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I have put various signs on our front fence for the passing public to read,  offering help to any elderly person during the winter months if the weather is too bad and the streets too slippery for an elderly person to get to the shops, and we will shop for some basics for them.  They will pay for what we buy but our service is free and from the heart and it does state,  that we can also help with some of our own stock from Hamilton Hall as I always keep plenty of tinned soups,  beans,   porridge,  long life milk,  bread and other basics in house and willingly share with an elderly person if they are house bound and the social services cannot get around because of the weather.

It may be 45 minutes out of my day - and it may be a cuppa and a chat with someone who is desperately lonely and who has not seen anyone for days, and just think how your heart will feel when they beam a smile at you in gratitude.




This was the initial e mail from a customer through this web site:

'Hi have you any more spaces for two fabulous people this Christmas? If not then how about dates in January 2015 that would be suffice. Also can you send me some information on your hotel as I do not have time to trawl through your labyrinth maze of a website. Also this is going to be surprise for my truly remarkable young man I would like a nice bottle Krug Rosé Brut NV Champagne and arrange some flowers, chocolates on arrival etc. Look forward to your response with price and more information on your gay hotel. Also is payment discrete as I have to be careful and prudent in one's actions as one is married. Your hotel and staff need to be wise and discrete in handling practical matters; exercising good judgment or common sense thank you,  BT'

This e mail shocked me when the author turned into a vile malicious asshole - and I knew it was fake as the champagne is £255 a bottle in Waitrose and they expect a small hotel like ours to have this in stock ? It beggars belief., More to the point, this is one of the oldest cons in the business. It is fake. It is a way of stealing money from me and as I was not born yesterday,  I basically told this person to fuck off.

In 15 years I have never been asked for Champagne for the room and besides the fact that we are not licensed, WTF did he expect.  He continued with quite offensive e mails because I had caught him out as the lying con man he is - and in an average year I get around 150 blatant cons - tricks to steal money from me, through e mails like this, and this Champagne is a common one I have had several times before.  
It works like this:

I receive an e mail asking if they could collect 20 bottles of this stuff from me if they can pay in advance with a credit card.  They then collect the booze and vanish and the credit card bill comes back later as stolen and I am out of pocket.

Then there is the 12 Priests who want to stay and fully pay in advance with a £4,000 extra to charge so I can send them the £4000 to cover translaters etc. and when that one turns out to be fake, I am again, out of pocket. 

Magazines that do not exist offering me an editorial on the venue if I just spend £500 on an advert and the free editorial will be a whole page...
Web sites that ask for hundreds of £ a year and you never - ever - hear from them again. The web site may be up and running but for what you have paid ,  it is a complete waste of time and does nothing for your business. ( usually gay sites ) 

I get asked if I would like to adverise on tons of gay holiday web sites full of gay friendly hotels - and it is grossly too expensive for gay venues to advertise on -  so what is the point ?   It is not,-  therefore,-  a gay site but an excuse to advertise all the corporate hotels and none of the gay venues,  and is nothing more than a con.

Tons of people claiming to be from a Tourist Office hoping to use us as a venue and what is the special offer we are prepared to offer them, what discount of commission;- and my answer is absolutely nothing;- they pay the full fee and no bonus or comission is paid by the venue ( me ) as I know exactly what they are trying to do... con me. 

I suppose some people are foolish enough and some gullible souls have found themselves in deep doodoo because of a weak moment on e mail and which they really did not mean,  but end up in the clink.    One loacl women thought a black guy offering her love all the way from Nigeria was genuine and she was so pleased in her late 60's to find love, that she parted with £68,000 to pay for immigration and lawyers so he could come and live with her here, and it beggars belief that this woman could be so lonely;-  and now she is lonely and her life savings have been stolen from her.  Really tragic. 

I could go on
as it is endless the way people try and con venues out of their money  and this guy above with his champagne was no different.   A con. A liart. A thief.   And then he actually has the timerity to leave a negative response on Trip Advisor and as usual, these anonymous reviews are never monitored correctly by TA and anyone can leave a negative response and we have absolutely no idea who these people are and their anonymity allows them the protection we are not offered as an advertised business.   I think TA should always ask for more ID before allowing a review to go public,  and I do not care how busy, how huge, how difficult this would be for them,  as they have the future of many businesses in their hands and they need to take more responsibility for their actions.



'I found the owner self obsessed, annoying, crude and offensive. I was shocked when he exsposed his genetals at breakfast and pulled down my partners pjs as he brought coffe up to our room. The room was comfortable and clean, genrally the hotel was comfortable other than the breakfast area had a funny smell, not sure what that was. It was exspencive and we had to pay extra for a cooked breakfast, there was no activity going on and given the advertisement we felt cheated. Apparently what was included was continental breakfast which apparently all purchased from Liddles. Sorry fella but we won't be visiting again.

