Friday November 28 , 2014









I often see these awards and think - well - who voted that the best pub / club / gay venue - as no one asked me and who voted it the best ???   ... and consider it all a load of bollocks to get you to spend more money in their bar.  Trip Advisor;-  while I say they are tossers and a waste of time - this certificate of excellence is an award because of the amount of positive feedback we have received from those who have stayed here and THAT is wonderful and I am proud and thrilled about that.  Compared to many other venues, we could easily be a 3 or 4 star B&B but I do not buy into the tourist board schemes which - again - are just money spinners for the council - and I do not waste my money with something that has such little meaning. 

66% of visitors attend alone.
22% attend  with a partner / friend
6% come on business




I have been having so much fun - well kind of - picking up all the Chestnuts I have found in certain parks locally and scoring ,  boiling and then peeling them ready for Chestnut Stuffing / Ice Cream and especially for the pies I experimented with this week ready for Christmas which was Mincemeat, tinned Pear and Chestnuts in pastry,   and they were delicious 

Now I know you can buy tins of Chestnuts from any supermarket for around £2.50 and for the amount, it is pobably cheaper when you consider all the time involved,  BUT it is so nice to find something that grows locally and that you can collect for free and cook yourself and get so much more enjoyment out of - and knowing that you did this yourself and not just taken from a can.

It does hurt the hands - and it does all take a rather long time to do,  and I can think of tons of things I would rather be doing,  but it is enjoyable when - at Christmas - to tell people these are locally picked and cooked chestnuts and that you have done it all yourself and it does make me feel a little pleased  and content and  laugh when I remember the asshole who left a report on a web site a year ago that stated :-

'Hamilton Hall is dirty filthy, the food is all microwaved food slopped on a plate and the owner (me) is a neurotic fucked up mess that is in need of some serious therapy '-   and I resent the comment about my food being microwaved food slopped on a plate... ha ha Oh the neurotic bit - ha ha --- probably true but that does not worry me, insulting my food and the time and effort taken - does irritate and annoy,  and I love that comment and repeat it to people often and we share a laugh...

I bought some Quails this week as a test for the Christmas menu,  but I think they are far too small and far too expensive - so tonight we are having some with dinner to see how we get on with them,  but I think they are just too small and too expensive,  and as the last time I had quail was in Mexico years ago when they told me it was chicken and I assumed it was sparrow,  I am sure we shall enjoy.


Usually are far too sweet for most people so - put in half the amount of mincemeat and add a piece of tinned pear and top off with a large sponfull of Chestnut ( you can get it in tins ) and add the top of pastry and bake as usual. They are quite yummy and if you sprinkle with icing sugar before you serve, they look real pretty.

I also feel desperately sorry for those people who seem to think it amusing to abuse me on the phone on a reguular basis - always witholding their number - and it is the same person each time and I can hear laughter in the background,  and it just tells me that these people really do not have a life and are so jealous, resentful and envious of me and my venue that they feel the need to take the piss, abuse, harrass and be generally vile to a complete stranger who, as far as I am aware, we have never met,  and that they take the time out of their lives to be deliberately obnoxious to someone who is offering something of beauty to a rather fucked up gay scene and their actions confirm this to me,  that there is a lot of ' special needs' within the gay community and sometimes they - obviously - forget to take their medication.  Bless them.  I do hope they get better and maybe the voices inside their heads will stop and they can see the error of their ways and fopr once in their lives - start to be nice towards others.


Dear John,

How wonderful to read about the comings and goings at HH and of course your more personal news. It has been three years since my last visit to your amazing establishment. I am continuously promising myself that another visit is long overdue and that I need to make the time to come down to Bournemouth. My work commitments have once again been so very restrictive this past year and at long last I have been able to take a lengthy break back home in Durban. But I do promise to find a weekend to be at HH, and perhaps one of your interesting workshops, once I return to London during January. Your guests comments about HH are spot on, there is no other place quite like HH and it would be tragic if you were forced to close down. Don't ever let that happen!
I will use this opportunity to wish you a very happy Christmas and a prosperous New Year!
Warmest regards and big hugs,
John xxx

