Wednesday September 24 , 2014









I often see these awards and think - well - who voted that the best pub / club / gay venue - as no one asked me and who voted it the best ???   ... and consider it all a load of bollocks to get you to spend more money in their bar.  Trip Advisor;-  while I say they are tossers and a waste of time - this certificate of excellence is an award because of the amount of positive feedback we have received from those who have stayed here and THAT is wonderful and I am proud and thrilled about that.  Compared to many other venues, we could easily be a 3 or 4 star B&B but I do not buy into the tourist board schemes which - again - are just money spinners for the council - and I do not waste my money with something that has such little meaning. 

66% of visitors attend alone.
22% attend  with a partner / friend
6% come on business




I have been asked if it would be an idea to out on a weekend for guys into wearing ladies stockings and panties etc. and thought I would ask for your input before I plan and advertise something that might not work.  So how would those of you who like this kind of fetish - enjoy a whole weekend to bring along your undies collection and parade for everyone else for the weekend.

Do let me know what you think.



Just made a doctors appointment, and was horrified to see I cannot get an appointment for almost 3 weeks.  Just as well it is not urgent or dire and I will have to suffer the pains of Gout for a while longer and hope it does not spread any further than it has already.  I find that appalling service - absolutely dreadful service - when you think a GP earns more than an MP - CONSIDERABLY MORE - and it takes almost 3 weeks to get an appointment ???  It definately seems the NHS is in need of some decent managament and half of those in managament at the moment obviously need replacing with those who can do the job in a more efficient and competant manner.


Birthday Boy

Stuart turned 71 this week and we had a roast chicken dinner here at Hammy Hall to celebrate with a Birthday Cake and everything, and then watched X Factor - ( how sad are we... )  Stuart is a regular customer here - coming at least 7 or 8 times a year  and just about everyone knows him by now.  I tease the crap out of him, always taking the piss and saying some funny something about him, to him, and he just laughs, although when I tease him about eating and being fat and this not being good for his health and how he needs to diet, he knows what I am saying to be true and I do keep on at him as he seems not to bother watching his weight and his health problems but complains all the time... so - if you do nothing about loosing weight,  you have no right to complain either.  So Happy Birthday Stuart... 71 years young.



I have a black eye at the moment. My left eye is quite bruised from an encounter the other day and while it started out as a laugh and fun it ended with me holding my eye and moaning about the pain ( butch - NOT... )  and this came about not because I was involved in a  fight with someone or anything as tough,  but from enjoying a game with my dog and she head butted me twice in the same eye within seconds - and she appeared not to feel a thing - talk about a head like a brick  - while I was on the floor... moaning...
The next day a huge bruise had come up and my sweet lovie dog seems not to care a toss that she hurt me... BITCH ...  and is unaware of her actions, she was more concerned I had stopped playing with her...
I will survive..

The full moon on September 9th 2014 affected me like it has never done before. I awoke in the night with a stinking headache and so took some tablets with a couple of biscuits ( so not on an empty stomach ) and within half an hour I was throwing up in the toilet - quite violently,  and groaned back  in bed afterwards in pain as I had just thrown up the pain killers and so had to tollerate the headache.  Hours slowly ticked by until I had to get up and do breakfast here and luckily Shaun was here ( my staff member ) and I had a half banana and then left him to do brekkie for me and went back to bed taking some more tablets with the banana and as before, violently threw it all up again... and spent until 10am in bed - which is unheard of for me - and did awaken with headache gone but shakey for the rest of the day - and so spent a couple of hours in the afternoon relaxing and sleeping to gain my energy levels back.
Three friends came by the next day and all 3 had had exactly the same thing through the night - headache  and throwing up - and I wondered if the Full Moon had anything to do with it as while I do get headaches often,  it was unusual to be that bad and to throw up twice - which coincidentally - we had all done.
So maybe it was the Super Full Moon ( not seen for another 13 months )  and whether the vibration / energy created by it - somehow upset us all,  I shall never know,  but for someone who is generally in good health ( I take no meds for anything and at nearly 60,  I don't know anyone whop is not on meds for something or other ) and whjile I do get headaches and tummy tropubles, arthritus and other aches and pains, I am generally fit and in good shape for my advanced age ( ha ha - boo hoo )  so shall watch out for the next full moon and pray it was a one of occurance as it is not elegant with your head down the loo throwing up and hearing the groaning  sounds echoing up from the toilet pan - and the taste in my throat seemed to linger throughout the day regardless of eating and drinking...  Not fun... Not serious but still not fun.  It really makes me appreciate and value good health.