This review came from a  couple of guys in Southampton who came during a quiet spell here and spent an age talking to me about their new breakfast cafe they are about to open in Southsmpton and all seemed fine to me. We got on well, shared a laugh and although I thought them a litle boring and uninteresting,  we chatted for ages over breakfast and they were in no hurry to leave the table  after they finnished and we talked for ages.  Then I find this on Trip Advisor and it wakes me up to the fact that some people are just so two faced, so cowardly they are too scared to talk to me about this face to face and how all they wanted was advise on running a cafe and then turned into people I wished I had never been so nice to... but then... that is my nature.

To attend an event at Hamilton Hall YOU BOOK AND PAY FOR IT and it seems they were expecting an event for no cost - as in for FREE - and that 'aint about to happen.  They came for a weekend at £160 for a double room for 2 people for 2 nights - AND THEY EXPECT AN EVENT IN THERE AS WELL... @ £40 a night each...

Quite ludicrous.

Lidl's is also not spelled that way and so what - bread from Lidl is no different to bread from Tesco so what a stupid comment.  The funny smell in the dining room was probably fresh ground coffee. In 15 years I have only offered a cooked breakfast for the last 5 years  and before that - only continental was available.  In any Best Western or Holiday Inn breakfast is an extra charge at around £10 - £15 for a standard English Breakfast - and all off a hot plate as well and not cooked fresh;-  so WTF do these queens want for their £40 a night ? 
I may be like Marmite, but to be honest,  how many of us can look in the mirror and state that everyone likes us - EVERYONE, and if you do not like me after I have donated hours of my time helping you, then you are just an asshole, a user, a vile person I would rather not have wasted my time with - and the only reason they came was to suck information out of me and then leave this kind of review on TA.  I am absolutely disgusted at how some people behave and appalled at how some suck the life out of others and then find fault with them afer all the help and guidance offered.  Absolutely disgusting couple.

There really are some nasty people about.  So - maybe I will drive up and experience their greasy spoon cafe in Southsmpton one day soon.   I can visit Ikea at the same time as I often buy my candles from there -  Want to join me for a laugh...?



When injustice becomes law,   defiance becomes duty.


Dear John: 

I was bullied and threatened by the police this week in Hammersmith,  London,  because I was filming some of the building work in Hammersmith - as I am an architect  and this is part of what I do - and when they saw I was filming they first told me to stop filming, which I refused to do;  then they insisted I show them my ID;-  which I pointed out I do not legally need to carry so could not and would not supply them with ;-  and when they asked my name and address and once again got refused as I was not committing a crime or any such thing ( I am 62 years of age and hardly a typical criminal ) they threatened me with all sorts of legal mumbo jumbo about arresting me - that I knew to be false.  The police were making up the law as they went along to scare me, but it had no affect as they were both lying through their teeth.  The police were making it up as they went along.  As much as I stated they were incorrect - they kept insisting they knew the law and so I told them point blank that they did not and that they would look very foolish if they were to ask a legal expert.  One of them kept trying to grab for my phone and by now about a dozen people had gathered around and HOORAH - many were filming what was going on.  I told the one who kept grabbing for my phone that if he even so much as touched me, I would report him for assault and that as I had plenty of witnesses - many of whom were shouting at the police by this point,  he stopped.

I am  into amateur dramatics and I have a voice that can carry a long way - and as I kept speaking lounder and louder and more and more people gathered to see what was going on,  there was eventually around 30 people standing around watching as the police kept telling me to keep my voice down as well as stop filming - and so the more people stopped.

I pointed out that in a public space - and not on private property like a shopping mall or an airport terminal, I had every right to film anything I wanted - even the police regardless of what they are doing and that they had absolutely no legal right to intimidate and bully me or anyone else into not filming.  The police were wrong - as usual - and incompetent - as is often the case - and just attempted to bully a member of the public - which caused quite a stir with all those who were standing watching.  I spoke up and told everyone what was going on  and many others got involved agreeing with me that it was not illegal and some even told the police they were comical in their uniforms and being so ignorant about the laws they are suppose to uphold.

Eventually  one of the police men got on his radio and asked headquarters ( I assume ) about the law and within a few minutes the two of them just turned and walked away and I shouted after them that they owed me an apology - and I shouted this many times as they walked away and around 35 people booed and clapped and cheered loudly - 'APOLOGISE - APOLOGISE - APOLOGISE' - as the embarrassed police withdrew with their tails between their legs like school yard bullies when a bullied kids Mother has caught them bullying and sent them packing with a flea in their ear. 

It was comical and rewarding at the same time.  I thanked the people for their support and many of us chatted for a while and it seems it had happened at a most fortuitous time as many were from some students union and were journalists on the student paper and knew this was common practice with the police and were delighted to see I stood up for myself and so joined in with the booing of the police and support of the person being bullied.  It ended being quite a giggle.

