Friday January 30 , 2015


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  is just another con

I was offewred a free listing on YELL.COM and then the spam mail started in vengance.  I soon found out that may have offered me a free listing - which is of absolutely no use to me whatsoever - but what was actually doing was collecting e mail addresses which they then sell on to busioness on a disc with up to 90,000 other addresses - and this is an abuse.
It was not explained to me that this was what they were up to - and it was not what I wanted at all.

So watch out when offered anything for free,  as there will be a con attached and one in which has not answered even afer 4 e mails from me and silly answers from them where all they do is state they will remove me from their free listing but my e mail address remains in their data base for selling.

This is against the data protection act and I shall be reporting them.




I have put various signs on our front fence for the passing public to read,  offering help to any elderly person during the winter months if the weather is too bad and the streets too slippery for an elderly person to get to the shops, and we will shop for some
basics for them.  They will pay for what we buy but our service is free and from the heart and it does state,  that we can also help with some of our own stock from Hamilton Hall as I always keep plenty of tinned soups,  beans,   porridge,  long life milk,  bread and other basics in house and willingly share with an elderly person if they are house bound and the social services cannot get around because of the weather.

It may be 45 minutes out of my day - and it may be a cuppa and a chat with someone who is desperately lonely and who has not seen anyone for days, and just think how your heart will feel when they beam a smile at you in gratitude.




This was the initial e mail from a customer through this web site:

'Hi have you any more spaces for two fabulous people this Christmas? If not then how about dates in January 2015 that would be suffice. Also can you send me some information on your hotel as I do not have time to trawl through your labyrinth maze of a website. Also this is going to be surprise for my truly remarkable young man I would like a nice bottle Krug Rosé Brut NV Champagne and arrange some flowers, chocolates on arrival etc. Look forward to your response with price and more information on your gay hotel. Also is payment discrete as I have to be careful and prudent in one's actions as one is married. Your hotel and staff need to be wise and discrete in handling practical matters; exercising good judgment or common sense thank you,  BT'

This e mail shocked me when the author turned into a vile malicious asshole - and I knew it was fake as the champagne is £255 a bottle in Waitrose and they expect a small hotel like ours to have this in stock ? It beggars belief., More to the point, this is one of the oldest cons in the business. It is fake. It is a way of stealing money from me and as I was not born yesterday,  I basically told this person to fuck off.

In 15 years I have never been asked for Champagne for the room and besides the fact that we are not licensed, WTF did he expect.  He continued with quite offensive e mails because I had caught him out as the lying con man he is - and in an average year I get around 150 blatant cons - tricks to steal money from me, through e mails like this, and this Champagne is a common one I have had several times before.  
It works like this:

I receive an e mail asking if they could collect 20 bottles of this stuff from me if they can pay in advance with a credit card.  They then collect the booze and vanish and the credit card bill comes back later as stolen and I am out of pocket.

Then there is the 12 Priests who want to stay and fully pay in advance with a £4,000 extra to charge so I can send them the £4000 to cover translaters etc. and when that one turns out to be fake, I am again, out of pocket. 

Magazines that do not exist offering me an editorial on the venue if I just spend £500 on an advert and the free editorial will be a whole page...
Web sites that ask for hundreds of £ a year and you never - ever - hear from them again. The web site may be up and running but for what you have paid ,  it is a complete waste of time and does nothing for your business. ( usually gay sites ) 

I get asked if I would like to adverise on tons of gay holiday web sites full of gay friendly hotels - and it is grossly too expensive for gay venues to advertise on -  so what is the point ?   It is not,-  therefore,-  a gay site but an excuse to advertise all the corporate hotels and none of the gay venues,  and is nothing more than a con.

Tons of people claiming to be from a Tourist Office hoping to use us as a venue and what is the special offer we are prepared to offer them, what discount of commission;- and my answer is absolutely nothing;- they pay the full fee and no bonus or comission is paid by the venue ( me ) as I know exactly what they are trying to do... con me. 

I suppose some people are foolish enough and some gullible souls have found themselves in deep doodoo because of a weak moment on e mail and which they really did not mean,  but end up in the clink.    One loacl women thought a black guy offering her love all the way from Nigeria was genuine and she was so pleased in her late 60's to find love, that she parted with £68,000 to pay for immigration and lawyers so he could come and live with her here, and it beggars belief that this woman could be so lonely;-  and now she is lonely and her life savings have been stolen from her.  Really tragic. 

I could go on
as it is endless the way people try and con venues out of their money  and this guy above with his champagne was no different.   A con. A liart. A thief.   And then he actually has the timerity to leave a negative response on Trip Advisor and as usual, these anonymous reviews are never monitored correctly by TA and anyone can leave a negative response and we have absolutely no idea who these people are and their anonymity allows them the protection we are not offered as an advertised business.   I think TA should always ask for more ID before allowing a review to go public,  and I do not care how busy, how huge, how difficult this would be for them,  as they have the future of many businesses in their hands and they need to take more responsibility for their actions.


