Sunday April 26 , 2015






Embedded image permalink




'If your house is on fire and the firemen are gay,  

and it offends your religious belief,  

are you going to send them away

and ask for another 'straight'  fire fighting crew ?

Maybe those from the LGBT community are offering a more Christian attitude

than the Christians who are bigoted, rascist and damning of others.


The US state of Indiana has recently enacted a law which allows business to discriminate against those of the LGBT community.

This is all about religious beliefs and that if you find LGBT to be against your religious belief then you should not have to serve them if you feel offended by them, and this is discrimination - which is illegal.  Claiming that business must serve anyone and everyone is correct  if your business is offering a service or product that someone from the LGBT community might wish to purchase from you -  -  you have no right to dictate what someone else 
should do with their life  just because it is against your religious beliefs, which should  actually not come into it.

The guesthouse here in the UK who refused those 2 gay guys  a few years ago certainly realized too late that it was not a good idea and ended up loosing their business and everything.  It seems the people of England are a lot more understanding and sympathetic to those of us from the LGBT community than some church goers assume,  and it seems they are using their belief structure to overcome laws and claim they only answer to God - which sounds really like the words of a paranoid schitzophrenic... hearing voices. 

Vegetarians often shout at meat eaters and my answer to them is to go fuck off and leave me alone.  I was a vegey once - chose to give it up, and will not be dictated to by others how I should live my life,. Be it eating meat, being gay or believing in God.

Nothing - NOTHING gives them the right and DO NOT tell me that someone's religious beliefs should allow this to happen because 


Someone's religious beliefs just  allowed some of their  

followers to ransacked a museum at Mosul in Iraq

of its antiquities and destroyed them.  This was done by members of ISIS

in the name of religion.

These Christians in Indiana are no different to those in ISIS.  

They are religious terrorists damning and destroying a faction of their own community

because of a  displaced religious viewpoint which is as dangerous

and as evil as any terrorist working for ISIS.  They damn and destroy anyone

and anything that does not meet with their bigted and distorted view of Christianity

and we have seen this before in the UK with the jailing of Oscar Wilde

and the dreadful treatment of the  world war hero Alan Turing

and the many who have been beaten to death

by scared men who have heard clap trap on ' what the Bible says'

when the truth is,-  the Bible says no such thing.


If you have such strong opinions, then you should not be in business - as how many LGBT are fighting in Iraq and Afghanistan ? How many LGBT pay tax that pays for these Christians children to go school and pays for it - as well as paying for the army etc.  How many LGBT are nurses - doctors - teachers - politicians - builders and anything and everything you may need, and

if your house is on fire and the firemen are gay,  and it offends your religious belief,  

are you going to send them away and ask for another ' straight' fire fighting crew ?  

I think not - so this is obviously going to be as and when it suits the narrow minded,  and if and when  their religious beliefs come before every day stuff like shopping, eating, doing laundry and just about anything where those from the LGBT community might be hiding in plain sight;-  like serving YOU when they are offended by your ugly face - bad hair, dreadful clothes or attitude.  

You see, we LGBT have to suffer the straights and their messed up attitude, noisy kids and all that goes with that - and there is little we can do except be open and accepting to all,  

and maybe, just maybe,

the LGBT is offering a more Christian attitude than the Christians

who are bigoted, rascist and damning of others. 


Says a great deal about what the Christian church of the USA is teaching.



ZAYN MALIK ( 22 - in the red and black shirt pictured  ) is about to leave the pop boy band 'One Direction'  and personally, I think he is by far, the sexiest and most handsome of all of them and he will be missed by millions.  He is handsome and he is in demand,  and these poor girls who have taken to cutting their arms and blood letting themselves because of his departure,  is really quite sad and empty.  With very little in their lives,  little prospect of a decent education ( uni fees are beyond many peoples reach ) and little hope of a job and besides getting pregnant and getting a council flat,  many young people - especially young girls - dream a fantasy life with people like Zayn

Right at the start when is saw them on X Factor - or was it BGT - I thought he was stunning looking and the only one - when he gets a little older, that I would most certainly take to bed as there is that latin / arab look, olive skinned, great bone structure and very sexy lips... ( ha ha  - maybe now even I sound like a love sick teenage girl...)  and none of us can even imagine the stress, the strain, the hard work, living out of a suitcase for most of the year,  cannot go anywhere without being mobbed - and while the money is great - they say each of them is worth at least £13 million each -  it is worthless if you are a prisoner - from the media - from public opinion - to your last music review and to just about anything you may say or do that someone - somewhere - will report, distort, alter and change to suit their story, their own agenda and their sales figures,  and it MUST make you want to scream sometimes.