Useless John,  the poice are absolutely useless at catching real criminals and solving real crime that affects us every day people and all the while the bankers get away with legal theft of hundreds of billions and we get bullied by these  little pricks who  like to intimidate and bully innocent people
and then lie to make their case stronger.

I thought your readers might find it interesting.  Robert M.  ( Hammersmith )


Thank you Robert and I have been following this for some time and here is a youtube link that shows you exactly this same thing.



I am reminded of the recent case of the BBC filming the police driving up the motorway to raid Cliff Richards home when he was not even in the country and ket me just remind you ,  Cliff Richards was not wanted for questioning or anything at all;- no warrant for his arrest or anything - it was just sensational news and a disgraceful case of the police using the media to attempt to destroy a rich and famous man;- as we have seen so much of lately.

It use to be better when we had policeman on the beat - and we got to know our local Bobby,  but since the advent of CCTV and the anonymity of hidden police in an office somewhere watching through cameras,  we are all now assumed to be GUILTY UNTIL PROVEN INNOCENT and where the police are unable to solve even half the crimes reported and next year hope to get it up from 25 - 35% solved and I find this DISGUSTING - especially considering the bully boy attitude that would not be tollerated by anyone else.

It is fast becoming a Police State and although the USA is light years ahead with their murdering police forces,  and where we have a long way to go as most police are relatively pleasant and thoughtful people who do offer a very fine service and to the best of their abilities - sadly there are always too many bad apples that ruin it for others and it seems right from the top - there are rotten apples with an ego problem in a uniform.

John Bellamy

Your input is welcomed.


Wow John.  Your piece on the police. Well done.  I was beaten up by the police some years ago as they thought I was drunk.  When I was 27 I had a stroke which left me with a speech impediment and it does sound as if I am drunk. It also left me with walking difficulties and these policemen were completely aggressive towards me as I walked home late one night and arrested me, held me in a cell overnight, refused to listen to my story of being a non drinker and that I had had a stroke, and just took it upon themselves to bang me up and get me off the street.  The fact that I had just finnished work and was on my way home fell on deaf ears and only after seeing a lawyer and threatening to sue for harrasment and false imprisonment did they eventually send a letter claiming the two officers involved would be re trained and offered apologies.  I was also offered a £25 gift voucher from M&S which I thought a little odd.







Broadway Hotel


You really have to wonder at the stupidity of some people. How often do we read in the news that someone has come up with a crackpot scheme which is a disaster waiting to happen?

In this particular instance I am referring to the Broadway Hotel in Blackpool, which recently decided it would charge customers £100 if they posted a bad review of their stay online. First – and it’s worth pointing this out – there was a precedent that any hotelier worth his salt could have learned from. A similar scheme by a hotel in the US made major mainstream news earlier this year and resulted in the owner having to issue an apology and claim that it was a joke, but not before a lot of reputational damage had already been done. The news travelled all over the world.

Second, a hotelier whose response to negative feedback is to try to blackmail guests into silence cannot realistically be described as knowing how to run a hospitality business. If you have put on such a poor show that a guest thinks your hotel is a “filthy, dirty, rotten, stinking hovel“, then surely the first reaction should be one of alarmed introspection, not an automated card-charging exercise?  OIf you check out the Broadway Hotel in Trip Advisor you will see that every report left is damning and dreadful with a very rare compliment amnongst a tirade of complaoints from almost every reviewer.  How hotels like this are permitted to remain open is beyond me. It does no one any good.

But in the case of the Broadway Hotel, the owner or the general manager cannot be a stranger to this kind of reaction from their guests – else why does a barely-legal punitive measure such as this exist in their terms and conditions? What hotel with the remotest shred of respectability would conceive of the idea, let alone codify it in the small print?   With so many really dreadful reviews on Trip Advisor I would suggest this venue earns its income from the fines it places on guests who leave negative responses as at £100 a throw,  and if you check out Trip Advisor alone and see how many bad reports there are - the income raised must be considerable.

I hope to goodness the couple involved have the gumption to take this matter considerably further than a phone call to the local Trading Standards authority (who, incidentally, have now told the hotel in question that it is not allowedquelle surprise). Were I in their shoes, I would be exploring whether the clause was not only unfair, but constituted a form of theft, and I would be taking to every reviews website I could find to explain not only how appalling my hotel stay was, but to tell the world that this odious little policy is written into the rulebook.