   Auschwitz 70th anniversary

Auschwitz concentration camp  in Poland

Auschwitz concentration camp was a network of German Nazi concentration camps and extermination camps built and operated by the Third Reich in Polish areas annexed by Nazi Germany during World War II.  It covered over 40 square km and I doubt there is anyone on the planet who has not heard of this place.

The museum which has been made from some areas that are still standing - as the buildings were not built to last 70 years as the Nazis assumed they would be finnished within just a short time period,   has long struggled to find funding for its upkeep, though the the Auschwitz-Birkenau Foundation recently said it had almost reached its goal of raising an endowment of more than $150m (£100m).

On the eve of the anniversary, ( January 27th 2015 ) German Chancellor Angela Merkel drew attention to discrimination against Jews in contemporary Europe, saying it was a "disgrace" that Jews faced insults, threats and violence in Germany.   "We've got to fight anti-Semitism and all racism from the outset," she said at a memorial event in Berlin.  "We've got to constantly be on guard to protect our freedom, democracy and rule of law."

I watched a moving BBC1 report this lunchtime concerning this event where it is thought the last remaining survivers would meet at this years gathering and could be the last large scale gathering,-   as people are now elderly and the whole experience must be harrowing for them so many years after the event;- to have carried and lived with those memories, those sights, those feelings within their mind, body and soul - that horror,   that no man or woman should ever have to bare witness to.

It was mentioned over and over about the Jews that were killed and it was briefly touched upon how tens of thousands of gypsies, disabled - physically and mentally -  and homosexuals,   were rounded up and executed in the various camps and - somehow - it is about time the world recognised how many gay men and women were put to their deaths simply for being homosexual.   The concentration of attention has always been geared around the Jews, and considering the numbers slaughtered were considerably more jews than any other minority race - it is understandable, but we must not allow the other minority groups butchered here to be forgotten and overshaddowed by the Jews.
Thousands of gay men were in the various concentration camps and to be honest,  I know very little about how many lesbians or transgender also came under the umbrella of undesireables - in need of execution,  and this is lacking in my knowledge. 

Regardless,  who ever died here - and who ever these people were,  this kind of madness continues today around the world;- maybe not on such a massive scale, but ethnic cleansing and murder of certain cultures and religious idealogies continues globally and in many different cultures who seem to have vengance over someone elses lifestyle,  and the world still does very little to stop this unless the country in question has oil - and it seems that while the constant quotes we hear are ' WE MUST NEVER FORGET' - and 'THIS MUST NEVER BE ALLOWED TO HAPPEN AGAIN' - it seems many still do turn their backs, and while horrified about what happened at places like Auschwitz - assuming modern day politics and mankind beyond such horrors in the 21st century is naive, and assuming only cultures and ideologies like ISIS capable ( where we see beheadings on youtube etc )  we need to open our eyes and our consciousness to allow a true view of the horrors done in the name of democracy and how so many countries are guilty of horrors and crimes against humanity. 

If you know of stories of homosexuals in any of the concentration camps - do let us know.  These brave men and women went through horrors for simply being different to ' the norm' and as our LGBT identity homogonises in with the straight world and we loose our history ( which we need to keep alive - just as the memory of Auschwitz needs to be kept alive ) future generations must have that knowledge available and it must never be forgotten.  It is a lesson to us all as we see our young LGBT brothers and sisters growing in a world ( at least here in the UK ) where many are completely ignorant as to the history, the horrors and the lifestyle that so many from our community went through so that the youth of today could be free from prejudice, harrasment and murder - just for being themselves,  and we cannot - should not - MUST NOT - forget.

When I re read this after putting it together, it did dramatically lower my mood and bring tears to my eyes - and it did make me aware that whatever we worry about today - whatever is wrong in our lives and whatever is going on on this planet - the madness - the wars - the price of oil and the worry about an election looming - at least we are - basically - free - to live our lives free as LGBT people and while we may still suffer from the occasional homophobic ignorant rant,  we are free and we have legal rights - and it saddens me that there are still so many countries ( around 70 odd ) where being gay is illegal and persecution and harrasment, jail and even death are metered out by the authorities against innocent people - out of ignorance - fear - biblical misreading of the word of God and where most religions use the word from their holy books to damn and destroy those they fear - and it seems gay men are hugely feared in the past as much as today - and persecuted. 

We must never be arrogant and assume the fight for equality is over - as it most certainly is not.