Dear John
  Ive never replied before....but I do love your blog, your energy and your continued positive spirit.  Being a hotelier myself....I know exactly how you feel Having to put up with miserable, ungrateful, cheap guests who arrive in posh cars...and expect the Ritz. They carry designer luggage yet don't want to pay even basic prices, but expect an early check in and a late check out...all for £25 a night. It is a very hard business.  And the only people who ever write on trip advisor are the haters, and rarely do the lovely customers write anything.
I have also been advertising a TRANNY Night once a week at my hotel...with varying levels of success...they all want it for cheap...and then the tranny shaggers ring, and turn up. They don't want a to buy a drink at the bar, or need a room, but expect a tranny suck them off - ha ha ha ha. I could write a book on this crowd of people.
  Anyhow - I wanted to wish you continued success...and every happiness in the future, and hope to get down to meet you sometime soon.
  Best wishes.  Philip

Hi John:  Read your latest blog you sent out and as usual,  it always makes me smile.  How lovely that you are freely going to invite other gay hotelier and sauna owners down for a free weekend in the new year.  A time when many will need a break,  but John, what about you ?  You need a break as well and while this is a kind gesture which I bet not one other gay venue has ever considered offering,  with your gout and ' old age approaching' ( lol ) we want you there for a lot longer.  Too many of us rely on Ham Hall and desire you to continue for ever and ever as where would we be without you.  I think I have been around 12 times in the last 2 years alone.  Take some time and relax and chill out yourself.  No use killing yourself for all those ungrateful gay men who just take take take and only think of themselves all the time - ( oh how the gay scene is such a vile place )  and Ham Hall ius like a little bit of paradise for so many like me.  Long may you reign.  XX Barry


These e mails above are just a few of the many I received in response to my recent Blog Post Out.  Since sending out my blog which mentioned my Gout I have received so many wonderful e mails from people advising various therapies etc, and BIG THANKYOU to you all for your thoughts.  I have some things to work with now as the good old doctor seems useless and I now have some choices.  Thanks everyone.




Not at all surprised Aldi and Lidl are taking over from the larger and older  supermarket chains like Tesco, Sainsbury's and Asda.  Tesco is one of my regular haunts but this last 18 months or so I have bought less in Tesco and so much more In Lidl and Aldi - not because it is cheaper as sometimes it is the same, but because I don't want one store to have all my money. 

Last year I told my guests we had locally sourced Venison on the menu at Christmas, and it was absolutely delicious - and the ' locally sourced'  was from my local Aldi - Now - they got it from New Zealand and the bullshit on posh venues that claim to have sourced their products locally is rather daft because OF COURSE THEY BUY LOCALLY, WHY WOULD ONE DRIVE HUNDREDS OF MILES TO BUY A CABBAGE when your local market like Tesco is local ?  I tease my guests and have a laugh with it as it is like the gay hotels that claim to be 'GAY OWNED AND RUN' when they are not gay venues at all, but mixed and so gay / straight friendly and everyone is welcome;- so just another hotel then like tens of thousands of others - absolutely no different -  This, therefore, is NOT gay owned and run but merely gay owned, and why would anyone need to know the sexuality of the owners in a mixed venue ?  It is just another con. If you take the time and legal expense to find a way in which you can run your venue as a gay / men only venue, and if you bother to spend the time and the money with your lawyers and study what the law says - then you may be able to advertise as we do - as a MEN ONLY VENUE - and all legal, but please do not bullshit us with words that confuse and mislead... GAY OWNED AND RUN - is bollocks.   You are not better than Tesco.


1)  Too many tills not open and queues getting longer and you expect us to use the self service tills or even use hand held scanners and not even offer an incentive or discount to do so.  If I am buying a trolly full of stuff and will be spending over £150 several times a week, and you expect me to now unload and scan and re load and pack all myself, then I expect a 10 or 15% discount as you are saving staff and yet not offering your customers anything for their bother.  DO NOT give me the rubbish about quicker service when my local Tesco has around 30 tills and there are NEVER more than 6 or 7 open at any one time,  so OPEN THE FUCKING TILLS AND GIVE THE SERVICE WE PAY FOR.