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Thought you might like to see these e mails to and from Hammy Hall.  

It did make me laugh.


To Hamilton Hall :-    ' If I come to see any of your clients in the hotel do I have to pay anything?'

My Answer: :- 'I have no idea what you are talking about … . in plain English please.'

His answer :- 'In plain English: Can I come to your Hotel and have sex with your clients (I expect your clients to pay me) You can not expect me to pay for anything as I am short of money.'

My answer :-  'In plain English - FUCK OFF'





It is such a shame when someone turns into a vile bitchy queen,  obnoxious and agressive, doesn't listen and repeats the same old crap over and over and over and who will not listen and will not calm down and will not respect others and will not behave - after they have had a few drinks.  Personally I dislike drunks. I dislike their whole demeaneur even if giggly and fun.  I especially dislike it when they are too ' in your face'  and will not take no for an answer and will not leave you alone and back off... and last night I had to have a little talk with someone over their behaviour and again this morning as it is not fun for me and when other guests mention it over breakfast and when I find out how others were disturbed by it, then I know it is time to take action and control the situation before it gets out of hand. 
A lame apology was eventually forthcoming but only after a severe talk from myself,  and we shall see if the good guy returns or the bad guy - as the bad guy will be told to leave if he cannot behave himself.  We all want a pleasant few days and my guests deserve the best that we can offer and when one individual with attitude spoils it for the others,  then this individual obviously has a need, a desperate need, for attention at any cost,  and this is where the therapist side of me kicks in and recognises various signs and where I put my therapist hat on ( so to speak )  - and tell people to behave.  Bit like a strong Mother figure... 

Sadly this individual ' had a go' at several people staying and most left the room every time he came in and he became the talking point of the weekend - with much fun and laughter spoken about him behind his back,  as everyone was gobsmacked at his vile attituide, rude manner and agressivness.  He was not physically threatening,  just one of those gobby vile queens who sees life in a very distorted and disturbing way compared to just about everyone else and this attempt to ruin the weekend for everyone else backfired on him as everyone just walked out and ignored him.

One evening everyone was playing a game in the lounge and slowly everyone left and came up to my apartment where we sat and watched a movie together and chilled, laughed and generally had fun and it was some time later they shared with me that they had come up because they wanted to get away from ' the man'  and while this made me giggle,  I did feel sorry for a man who did not know how to behave to such a degree that he and his lover were abaondoned by just about everyone as they simply didn't like being with them.

I had words twice with the guys partner and told him the full facts and he even said he had wondered why everyone had left the lounge the night before and wondered where everyone had  gone and how they were left alone all evening, and I had to make sure he knew the exact reason, as if he cannot get through to Mr. Vile' then the man will never learn and grow and improve.

So - not being afraid to speak up - I did - and it is doubtful anything will change,  but it is a very long time ago since I met a more vile gay man who everyone grew to dislike intensley.  Booze was part of the story and a fucked up individual was a large part of it as well.

Luckily,  this is very rare at Hammy Hall and I sincerely hope he hears what was said and makes some changes or he will end up a very lonely and sad old man with no friends.


I have  also become very aware this summer how many people assume I only have one e mail or one phone call per day to answer - theirs - and that when they phone I should know who they are, what they are talking about and everything that may have been mentioned in an e mail - one of between 50 - 100 received every day - and was probably answered hours beforehand.
Telling me how to run my business is going to get my goat.  Telling me how you intend doing business with me regardless of how I choose to do business is going to irritate and when I state my case, clear and honest,  they seem to think I am rude for ignoring their input when they have utterly and completely ignored my business accumen and how I actually do business and they have told me how they intend to proceed with absolutely no consideration for me at all,  and I do not stand for it. 