After I was on the TV programme ' 3 IN A BED' it was, and continues still to this day but a lot less,  great to be recognised in the street, in shops and all over the place by members of the public who saw the programme and recognise me and come and chat - and I have met and talked to so many wonderful and thoughtful people who enjoyed what I did... HOWEVER:-  This would MEGA get right on your tits if it was all the time, everywhere you went,  and to not even be able to go for a quite dinner somewhere or to the cinema, or even a late night walk on the beach without a hoard of paparatzi following your every move...  and it would be exasperating.  Especially so for someone so young and especially when it comes to who you are dating ( shagging ) who you are seen with and your entire private life is played out for all the worlds media to write about, digest, tear apart and diagnose as if it was any of their business...

It must be hard and if he now leaves and never works in show business again ( although I hear he wants a solo career as a singer - and good luck to him )  he is young, handsome, wealthy and can do fuck all for the rest of his life - if he wishes - so I hope the price he paid to get rich has not been too high a price and that he can reclaim his life and his privacy and have a great time.
If he is to release a solo album and it is good,m then i shall buy it,  and I wish him well.

And yes, if he came and asked nicely, I would do him... ha ha ...   but I know I would have to fight through a plethora of young girls first..

So which do you prefer - clean shaven or with a stubble / beard ?  Personally, I love him with a beard and I also love all the body ink ( to the old farts reading, that is what they call tattoo's these days ) and he is certainly a very ' today' young man and one I am sure has the world at his feet, if he can stay sane, competant, with good management and loyal close friends and family who can help him keep his head together in a world crazed his One Direction. 


Dolce & Gabbana store protest in London, Thursday 1-2pm 


Boycott Dolce & Gabbana

and picket their Old Bond Street store


Billionaire designers pander to Vatican, far right & homophobes
New research shows that kids with gay parents do well in life

London - 17 March 2015

Peter Tatchell Foundation

The Out and Proud Diamond Group and the Peter Tatchell Foundation are supporting the international boycott of Dolce and Gabbana and holding a protest outside their flagship London store, 6-8 Old Bond Street, London W1S 4PH, this Thursday 19 March from 1-2pm.
We urge you to join us - and to share and tweet details of the protest to all your friends.
The protest is in response to the fashion designers insulting slurs against same-sex parents and their children.
Speaking to the Italian magazine Panorama, alongside his business partner, Stefano Gabbana, Domenico Dolce said children should be born to a mother and a father:
“The only family is a traditional one. I’m not convinced by those I call the chemical children, synthetic babies...They are wombs for hire, semen chosen from a catalogue ... psychiatrists are not ready to confront the effects of this experimentation.”
Stefano Gabbana added: “The family is not a fad.” In 2006, he told the Daily Mail: "I am opposed to the idea of a child growing up with two gay parents."
Both designers have in the past strongly opposed same-sex marriage.
LGBT rights and human rights campaigner Peter Tatchell, Director of the Peter Tatchell Foundation and co-organiser of Thursday’s protest, said:
"It is hypocritical for Stefano Gabbana to oppose gay parents, given that in 2006 he expressed a desire to have a child via artificial insemination and surrogacy. He's guilty of double standards. Gabbana wanted for himself what he now condemns other gay men for wanting.
"These comments are not only an attack on same-sex parents but on all parents who've had children with the aid of fertility treatment, including thousands of heterosexual couples.
"Dolce and Gabbana are echoing ill-informed, outdated and homophobic prejudices about gay parents. Research spanning 40 years shows that children bought up by gay mums and dads are just as happy and well-adjusted as those from traditional heterosexual families. The key to a child’s welfare is the love of their parents, not the parent’s sexual orientation.
“They are playing into the hands of the Vatican and far right political parties that oppose gay families, said Mr Tatchell.
Co-organiser of the protest, Edwin Sesange, director of the LGBT Out and Proud Diamond Group, added:
“Please join us in sending a clear message to Dolce and Gabbana that same-sex families are loving, happy families. This issue is not about same-sex families alone but also about the many straight families who have benefited from fertility treatment. Dolce and Gabbana’s statements add to the stigma, shame, prejudice, rejection and intolerance often suffered by same-sex parents and their children. They should withdraw their statements and apologise.”
Mr Tatchell concluded:
"Dolce and Gabbana are entitled to their views but we are entitled to protest against them. We urge everyone - gay and straight - to boycott their clothes.
“It's intolerable for these designers to make millions out of the gay community and then turn around and insult our families. They've stabbed us in the back. 
“Dolce and Gabbana have been exploiting the gay market for decades. Having made their millions, they seem happy to trash loving, responsible same-sex parents and their children.
"Professor Susan Golombok of the Centre for Family Research at Cambridge University is the world expert on same-sex families. She's been studying them since 1976. Her latest research is in her new book, Modern Families, published last week. Surveying studies worldwide spanning four decades, she found that children with same-sex parents flourish, despite the stigma they sometimes face," said Mr Tatchell.
Further information:
Peter Tatchell
Director, Peter Tatchell Foundation
0207 403 1790



Spok dies.