2)  Stop moving stock around the shop all the time and listen to how so many people moan about this aspect of shopping and how it wastes customers time searching for an item which seems to dance around the various aisles and shelves all the time and this REALLY PISSES PEOPLE OFF.

3) Too many items seem to dissappear from the shelves for a month or so, and then magically re appear in different packaging and with a 15 - 30% price increase while being EXACTLY the same product as before, and this is just a complete RIP OFF and where Tesco assumes we have not noticed...  I listen to little old ladies in their 70's and 80's complaining amongst themselves about how prices are hidden and so forth - so how come Tesco's does not hear all the complaints.
Tesco's own Diarrhoea tablets - 80p for 6 - vanished from the shelves and returned a few weeks later at £1.30 - and after I complained  - within a few weeks were reduced to £1 - and are easily found in numerous discount drug stores and even Poundstretcher for between 80p and £1 and I refuse to now buy these in Tesco and will go anywhere else - but NOT tesco, after the con, the lie, the bullshit played with this one item in trying to mislead and steal from us.  Claiming to be helping the poor during this credit crunch is really patronising clap trap from a store who just wants our money and to offer a declining service with less and less staff and all while your staff are grossly unhappy ( try talking to some of them some time and hear how unhappy they are at the way they are treated with contempt by managers )  and maybe management might learn somethings.  If only they were not so arrogant.

4)  Too many mis priced items or items simply not priced at all, and when you bring this to their attention they always blame the customer for moving things and this is to cover their own incompenance

5)   My 83 year old Mothe some years ago was ripped off by Tesco claiming a burger was just £1 when the freezer full - right under the sign - was lamb and mint burgers at £1.99 and for a woman on a pension, this was quite a difference and really embarrassed her at the till.  The correct £1 burgers were 30 feet away from the sign - so why not put the sign over the correct burgers instead of misleading people.  I complained as an old lady had been misled and I found this disgraceful and while complaining, 3 women in their 30's were also confused and misled and complained - and the manager actually did get a ladder and move the sign. 

We - the public - by and large - are not stupid and are voting with our feet and with our money and Tesco - YOU ARE ON TRIAL FOR THEFT, FRAUD, DELIBERATE MISINFORMATION & MISLEADING THE CUSTOMERS -  CAUSING CONFUSION AND BLATANT LIES. 
I am sure Asda, Sainsbury's and Morrisons are just as bad, I just rarely visit these stores and hear they are all the same and all do the same crappy things to confuse and mislead the customers and I just LOVE IT when they try and talk their way out of the bullshit with more bullshit and I can only assume the staff members I speak to at times - ie: Managers - believe this crap and they obviously do not listen to the staff on the floor who have to put up with ragging customers fed up with being misled,   and these managers obviously believe what they are told by head office - which is bollocks compared to what is happening on the shop floor and with the realities faced by shoppers.

Some need to come down from their ivory towers and move amongst the ordinary people some times and see what real life is like and how we common folk, do pay attention and do have the opportunity to go elsewhere and I am so pleased so many have taken that choice and it is reward that 2 local Aldi's have recently doubled their size and one local Lidl is doing the same.  My massive Tesco is undergoing  amassive refit and it will be a more designer store, which is wonderful, but unless they get some simply and basic concerns dealt with, I shall MOST CERTAINLY be buying more and more in Aldi and Lidl and less and less in Tesco, which for a hotel is a considerable amount and tesco is feeling the pinch yet seems blind to the reasons.



GMO soy engineered by Monsanto for heavy pesticide exposure has been found in infant formula purchased in Portland, USA, where a huge fight is raging to demand GMO is labelled on the food wrapper so we know what is in our food. ( GM - Genetically Modified )  Meanwhile - Monsanto is ploughing multi millions into the campaign to keep GMO products from being labeled on food and to keep its contents hidden from the public - maybe because they know the vast majority of people do not want GMO food stuff and especially when it is hidden from view in so many products. 