WTF planet are these guys from.

Try making a hotel booking at the Savoy in London - or book a flight on BA and see how quickly the booking is made when you state you do not have a credit card but will pay cash on the day / on arrival, and that yes - you are honest and genuine and yes, you can be trusted - honestly ... and either they consider the world to be an absolute idiot or they assume I am, and naturally, they get told we do not do business this way and the attitude I get in return is often breath taking in its attitude towards me.

I appreciate a lot of married men are worried about being found out and wish to remain anonymous;-   but I also am considerate of my customers safety and security in the building and I need confirmed bookings from everyone to add to that security and protection.  Last evening a customer opened the front door to a complete stranger who was ringing the front door bell and who hadn't considered the ramification of what he was doing - especially as I was on my way down to answer the door -  and how this complete stranger could have been anyone;-   a queer basher - the vice squad, an abusive homophobe -  or a vouyeur who just wants to come in and see some naked men - and it could have been anyone - and while we have never - ever - had any problems like this - the customer who opened the front door didn't know this and not only that, when opening the door my dog went out and he had absolutely no control over trying to get my dog back in.  I gently told him not to do this again and he was completely taken-aback at why I was teklling him off gently and I had to point out some of the above facts to him and bring him into awareness of his stupidity in someone elses venue.

If I come to your home and you are busy somewhere, I am not about to answer your phone if it rings unless you tell me to - or answer your front door to a complete stranger without your permission and I MOST CERTAINLY would not invade your privacy and allow strangers I do not know in to your home even if they do say they are your friends, as I don't know them.

The mind boggles - it really does.




It is the most amateurish and incompetent company I have ever had the misfortune to expect a delivery from.

After telling them I am NOT HOME BETWEEN 1 - 5pm - take a guess what time they tried delivering a parcel here - go on - guess...

Yup that is right - Between the very hours I told them I was not available.  Actually at 2pm.

When I complain, which you have to find a number from their web site as there is nothing at all on the card they post through your door,  I got condescending and rude attitude from Customer Care and told there was nothing they could do to change things and the parcel would be returned to the sender if I was not there all day to receive it - or collect it myself from their depot, which is miles away and why the hell should I - they have been paid to deliver a parcel so I expect it delivered in a competent and professional manner, sadly, something UKMail are unable to offer.


I never got my parcel and hile I have no idea who it was from or what it was,  UK Mail's arrogance and bed customer service was paramount in this.  They kept claiming the sender needed to upgrade his contract with them so they can deliver at different times and this is just bullshit to me. The copmpany failed to deliver a parcel - especially as they were instructed what times I WAS NOT AVAILABLE, and they still screwed it up.






I watched a cringey youtube video about 'X MEN AND THE GAY AGENDA' through the films ' X MEN' (  CLICK HERE AND WATCH IT NOW ) and how the director had sex with young boys and raped them as part of the gay agenda to turn young boys gay, and I have never ever heard anything so absurd. WHAT THE FUCK IS A GAY AGENDA ?  I have been an out gay man for alomst 50 years. I have run various gay organisations, gay business' and even worked for 20 years in the sex industry - involved with thousands of people over the years and not once, never ever - have I ever heard of a hidden gay agenda and it seems it must come from the straights who are convinced we are about to brainwash all young boys and take over the world - or something.

I must point out here that paedophilia is predominately straight - about 90% straight - and not gay at all,  yet the straights do like to scream and holla about gay men screwing young boys and in all my years I have only ever met one man who had been convicted for having a wank with a teenage boy and he as a little odd - as in he was not the sharpest pencil in the box - or to the point, he had special needs mentally himself. 