Ultimately, the problem I see in this hotel’s behaviour is that that it is the diametric opposite to ‘good faith’, a social more which governs and enables good business. One hopes the authorities see fit to force the Broadway Hotel to refund every customer to which it has meted out this measure.  After all the appalling attention this has now raised for the bRoadway it is hoped the local Tourist Board, Council and whoever gives the venue its license, will think twice and will force this venue to close down - or certainly fire the management who came up with this dreadful scheme and give the venue a make over and either bring it up to basic standards or close it down - period.

This kind of story does no one in the hotel industry and favours.







I am reminded of how Transport For London tried breaking the law - bullying and intimidation to screw me of £175 for something they lied and cheated in stating was illegal when it was not, and after an 8 month written and phone called argument between us,  I WON and they REFUSED to apologise or pay compensation. Today - I would sue them.  They were claiming  money on false charges - breaking the law - claiming the law was on their sides when it was lies lies LIES - and as the mighty power of TFL is enough to make most people pay up - and not fight - they usually win - so they are no better than CRIMINALS BREAKING THE LAWE AND LEGALLY GETTING AWAY WITH IT . They are no better than scum.


Pope Francis Demotes Highest-Ranking

US Cardinal Over LGBT Issues


It's been in the news. Now it has been confirmed. As of this past weekend, Raymond Leo Burke, America's highest-ranking cardinal at the Vatican, was officially removed from the Vatican's Supreme Court, and demoted to chaplain of the Knights of Malta, where he will reign with much less responsibility. The ultra-Conservative and anti-gay cardinal, continuously challenges the jurisdiction of Pope Francis, and the Catholic Church's new receptive stance on homosexuality.

How ironic it is to find the demoted cardinal is from the United States. What does that say about America - that even the Catholic Church and a pope are ahead of so many anti-LGBT lawmakers and extremists in this country.

Weeks after taking office in 2013, Pope Francis asked, 'Who am I to judge?' speaking of the LGBT community. Since then, he has had great support for his progressive views, and of course, great opposition. Raymond Burke is one of the pope's strongest opponents. The 66 year-old Burke believes homosexuality is, 'always and everywhere wrong [and] evil,' and continuously questioned the authority of Pope Francis, now 77. Burke told Buzzfeed in October:




Thanks to Chris who told me this one - and it really works:


  1. Get a metal pot stand.  Put 3 or 4 Tea Lights - lit - in the middle together and have each one a couple of inches from the other
  2. On the top on them lower a terracotta garden pot with its bottom upwards and where the candles heat burns up the inside of the pots and not straight out of the whole at the top. 
  3. The heat of the candles will heat up the pot so you cannot even touch it and the heat from just 3 or 4 small Tea Lights will warm the whole room. 

Be careful with candles and never leave to burn without supervision or where children, the elderly or pets can knock them over;-  and not in a draughty location. 

If using Tea Lights NOT on some kind of metal or glass stand, then ALWAYS put them on a solid surface - NOT PLASTIC - as Tea Lights will melt down through the plastic and set fires.  They become extremly hot - hotter than a lot of people realize. 

Always put them in a safe countainer when alight and always take care with naked flames in the home.

I have been using one for the last couple of weeks and I have noticed I can turn down the heating in my own private lounge as it actually has been getting too hot and is a wonderful way of heating the place without paying a fortune to the gas and electric companies that are so screwing us all. 


click above to read all about this dangerous legislation



Nothing to do with Eurovision - but this song HAPPY is well worth watching
and tapping your feet to. You will recognise it. Click on the picture of Pharrell Williams below

If you put HAPPY into youtube it will come up with scores of people from all over the world with their own videos of this song and their own dancing to it,  and there are tons to choose from and many really well done. It seems millions have accepted and love this song and it seems to be the song of 2014 already.



Eighty-eight thousand deaths a year?
One in 10 people in America die from alcohol abuse each year.




US Secretary of State, John Kerry representing a country which makes Genghis Khan look like a wimp when it comes to illegal invasions, still retains the prize for jaw dropper of the decade:

"You just don't, in the 21st century, behave in 19th century fashion by invading another country on completely trumped up pretext", he pontificated on CBS' "Face the Nation." 

It really is enough to take your breath away,- the gall of this idiot.  Does he assume we are all idiots ?





How to Live with No Regrets

Living a life free of regrets involves letting go. It involves letting go of the would-have, should-have, could-have mentality. Dwelling on how you could have lived differently is detrimental to your spirit. Sometimes we do the best we can with the knowledge we have at the time. Frequently the wrong choices bring us to the right places. Make the choice now to forgive yourself, as the world needs the best of you. You cannot give your best when you dwell on past hurts or perceived mistakes…




The following BOURNEBATERS poll is now closed. Here are the
final results:



- YES, 19 votes, 41.30%
- NO, 14 votes, 30.43%
- INDIFFERENCE TO SEX, 1 votes, 2.17%

For more information about this group, please visit




'We have all been in abusive relationships, and sometimes we were the one being abused.'

Marianne Williams










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