I have been so stressed all summer struggling with a computer that although is only  a year old, has always given me major headaches by crashing all the time, deleting stuff I have written and generally messing up and making work for me so long winded and frustrating, I despair.  Time for a new one - and time for someone who is expert and good to assist and take control if and when something goes wrong and who can put it right and not on a temporary basis,  as I already have more work than I can handle and when I waste hours every day trying to run my business with a screwed computer,  it really stresses me out.  So if you are local and wish to help - paid naturally - please get in touch. 01202-399227


Christmas and New Year at Hamilton Hall have just a few vacancies open. BOOK NOW.

Just had a guest here who I do have such a laugh with and it is always great when this happens. He has been coming for some years and he is very protective of me and Hammy Hall and this means a great deal to me.   He even brought me a case of wine for Christmas - which ' every litle helps'  and is returning for our New Year period ( almost fully booked already ) and I just know we will have such a laugh... 
That's the great thing of running a venue like Hammy Hall, you never know who is going to walk through the front door next, and not juist some random anonymous guest, as no one is ever an anonymous guest here - and to chat and share, giggle and get to know - is wonderful and we do get some interesting and some amazing people here... and I truly believe that everyone has a story and everyone is as interesting when you get to know them.
Love it.



The day after the island of Maui passed a moratorium on GMO crops, Monsanto announced it was suing them to override the will of the people.

This is outrageous. Can you chip in £15 to help fight back against Monsanto's bulling?

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Dear John,

Last Tuesday, the voters on the Hawaiian island of Maui passed a moratorium on genetically engineered crops.

The very next day, Monsanto announced plans to sue Maui to block the law from going into effect.

Maui is one of the most biologically diverse places on earth -- but it's being turned into one giant, open-air biological experiment by the rampant use of GMO crops and pesticides.

Monsanto and its allies spent more than $8 million to convince voters to defeat the GMO moratorium and still lost. So now they’re sending an army of lawyers to overturn the will of the people.

Can you chip in £15 to stand with Maui and pressure Monsanto to drop the lawsuit?

Yes, I'll donate £15 to help stop Monsanto from forcing its GMOs and pesticides on people who don't want them.

Monsanto, Dow, BASF, and other huge biotech companies have flocked to Hawaii because the climate allows them to plant and grow seeds that they can sell all over the world. Today, nearly 10 percent of all Hawaii's farmland is owned by just five biotech firms, including Monsanto.

That’s why Maui voters have been asking their elected officials to do something about GMOs and the heavy pesticides that go with them. But the politicians, most of them funded by Monsanto, have ignored the people.

So earlier this year, they took matters into their own hands, collecting thousands of petition signatures to force the issue to be put before voters directly as a citizen referendum.

And last Tuesday, the voters spoke: no GMOs on Maui.

Whatever you think about GMO crops and pesticides, it's just wrong for a corporation to use legal action to intimidate the public and override the democratic process. That's why it's so important we stand up, and stand together, whenever Monsanto tries to use these dirty tactics.

Together we can stand with Maui, and fight back and win. Will you chip in £15 today?

Yes, I'll chip in £15 to help stop Monsanto from forcing its GMOs and pesticides on people who don't want them.

Thanks for all that you do,

Paul, Jon, and the rest of the team at SumOfUs



George W. Bush and Tony Blair were absolutely  right and the Iraq War and the adventure into Afghanistan correct and  good,  so let's have another one - another war of mass destruction and mayhem - because we're all going to be killed by those undocumented ISIS fighters who hate our freedom and have weapons of mass destruction and are in London recruiting young men and women as you read this - right now -  and with the Ebola they will soon be bringing into the country  - we are all going to die anyway.

That's basically the gist of television "journalism" these days, the distilled essence of manufactured hysteria combined with utterly predictable bullshit as spoused by news media like Sky / Fox.  When  you spend ten years indiscriminately dropping bombs abroad, the victims have a way of hating you and hating what you stand for and will want to hit back… and to be honmest I tend to see their point in this - and the lies and bullshit from government, military  and journalists still comes at us full force, even though much is bollocks.