What is this gay agenda that the straight world seems to transfixed with that we gay people know absolutely nothing about - and when you say this - all they can say is that we are lying, living in denial,  hiding the truth from the people,   when the truth is - there is no gay agenda any more than there is an agenda by gay men to take over the world and turn all men gay - or for gay men to fly to the moon and make it a gay macca or any other ludicrous ideology created out of warped minds bent on some kind of fear based rhetoric that has - in many ways - been used for centuries to damn and destroy people they fear - and why do they fear gay man - 

It REALLY is about time these scared little boys grew up and turned their attention to the mass murder and mayhem their own governments are  doing in Iraq and Afghanistan and how even America is now getting into bed with their own worst enemy, the one country they claim is the creation of all evils and all terrorism ( no - not America itself although you wouldn't be far wrong ) but Iran.  Let's concentrate on truth here and not the fear based crap that so many like to throw about that is precisely that - CRAP.

Now:  If you know something about a gay agenda that I have been missing for the last 50 years - other than we demand equality and acceptance just like black, asian, aboriginal and Essex people have been demanding for decades ( just joking about those from Essex... )  then PLEASE enlighten me , but be honest, be truthful and above all, be adult and  do not approach your thoughts through your dick or through fear but through rational adult and educated input of honesty.  Anything else is just dangerous and unenlightened.




Now that the summer is over we are allowed with the dog on the beach again and she just loves it... hates the water --- but loves the sand and running around.
Any day you fancy a glorious walk with me and my dog, usually around 1pm,  just pop on by and you are very welcome to join us and we can chat and share a laugh while we take in some beautiful scenery somewhere, not necissarily the ebach, as Bournemouth has tons of stunning places to walk a dog.










Julian Assange's dramatic arrival at the Ecuadorian embassy

The news today is about how Julian Assagne has been holled up in the embassy for 2 years at a cost of around £11,000 a day to tax payers to keep a police presence outside in case he tries to leave.


£70,000 a week from tax payers money.

Remember guys:  This man is only wanted for questioning - THAT IS ALL - to answer questions on trumped up charges of rape.  I do not see the government paying out millions of £ looking for other people who have not been proven guilty, have no warrants out for their arrest or anything else illegal - he is only wanted FOR QUESTIONING by Sweden... THAT IS ALL,   and we all know it is because America wants to get their hands on him because he has shown the world what a criminal and immoral government it has and they wish to silence him and hide their guilt.

This is absolute madness.  I fully support this man and all wistleblowers who expose government corruption and abuses and this is another government abuse - wasting so much money - OUR MONEY - and over 2 years that is over £7 MILLION - and for what ?

The USA want this man. Period. I do NOT believe the trumped up charhges against this man - it is just an excuse for the US government to bully its way around the globe and shut up anyone who tells the public the evils they are getting up to. 




On November 1 2014 we have a major problem ! The British parliament loses the right to legislate over us in 43 very important areas, the British parliament will have to seek approval from the EU for any laws they wish to pass on those 43 areas. The British Parliament also loses the right of veto over those areas. Those areas are as follows:

1)Administrative cooperation, 2)Asylum, 3)Border Controls, 4)Citizens initiative regulations, 5)Civil Protection, 6)Committee of the regions, 7)Common Defence Policy, 8)Crime prevention incentives, 9)Criminal judicial cooperation, 10)Criminal Law,   11)Culture, 12)Diplomatic judicial cooperation, 13)Economic Social Committee, 14) Emergency International aid, 15)Energy, 16)EU Budget, 17)Eurojust, 18)European Central Bank, 19)European Court of Justice, 20)Europol,  21)Eurozone external representation, 22)Foreign Affairs High Representation Election, 23)Freedom of Movement of Workers, 24)Freedom to Establish a Business, 25)Freedom, Security, Justice, cooperation & evaluation policy, 26)Funding the Common Foreign & Security Policy, 27)General economic interest services, 28)Humanitarian Aid, 29)Immigration, 30)Intellectual property,
31) Organisation of the Council of the EU, 32)Police cooperation, 33)President of the European Council election, 34)Response to natural disaster & terrorism, 35)Rules concerning the Armaments Agency, 36)Self-employment rights, 37)Social Security Unanimity, 38)Space, 39)Sport, 40)Structural & Cohesion Funds, 41)Tourism, 42)Transport, 43)Withdrawal of a member state


After UKIP won a resounding success in the recent elections,  barely a week goes by before the EU is demanding billions more from the UK to pay towards those corrupt countries who have screwed the system within Europe and now expect the UK to cough up more billions to help them out of the shit they put themselves into through fraud and corruption.   IT ABSOLUTELY BEGGARS BELIEF and either the EU commision is having a laugh at us and assume we are absolute assholes, - or they are the assholes with absolutely no idea what is going on in the real world.

