Hall and just to remind you - I DO NOT GET PAID A WAGE

Dear John:.  I have never known such kindess.  I have never known anyone quite like you.  The time you spent with my boyfriend and myself trying to help sort out our messed up love life, was so rewarding and consructive, I was amazed at your kindness and thoughtfulness.  We both realized a great deal after our lengthy chat with you and we spent the whole of the next day talking in more depth together than we had ever done before and we both stopped hiding from each other and, because of you, spoke openly and honestly and we moved so much clutter from our relationship,  it has really helped.  So thankyou John. Thank you sincerely.  J & R.

Thanks John. When David and I were in need of someone to listen, you were there. I never got that David had gone off me sexually and you figured it straight out - clever old you - and it answered so much that had been going on between us and I just  had not figured it out. You were wonderful and David and I discussed it the next day and made a great deal of changes and all because of your thoughtful evening talk.  Our lives are now not going to be together any more and we have both found happiness and joy in this parting and we are remaining good dear friends - we just cannot continue as lovers.  You were a huge help in cutting through the crap and big thank you John. Big thank you. 
Simon .  Cleethorpes. 

Dear John.  What can I say after all you shard with me last week.  I came to you a mess. I was so wound up I felt my face twitching all the time and my tummy was in knots and I knew something was going to give - if I did not sort something out.  You prioitised everything for me, and I cannot tell you how much better I feel and so less worried.  It just took you to help me see things clearly as I was just so lost in it all,   boyfriend trouble, Mother dying of cancer,  career in a mess,  moving back to the UK from Spain - it was all just too much to cope with and your help was so valuable to me and thank you.  I will remember you always for your kindness and generosity of heart.  Tim ( Southampton )

John.   Just a few words of thanks.  Being sued by my X lover for everything I had was starting to take its toll on me and your input and guidance was exactly what was needed.  You certainly cut through the BS and made me think clearly and I am so glad I listened and followed your advise and am now heads up with the X - he has settled for half  - 2 of the 4 flats - and I shall retain 2 for myself, so we both win.  It would have destroyed me to loose everything and only because you told me to toughen up and be firmer towards him - take legal action and sue him in return - or at least threaten to, was enough, and we are both happy with the end result.  Thanks John, I know I pestered you for many months with this and am so thankful you were there.  Tony ( Bristol ) 



Please be as professional as you can be and we will try and offer the same in return.
Mistakes can happen and we apologise if we make an error, or if you get us at a bad time
and we are not  as polite or as friendly as we should be
If you cannot respect us for the long hours and hard work we do and the extra million miles
we go for our guests compared to most venues - then please - go elsewhere.