The people spreading this bad noise - politicians and "news" media entities alike - are being well-paid to do so. It furthers their combined agenda to have you climbing the walls in fear as when in fear, we are more controllable.  If we do collapse as a society, it will not be because of Ebola or ISIS or mass immigration taking the jobs no one actually wants anyway -  or anything else. The virus that will end us is stupidity compounded by manufactured fear compounded by the deranged priorities of those who seek to terrorize you and then laugh all the way to the bank.

Take the recent case of Cannabis and the nonesense that has recently been spread through the papers about the dangers and the risks and not one mentions that the dangers of smoking it are from the tobacco - or that alcohol is hugely responsible for the breakdown of relationships, communities, jobs and health and yet where is the health warnings on bottles of gin or cans of beer - and while the government is spending millions ranting the dangers of Cannabis, it chooses to ignore the real danger and use Cannabis as a smoke screen to hide the truth and keep everyone's conscious mind occupied with mistruths and once agin, the truth is hard to find.   

Divide and conquer - mix truth with lies and sit back and watch the people argue the fact from the fiction, and watch the dumb shitheads who believe all they read in the papers, deny any semblance of reality and truth from those who have studied and made it their mission to find the truth,  and the only real victim here - is TRUTH.

Last week we had a guest here who looked completely agasp when we were talking about how 911 was an inside job and not facilitated by the Arabs at all, and he claimed not to have ever heard a single word concerning how we had all been lied to by the United States and how it was all a pre arranged event  and he simply couldn't - or wouldn't believ those of us that were then completely open mouthed at his words.  We were agasp he had never heard even the slightest suggestion of a hidden conspiracy theory and we just stared at him in absolute wonder - much as he was with us in return.  Truth is lost on some and if you repeat the same lie often enough, it does become factual  truth and there are millions who will follow a lie to the grave - BUT NOT ME.

British PM David Cameron: “Non-Violent Extremists” Including “9/11 Truthers”
and “Conspiracy Theorists” are Just as Dangerous as ISIL Terrorists

David Cameron claims there is a  threat to society of what he has called  ‘non-violent extremists’, including those who are attempting to bring forward information and evidence about 9/11 which contradicts the official version of events. Many millions around the world  find this position on 9/11 evidence to be quite incredible and/or implausible.  It is a position that is either extremely ignorant, or it is a position that goes against freedom and democracy in British society to such an extent that it is scarcely believable.  Huge numbers of extremely credible and professional people across the world are now bringing forward incontrovertible facts and evidence showing us that the events of 9/11 have been systematically covered up, and that the public has been deceived and manipulated on this issue at a quite incredible level.  Just like the public was deceived and manipulated about weapons of mass destruction in Iraq and the 45 minute claim. 

Millions do not believe the official claim about what happened on 911, any more than they do the official story about the Boston Bombings or even the Brazilian guy in London who was seen running from the authorities and then killed on an undeground train, and the version of the truth that was given to the public was completely a fat sweaty lie - and when the truth came out - who was prosecuted for blatant lies - who was punnished for misleading the country and who was arrested for murdering an innocent man who walked onto a tube train while the authorities completely fucked it all up from beginning to end, and who lied through their teeth to cover their tracks and hide the truth ?  

Look at how the families of those killed in the Hillsborough disaster have been lied to - mis led and even bullied by the authorities in order to cover up their own absolute and complete incompetance and how the abuse by the authority was compounded by the media :-    and the families - oh how they were made to suffer a million fold by the very people who were paid to offer the truth but instead,  horribly and massively lied and distorted and brought decades of agonising heartbreak to a community already coping with loss of friends and family, including young boys of 14 and 15 years of age and where these ' men in power' made eronious claims that the youths were drunk and they simply made things up about the dead to save their own sorry arses. 

It makes me want to puke.

Truth - it seems - when it comes to the authorities, is in short supply and the only people who suffer,  is you and me - the public - who teach our children to be honest, and we expect the same from those in positions of power, and yet every single time - we are lied to and blatantly ' in your face' accused of being a ' non violent extremist' by our Prime Minister - and this sickens me to the very core.

