Tuesday July 28 , 2015







Russel Brand on gay marriage:- ' Everyone should be allowed the misery of marriage.'


DEMENTIA CARE - fancy a free break on us ?

I watched a news article this evening concerning Dementia / Alzheimer's and how some people give up their job and security to look after an aging parent who has Dementia and with what little help the state offers them;-   and this got me thinking. 

If you are struggling alone in this manner - on benefits - working hard to look after an aging parent / relative / friend who has Dementia - with little or no assistance from the state and you struggle financially - and where you can get your loved one into a care home for a few days ( the state should allow you some respite - as if you became ill then the state would HAVE to step in - and you may have to insist and even fight for some help as it will often not be offered freely,  as they simply do not want to offer you help as it costs them money and as long as you are coping,  you will often be ignored - abandoned even,  by the system for as long as they can ge
t away with it - )  and I would offer a few days - to a week - as a free holiday here to help support you - to say thank you for what you do for your loved one and to show that others care.  This time is 'YOU TIME' - to recharge and rebuild - have a laugh and have some  personal space to do and be and say and have what YOU want for a while. 

Having been in a similar situation myself in the past, I am aware how all consuming it can become - How you can put your own wants and desires ' on hold ' until eventually you may feel  lost and what you want becomes second place to what someone else wants and needs,  and this needs addressing as it is an unhealthy way forward - for both parties. 

Hamilton Hall would like to offer this space to be yourself - to find yourself within the mountain that sometimes can become all consuming of your time, emotions and everything you have to offer and - sometimes - it can be hard to see a way forward ;- or a way out ; - and we com
pletely respect your worth and dedication - hence this offer from the heart.

I will ask for some evidence so no one feels they are being conned,  and you would be very welcome as my guest - more or less - any time in the year ( not during special events or the festive season though )  so please get in touch - share your story - and let's see if we can get you down to the coast for a while and be amongst understanding and sympathetic people.

This has always been the case at Hamilton Hall where we have always offered free periods here to those looking after others with health problems, whether it be Dementia or HIV - Cancer or anything.  Many unpaid family members & friends are carers - full time - and they give up a great deal to help others and these selfless acts needs rewarding and it seems there are few who see or appreciate fully what some people do for someone else, the sacrifices and the emotional support - and we are here to offer this back to the carer for a change. 

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John Bellamy




I did the usual thing this morning.  Got up for breakfast at around 7.30am so it would be ready in case anyone was down for the 8am start - ( we serve between 8 - 10am - although if someone came down later it's not a problem ) and as I have done before,  I forgot it was Sunday and we do brekkie from 9 - 11am and I could have had an extra hour in bed...  groan.....   So I took the dogs up the park ( my neighbours dog was having a ' sleep over' with us as Dad was busy last night with his girlfriend and didn't need the distraction of his dog - and as Schnorbitz ( the dog )  lives here half the time anyway and Missy is quite use to him - we enjoyed a peaceful 20 minutes in the long grass under the mighty oaks listening to how quiet it is on a Sunday morning before the church bells wake some people up.  Now it's time for a cuppa green tea and some Marmite toast...    



Homophobic married reverend

has a profile on Grindr


People like this deserve to be exposed - as what a first class bloody idiot

what a hypocrit, what an absolute asshole.


Read more: http://metro.co.uk/2015/05/20/homophobic-married-reverend-has-a-profile-on-grindr-5206191/#ixzz3bodiEKYb

A pastor who regularly ranted against homosexuals and all things rainbow has been caught cruising for bottoms on Grindr.

Reverend Matthew Makela, who is married and has five children, was caught looking for some oral, massage, making out naked, cuddling fun on the gay dating app.

Rev Makela, from Midland, Michigan, has now quit his associate pastor job at the St John’s Lutheran Church.

Reverend Matthew Makela was recently listed on the St. John's Lutheran Church website as a devoted husband and father of five children. But, he was forced to resign this week after Queerty.com published pics of his Grinder profile:

Until 2 p.m. on Monday, the ‘Our Church Staff’ section of St. John’s Lutheran Church and School’s website described Reverend Matthew Makela as an associate pastor who enjoys, “family, music, home improvement, gardening and landscaping, and sports.”

Screenshots obtained by Queerty from a source who asked that his name be withheld shed light on some of the Reverend’s other favorite past times — namely nude make out sessions and sex with other men.

And  the folks at Queerty.com note, the good pastor has publicly backed an anti-gay agenda on many occasions:

It is unrighteous to give into sinful temptations. We are all tempted and it is not a sin to be tempted, but it is a sin to give into to temptation. A sexual attraction to the same sex is a sinful temptation to be resisted and overcome by God’s grace and power, just as a temptation to steal or lie or overeat must be resisted and overcome by replacement with working hard, telling the truth and moderation in appetite. We all face varying degrees of temptation in sometimes varying areas of life and we all are tempted to sin according to 1 Corinthians 10:13.

Jesus reaffirmed one man one woman marriage in Matthew 19:4-6 where he quotes from Genesis 1:27 and 2:24. In Old and New Testaments homosexual practice is clearly condemned (Leviticus 18:22; Romans 1:21-32; 1 Corinthians 6:9-11; 1 Timothy 1:9-10). There is no sinful practice God cannot forgive and overcome by his grace through faith in Jesus Christ (2 Corinthians 5:17).

Guess the temptation was just too much for Pastor Makela. Thanks to Queerty's exposure, the church has taken down their Facebook page to avoid comments from sinners.

Read more about the good Reverend's activities at Queerty.com.


JB Says: It just goes to show that many of the loudest, most vocal and most adamantly against many things in life, are often those who secretly adore the very thing they scream against and the story above is proof of this.  This hypocrit, this so called ' man of the cloth' - it seems is not holy cloth but cloth that changes its colour as to the whim of the man wearing it - for this man changed direction in accordance to when his dick is hard or not, and damning gays while cruising the internet looking for men for sex shows a man whose opinions are unvalid and should not be allowed a voice, an opinion and certainly NOT a pulpit in a church - as this man preaches hate from one side of his face and damning gays - while betraying the very words spoken by sucking cock the other side of his face and this kind of hypocricy must always be exposed and revealed to the world,-  and then maybe the masses will think twice before following anyone who damns   another for whatever reason as - in this case, it seems the very thing he was screaming and ranting about was the very thing that he desired himself - SEX WITH MEN.

It also confirms exactly what I have always said - homophobics are usually always homosexual themselves but living in denial.

The church in its homophobic rants for centuries has always been - and always will be - full of faggots as it is gay men who are more in tune with their inner feelings and have more empathy for others - and yet women and gay men have been banished from the church and preaching by boring - out-of-touch straight men afraid to loose their job and so damn and destroy the very best people available for this caring role.  That being women and gay men.







the dumbing down of people

When injustice becomes law,   defiance becomes duty.




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- YES, 19 votes, 41.30%
- NO, 14 votes, 30.43%
- INDIFFERENCE TO SEX, 1 votes, 2.17%

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