Er no - Leonard Nimoy has died.

Spok will live forever in our hearts.

I know he was an old man and had been playing the part of Spok on Star Trek for many decades - yet I will miss him.  He was a part of our cultural heritage that many of us grew up watching and enjoying and he had always been there, ever since I was little, and it saddened me to hear of his death this week, aged I believe 82.

I know he was an actor and that the character he played as Spok was not a real man - or even living in the same century as us - or from the same planet,  but the man he portrayed for so long was taken to our hearts and we loved him.  Half Vulcan and half human, he fought with his own inner demons in the control of his emotions ( Vulcans control their emotions while we humans seem controlled by them ) and he often showed us how to behave, how not to react and how to control our inner anger - the animal within - and Gene Rodenburry who was the producer and creator of Star Trek was a very spiritual man who put a great deal of his spiritual trachings into the stories of Star Trek ( more so with the newer Next Generation onwards ) and Spok was often one of those more spiritual storylines involving self development of the human psyche.

Bless him for always keeping Spok alive and loved.  Bless him for being a part of so many peoples lives and for sharing the journey.

Leonard Nimoy -  you have been and still are - loved by millions; in this universe and many others.






Thay wrote to me today looking for funding and I have to admit
to not knowing them at all.   Having run variuous gay businesses for over 30 years it astounds me how easy it is for any business to promote itself to all gay venues through the internet - and yet most seem to miss that golden opportunity  and so most venues will never know about so many things that are going on as we do not read all the gay publications but we do read our e mails.
Click on the Broken Rainbow UK picture to be taken to its own web site.





Various towns ( Bristol was just on the news with this )  in the UK are introducing SMOKE FREE ZONES in open spaces like parks,   and here in Bournemouth you cannot even smoke in the hospital car park and I have to point out how absolutely stupid this is.
I appreciate smoking is a bad habit with serious health risks and when the argument is raised about the future of our childrens health,  no one bothers to speak accurately and offer truthful input, they just rant and rave about smoking.

So here is some alternative truths to the ones offered. 
CAR - LORRY - BUS FUMES are a great deal more dangerous to all our health than someone standing in an open park 100 yerds away smoking a cigarette.  It is complete madness.
Our environment is full of dangerous particles that affect us all and are breathed in wherever we are - and throat cancer is more likely to be caused by the environment than from smoking ( which is the 3rd reason for throat cancer ) while binge drinking is the second and the biggest cause of throat cancer - THE ENVIRONMENT.

So in open spaces - banning smoking is  ludicrous.  It seems councils and so forth are afraid to actually approach the genuine reasons and ban vehicles from town and city centres and most certainly not about to ban drinking - and the hypocracy is screaming for all to hear.

Naturally, the 'do gooders' will scream and shout and declare it a wonderful idea while remaining positively ignorant to the truth and if someone ever told me not to smoke in the middle of a field, I would feel inclined to read the riot act at them and try an educate them - but you know how some of these people are - their minds are made up and they will never be changed and it is these people that damn and destroy and not for the good but out of ignorance.    I refuse to be treated as a child by some idiot who thinks they know better when the truth is, they do not.

Oh and not to forget how the government is backing Fracking - searching for more fossil fuels while reducing financial backing for alternative wind turbines that do not pollute the atmosphere.  Aren't we suppose to be reducing our carbon footprint and not adding to it - and all they do is run around banning smoking.

Give Me Strength.

And any husband with a wife like any in the picture about,  taking one look at any of them is enough to drive any poor man to drink.  I bet these women were very dried up and wrinkly...



Why Ex-Gay Therapy Groups

Should Be Very Nervous Right Now


A New Jersey judge has delivered a blow to ex-gay therapy groups, saying that so-called change therapy amounts to consumer fraud when groups make certain claims about gay people, and also when they claim success rates that they cannot support with facts.