If  David Cameron is going to claim I am  as dangerous as ISIL or an extremist because I do not believe the official truths given on so many ' terrorist' claims by our government,  then maybe the police would have a field day if every single person who did not believe the official claim,  walked into their local police station and handed themselves in as guilty extremists,  and just see what happens when millions are queing outside police stations up and down the country.

Truth, is seems, is hard to come by from officialdome and one wonders what kind of example this sets our young - and I simply do not believe much what is shared through the media these days and as for going into another war with America - ARE WE MAD.
  There may be a semblance of truth,  but sadly we cannot trust the levels at which our government and the United States will go to in order to hide the truth and just do what they want - for whatever reasons - and we the people, will continue to be lied to and kept in ignorance.

Your opinions on this article are invited, as usual.

John: I was astounded at the level in which you wrote your piece called TRUTH in your recent Blog. Wow, I was not expecting something as hard hitting but goodness, I completely agreed with you and found myself nodding and saying yes - yes - yes all the way through. Robin.
John. I believe that Marilyn Monroe was really a tranvestite. Does that make me a terrorist ?  Rob. ( New York )

John: Good to read your thing on Truth in your blog. Good to actually read something that is true.  I also was shocked to be called a Non Violent Extremist by our own prime Minister and shocked that if we did not tow the line and believe every word offered by the government then we were terrorists ?  How shocking is that ?  Well done on sharing this with us on your blog. Top marks to you John. Robers ( London )


So many people  believe that 911 was an ' inside job' done by the USA istelf, that there is even an advert on this billboard in Times Square to get peoples attention to this truth.  WATCH IT HERE


John: I notice you are offering some mixed men and women weekends at Hamilton Hall. As a men only venue, how come ? Rob.

Well Rob, I see you have not stayed at Hamilton hall - from your e mail address - in 4 years - and we do not survive financially and we really do struggle here and unless we are supported more,  we will be forced to close, and then you will have comment.  These occasional mixed events are - hopefully - going to help bring in some much needed income and even if just 2 or 3 events a year, like a private booking - where it is not available for those who want a men only venue and there is always the rest of the year for you to enjoy,  and we do this in order to stay open.
If you can suggest or even offer to promote and facilitate, a weekend workshop, seminar or just lazy weekend and fill the venue with paying guests, then I shall be all ears to your suggestion and help offered, but as it all comes down to me and no one else and I do run out of ideas or have what I think is a good ides that flops ( as this may ) then I do what I can do in order to stay open. Period.



STREISAND ( aaahhh.....  love her..... )

It's official - Barbra Streisand's
Partners has entered the Billboard 200 chart at #1, making her the only recording artist in history to have a number one release in six consecutive decades!

Some might think this a little ' too gay ' but fuck'em.  I have loved Streisand since I was 16 years of age and bought every album, saw every film and TV interview and saw her live in concert 3 times and even went to the Royal Premier of 'Prince of Tides' and sat not 12 feet away from Princess Diana and Streisand... and have been a fan for a long time and I am thrilled that this new CD is so popular, for while it is not Streisand the belter - this is Streisand at 73 years of age and doing damned well.  It has a more mellow feel - probably because of her age and probably because her voice is more mature and lower in key,  and although I didn't think I was going to like the CD - and while I have never heard of half the male singers she is dueting with,  it aint half bad for an old girl... and well worth the money. 

Good on yu Babs... How about another Partners album but this time - as was originally thought - duets with Bette Midler, Byonce and other women singers... Now that would certainly get my attention.


This is the new poster to be found

at the front door when you walk up.

It is viewed by all those walking by and everyone can see that we are PEOPLE MOTIVATED - NOT PROFIT DRIVEN - and I get a great many comments from locals about how we offer so much for free.





Spirituality and Men (SAM)
is a self-development group run by men for men, aiming to explore the spirit of man through informative dialogue, honest interaction and the silence of meditation.

This group meets on the first Sunday of every month at Global Co-operation House.


For further information, please contact the SAM team:



Thought you might like to see these e mails to and from Hammy Hall.  

It did make me laugh.


To Hamilton Hall :-    ' If I come to see any of your clients in the hotel do I have to pay anything?'

My Answer: :- 'I have no idea what you are talking about … . in plain English please.'