I send a prayer for all those who have carried those horrific memories for so many years within themselves and I hope and I pray we can enlighten those who still live in fear - still persecute and still run around spreading their fear mongering to the less evolved amongst us and who continue to bully and murder those who have simply been born different.

I pray that humanity wakes up, grows up, and starts to act in a reasonable and mature manner towards our fellow man and women and not out of fear, but with love.

John Bellamy

After writing the piece above - I went out in the garden briefly to look at the spring flowers starting to make an appearance and although a cold and gray day,  life is coming up out of the ground and a few are even flowering already.  I looked at the Camelia bush that stands 12 feet tall and is absolutely covered in buds about to flower and the 3 or 4 that have opened with their bright red colour and the delight it brings - and I was aware that nothing stops,  nothing really dies - it just changes form and continues in another reality - and as I do not believe in death - but a re birth into a different realm of existance - I celebrate those who have come before - and  those who will come after - and that I - WE - are all part of the cycle that continues regardless of what we have for dinner or the price of beans in Tesco.  We are all a part of the human family and I sincerely hope we all pull together to make this a beautiful day - and one day after another - year in and year out - continue to live in harmony and understanding of all our differences and respect and value each others differences - peacefully and with understanding.




We have been having some really wonderful weather down here this week ( late January 2015 ) with bright and sunn y days, and yesterday I took my dog for a long walk around Christchurch Golf Course which has some truly stunning views over Hengisbury Head, th sea and vast areas full of horses and swans - yauchts moored and so much beauty - and with the bright sunshine on the  water and the vast open sky blue above,  it rally is a wonderful season to be alive.  It is cold, but far from freezing and I am wrapped up warm and the dog and I enjoyed a really lovely hour in the fresh air together.



When injustice becomes law,   defiance becomes duty.


Pope Francis Demotes Highest-Ranking

US Cardinal Over LGBT Issues


It's been in the news. Now it has been confirmed. As of this past weekend, Raymond Leo Burke, America's highest-ranking cardinal at the Vatican, was officially removed from the Vatican's Supreme Court, and demoted to chaplain of the Knights of Malta, where he will reign with much less responsibility. The ultra-Conservative and anti-gay cardinal, continuously challenges the jurisdiction of Pope Francis, and the Catholic Church's new receptive stance on homosexuality.

How ironic it is to find the demoted cardinal is from the United States. What does that say about America - that even the Catholic Church and a pope are ahead of so many anti-LGBT lawmakers and extremists in this country.

Weeks after taking office in 2013, Pope Francis asked, 'Who am I to judge?' speaking of the LGBT community. Since then, he has had great support for his progressive views, and of course, great opposition. Raymond Burke is one of the pope's strongest opponents. The 66 year-old Burke believes homosexuality is, 'always and everywhere wrong [and] evil,' and continuously questioned the authority of Pope Francis, now 77. Burke told Buzzfeed in October:




Thanks to Chris who told me this one - and it really works:


  1. Get a metal pot stand.  Put 3 or 4 Tea Lights - lit - in the middle together and have each one a couple of inches from the other
  2. On the top on them lower a terracotta garden pot with its bottom upwards and where the candles heat burns up the inside of the pots and not straight out of the whole at the top. 
  3. The heat of the candles will heat up the pot so you cannot even touch it and the heat from just 3 or 4 small Tea Lights will warm the whole room. 

Be careful with candles and never leave to burn without supervision or where children, the elderly or pets can knock them over;-  and not in a draughty location. 

If using Tea Lights NOT on some kind of metal or glass stand, then ALWAYS put them on a solid surface - NOT PLASTIC - as Tea Lights will melt down through the plastic and set fires.  They become extremly hot - hotter than a lot of people realize. 

Always put them in a safe countainer when alight and always take care with naked flames in the home.

I have been using one for the last couple of weeks and I have noticed I can turn down the heating in my own private lounge as it actually has been getting too hot and is a wonderful way of heating the place without paying a fortune to the gas and electric companies that are so screwing us all. 


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Eighty-eight thousand deaths a year?
One in 10 people in America die from alcohol abuse each year.




US Secretary of State, John Kerry representing a country which makes Genghis Khan look like a wimp when it comes to illegal invasions, still retains the prize for jaw dropper of the decade:

"You just don't, in the 21st century, behave in 19th century fashion by invading another country on completely trumped up pretext", he pontificated on CBS' "Face the Nation." 

It really is enough to take your breath away,- the gall of this idiot.  Does he assume we are all idiots ?



The following BOURNEBATERS poll is now closed. Here are the
final results:



- YES, 19 votes, 41.30%
- NO, 14 votes, 30.43%
- INDIFFERENCE TO SEX, 1 votes, 2.17%

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'We have all been in abusive relationships, and sometimes we were the one being abused.'

Marianne Williams











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