The case involves several people including Plaintiffs Benjamin Unger and Chaim Levin, who are survivors of ex-gay therapy. They are suing the Jersey City-based Jews Offering New Alternatives for Healing (JONAH) under the New Jersey Consumer Fraud Act. It is the first time that ex-gay therapy has been challenged in this way, and based on Hudson County Superior Court Judge Peter Bariso Jr.’s determinations so far, it’s going to be a big problem for ex-gay therapy groups across the country.

The case hasn’t gone to trial yet, but Judge Bariso Jr. has granted a request by plaintiffs for partial summary judgement, which essentially means that the judge looks at the evidence presented in case files and makes a determination on those grounds. Specifically here, the judge was asked whether JONAH has committed fraud under New Jersey’s consumer protection laws when JONAH claims that homosexuality is a “disorder” that can be cured, and when it cites specific success statistics that JONAH cannot substantiate with hard data.

Bariso Jr., having previously told JONAH it cannot use ”expert testimony” or witnesses because there’s no such thing as a scientific expert in ex-gay therapy because conversion therapy isn’t scientifically recognized,
issued the following determination on February 10 (pdf):

It is a misrepresentation in violation of the CFA, in advertising or selling conversion therapy services, to describe homosexuality, not as being a normal variation of human sexuality, but as being a mental illness, disease, disorder, or equivalent thereof.

It is a misrepresentation in violation of the CFA, in advertising or selling conversion therapy services, to include specific “success” statistics when there is no factual basis for calculating such statistics, e.g., when client outcomes are not tracked and no records on client outcomes are maintained.

Judge Bariso Jr. also struck JONAH’s Eighth and Ninth Amendment defenses, noting they were dispatched in oral arguments on February the 5th and were agreed to have no actual bearing on the case.

JONAH’s attorney Charles LiMandri
claims that the court has got this wrong, and that the group’s use of the word “disorder” is not intended to mean a medical disorder but a “religious” one based on JONAH’s interpretation of Jewish law. Essentially, they are attempting a religious defense for the program, but it’s undeniable that they are claiming a psychological change in the people who are subjected to this therapy, so it remains to be seen how much scope they can get out of their religious defense.

The Southern Poverty Law Center, which represents plaintiffs, believes that this latest ruling is highly significant not just for New Jersey but for gay people throughout the United States.

“This ruling is monument
al and devastating to the conversion therapy industry,”said David Dinielli, SPLC deputy legal director. “For the first time, a court has ruled that it is fraudulent as a matter of law for conversion therapists to tell clients that they have a mental disorder that can be cured. This is the principal lie the conversion therapy industry uses throughout the country to peddle its quackery to vulnerable clients. Gay people don’t need to be cured, and we are thrilled that the court has recognized this.”

The SPLC isn’t wrong. This trial is on course to dismantle every one of ex-gay therapy’s key lies. For one thing, the judge not allowing so-called experts to testify ab
out ex-gay therapy’s efficacy because change therapy isn’t science is impressively damaging and rips through the tapestry of misdirection and flat out lies that underpin ex-gay therapy. Furthermore, we see JONAH retreating into a religious defense because if it can not make secular claims about data and psychological disorders, it is left with little else than its religious opinions — that by itself smacks of desperation.

The case, which will go to trial in June, is considered a flag-ship for the battle against ex-gay therapy and it is incredibly important. Unfortunately, the trial does not include determinations around ex-trans therapy, and as we learned from
Leelah Alcorn’s story, religious therapists trying to suppress a young person’s self-determination of their gender can have awful consequences. This is not to detract from this very important lawsuit, but to say that it is one piece of a larger fight.

As such, a campaign, 
the BornPerfect Campaign, has been launched that aims to have every state enact laws that ban all accredited therapists from engaging in or offering ex-LGBT therapy to minors. Such efforts will also be needed to stamp out a practice that has no basis in scientific fact and one that is prejudiced and harmful.

We all know what a screwed up load of wank jobs a lot of therapists are and how mentally unstable a  lot of those who work in mental health are themselves. There are tons of screwey therapists out there doing a great deal more harm than good, in all fields of mental health, just as there are a lot of brilliant and helpful therapists who do good work,  and in this instance, here we have a load of scared religious people - scared of their own homosexuality - and this kind of therapy and therapist is as vile and as dangerous and evil as anything you can imagine... well almost. These sick and twisted souls that deem it necessary to damn and destroy others when they all along are wrong ; - are often gay themselves and living in fear - so they attack and destroy the very thing they fear within themselves the most, and this is really very sickening - but the sad thing is - PEOPLE LISTEN AND ASSUME IT IS FOR REAL when THESE are the sick and twisted ones and not the out gay men.  using Biblical / religious rhetoric is incorrect as most people misquote the teachings and do NOPT knpow what it actually says and how many times it damns straight sex in the Bible - and how many gay / lesbian stories rthere are in the Bible which are not damned or destroyed, just mistranslated, and anyone using Biblical clap trap to damn another is the evil one, the bigot, the devil incarnate as what they are doing is wrong, the Bible DOES NOT SAY homosexuality is wrong EXCEPT in modern mis translated versions put together by scared Catholic and Protestant priests in the 16th and 17th centuries.