When a country shows quite clearly that it wants out of Europe - or at least some radical changes made - and they then completely ignore this and slam a huge extra charge against us - either they are just fucking morons or this is deliberate - and whatever it may be -   I am now questioning the EU and how it is run and the corruption and blatant fraud and question why we are paying so many billions into this boys club that sees fit to throw this kind of abuse at the UK.




Love spending the day in  the garden - siting geting the sun - and with this spectacular weather lately, I get as much as I can, which is not a lot as I have work to do, but this morning look what I found at the bottom of the garden growing in the bushes..... and I have to say it was a surprise to me as I thought it was going to be a Sun Flower yet this weedy thing grew up instead.

To hell with tomatoes and lettuce - I think I know what I want to grow every year from now on... 

Now, I am not sure what I should do with this example of flowemanhood - maybe pick it and put it in a vase of water and take it to my bedroom and see how it can brighten my evenings...  or set it free to grow and roam where it wants - or keep it prisoner for my enjoyment only.

WTF am I going on about ?  Too much sun perhaps ?  Whatever;-   He is quite a catch.  Just wish he really was in my garden...

Ah well, time to get naked and get some sun.  It is so nice now the summer is here and that long wet - but mild - winter is over. Pray for long hot sunny days and warm evenings where we keep windpows open all the time and enjoy the fresh sea breeze through the house and enjoy the smells of the ocean, flowers and summer.

That leaf he is holding is not that big though.....




Drag Queen Panti Bliss's

viral homophobia speech

6 February 2014 Last updated at 22:03 GMT

An impassioned speech by an Irish drag queen about what constitutes homophobia has been viewed more than 300,000 times on YouTube, prompting thousands of comments.

Panti Bliss was already an icon of Ireland's gay scene, but her profile has just rocketed. In a speech at the Abbey Theatre in Dublin at the weekend, Panti spoke of the "oppression" she feels as a gay person living in Ireland - including her own sense of internalised oppression.

Filmed by Conor Horgan





an amazing lyric and video about gay love



The world only beats a path to your door when you're in the bathroom.

This amazing video of 4 black swans surfing the tide 



When I'm finally holding all the right cards, everyone wants to play chess.


It was a whole lot easier to get older than it was to get wiser.






This is so sweet, a dog who discovers he doesn't have to swim





Dear John

Geoff and I visisted Hamilton Hall many times over the years and you will remember how we hated leaving at the end of the various periods with you,  and always looked forward to the next visit.  Geoff died recently as he had been ill for some time  and knew for the last few years that he was terminal and while we kept this to ourselves,  we were determined to make his last year or so memorable.  

He loved his stays with you and the way you made us laugh.  He loved the dinners around the table together and how you kept the conversation going. He always laughed and smiled when we spoke of you at home and when something happened that reminded us of you, he would say  ' Oh that's a John Bellamy that is ...'  

Geoff was 66 years of age and I will miss him dearly and know,  that at the moment, I cannot return to Hamilton Hall as it has too many memories for me.  One day in a year or so I shall see you again but the memories are still too close and I need some space to find my journey alone and without Geoff ( we were together for 18 years )  and see where my future takes me.

I thank you John for what you have given so freely - the love and support for so many people through Hamilton Hall and know that a lot of happy memories that died with Geoff are now joined with a higher power - and that one day I shall also be re joining Geoff on that journey, but before then I wanted to say thank you for everything.  




Tony Bray died just before Christmas, and I shall miss him.  He was a good and dear friend who visited and loved Hamilton Hall and would sit in the Conservatory meeting and greeting people as they came and went and everyone loved his peaceful and charming manner.  He was 79 years of age and a real sweetheart.    He will be missed, dearly missed.








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