Disgusting ... and I hope the courts and the laws show this to be the case and persecute and jail these nasty little men in a prison full of hairy sweaty men who have not had a shag for a very long time and who will enjoy these bible pushing anti gay homophobes with tight little asses,-  all night - every night... for a very long time.

WE in England may now have Equality Laws and we are - to a large degree - protected against some forms of bigotry against us, BUT it will take a couple of generations for the masses to learn and appreciate, grow and evolve an understanding that accepts and does not damn and destroy and we would be fools to assume that now the law is on our side, everyone out there will be different- as a scared man - is a scared man - and just because the law has been changed does not change that fact.  Someone who is a Bible punching racist bigot will always be the same regardless of what the law says - as his mis-reading of Biblical clap trap,  also spouced by a possibly bigoted and fucked up priest - from any church - will not change,  and it will take time.  The sad thing is the fear that the church put out there - that homosexuality ( to name just one thing ) is wrong - is evil - is against God - and we only have to see how many misguided Muslims are murdering in the name of Alah when the Koran simply does not allow for cold blooded murder at all,  and these sick and twisted teachers who are using the holy word to forward their own political and religious agendas - are the dangerous ones who cause so much pain and turmoil within the soul of so many men and women.

These people who claim to be able to cure homosexuality MUST BE PROSECUTED and if it is because they perpetrate fraud with false claims and false advertising, then good - close them down, send them to jail and do whatever it takes to stop the spread of such fear based clap trap and - to be honest - usually this kind of evil  comes out of the United States of Fear - as this is the most  fucked up country on the planet - masquarading as a country of brilliant minds.  Shame on The United States of America and shame on these scared little boys who cause such turmoil and pain in others.

I do feel for those living in one of the 70 odd countries that have outlawed homosexuality and where we hear of gay men being thrown from tall uildings and if they do not die, they are stoned to death - JUST BECAUSE THEY ARE GAY.
There is a lot of work to be done before we in England can reast and do nothing because we have what we fought for for decades - EQUALITY - when tens of thousands of LGBT people are hounded to death simply because God chose to make them different.



When injustice becomes law,   defiance becomes duty.



Thanks to Chris who told me this one - and it really works:


  1. Get a metal pot stand.  Put 3 or 4 Tea Lights - lit - in the middle together and have each one a couple of inches from the other
  2. On the top on them lower a terracotta garden pot with its bottom upwards and where the candles heat burns up the inside of the pots and not straight out of the whole at the top. 
  3. The heat of the candles will heat up the pot so you cannot even touch it and the heat from just 3 or 4 small Tea Lights will warm the whole room. 

Be careful with candles and never leave to burn without supervision or where children, the elderly or pets can knock them over;-  and not in a draughty location. 

If using Tea Lights NOT on some kind of metal or glass stand, then ALWAYS put them on a solid surface - NOT PLASTIC - as Tea Lights will melt down through the plastic and set fires.  They become extremly hot - hotter than a lot of people realize. 

Always put them in a safe countainer when alight and always take care with naked flames in the home.

I have been using one for the last couple of weeks and I have noticed I can turn down the heating in my own private lounge as it actually has been getting too hot and is a wonderful way of heating the place without paying a fortune to the gas and electric companies that are so screwing us all. 


click above to read all about this dangerous legislation





Eighty-eight thousand deaths a year?
One in 10 people in America die from alcohol abuse each year.




US Secretary of State, John Kerry representing a country which makes Genghis Khan look like a wimp when it comes to illegal invasions, still retains the prize for jaw dropper of the decade:

"You just don't, in the 21st century, behave in 19th century fashion by invading another country on completely trumped up pretext", he pontificated on CBS' "Face the Nation." 

It really is enough to take your breath away,- the gall of this idiot.  Does he assume we are all idiots ?



The following BOURNEBATERS poll is now closed. Here are the
final results:



- YES, 19 votes, 41.30%
- NO, 14 votes, 30.43%
- INDIFFERENCE TO SEX, 1 votes, 2.17%

For more information about this group, please visit




'We have all been in abusive relationships, and sometimes we were the one being abused.'

Marianne Williams