His answer :- 'In plain English: Can I come to your Hotel and have sex with your clients (I expect your clients to pay me) You can not expect me to pay for anything as I am short of money.'

My answer :-  'In plain English - FUCK OFF'





I watched a cringey youtube video about 'X MEN AND THE GAY AGENDA' through the films ' X MEN' (  CLICK HERE AND WATCH IT NOW ) and how the director had sex with young boys and raped them as part of the gay agenda to turn young boys gay, and I have never ever heard anything so absurd. WHAT THE FUCK IS A GAY AGENDA ?  I have been an out gay man for alomst 50 years. I have run various gay organisations, gay business' and even worked for 20 years in the sex industry - involved with thousands of people over the years and not once, never ever - have I ever heard of a hidden gay agenda and it seems it must come from the straights who are convinced we are about to brainwash all young boys and take over the world - or something.

I must point out here that paedophilia is predominately straight - about 90% straight - and not gay at all,  yet the straights do like to scream and holla about gay men screwing young boys and in all my years I have only ever met one man who had been convicted for having a wank with a teenage boy and he as a little odd - as in he was not the sharpest pencil in the box - or to the point, he had special needs mentally himself. 

What is this gay agenda that the straight world seems to transfixed with that we gay people know absolutely nothing about - and when you say this - all they can say is that we are lying, living in denial,  hiding the truth from the people,   when the truth is - there is no gay agenda any more than there is an agenda by gay men to take over the world and turn all men gay - or for gay men to fly to the moon and make it a gay macca or any other ludicrous ideology created out of warped minds bent on some kind of fear based rhetoric that has - in many ways - been used for centuries to damn and destroy people they fear - and why do they fear gay man - 

It REALLY is about time these scared little boys grew up and turned their attention to the mass murder and mayhem their own governments are  doing in Iraq and Afghanistan and how even America is now getting into bed with their own worst enemy, the one country they claim is the creation of all evils and all terrorism ( no - not America itself although you wouldn't be far wrong ) but Iran.  Let's concentrate on truth here and not the fear based crap that so many like to throw about that is precisely that - CRAP.

Now:  If you know something about a gay agenda that I have been missing for the last 50 years - other than we demand equality and acceptance just like black, asian, aboriginal and Essex people have been demanding for decades ( just joking about those from Essex... )  then PLEASE enlighten me , but be honest, be truthful and above all, be adult and  do not approach your thoughts through your dick or through fear but through rational adult and educated input of honesty.  Anything else is just dangerous and unenlightened.




Now that the summer is over we are allowed with the dog on the beach again and she just loves it... hates the water --- but loves the sand and running around.
Any day you fancy a glorious walk with me and my dog, usually around 1pm,  just pop on by and you are very welcome to join us and we can chat and share a laugh while we take in some beautiful scenery somewhere, not necissarily the ebach, as Bournemouth has tons of stunning places to walk a dog.








A generation ago, schoolchildren caught fighting in the corridors, sassing a teacher or skipping class might have ended up in detention. Today, there’s a good chance they will end up in police custody.

In Texas, a student got a misdemeanor ticket for wearing too much perfume. In Wisconsin, a teen was charged with theft after sharing the chicken nuggets from a classmate’s meal—the classmate was on lunch assistance and sharing it meant the teen had violated the law, authorities said. In Florida, a student conducted a science experiment before the authorization of her teacher; when it went awry she received a felony weapons charge.

Over the past 20 years, prompted by changing police tactics and a zero-tolerance attitude toward small crimes, authorities have made more than a quarter of a billion arrests, the Federal Bureau of Investigation estimates.

Nearly one out of every three American adults are on file in the FBI’s master criminal database.




an amazing lyric and video about gay love



The world only beats a path to your door when you're in the bathroom.


When I'm finally holding all the right cards, everyone wants to play chess.


It was a whole lot easier to get older than it was to get wiser.


This is so sweet, a dog who discovers he doesn't have to swim




Tony Bray died just before Christmas, and I shall miss him.  He was a good and dear friend who visited and loved Hamilton Hall and would sit in the Conservatory meeting and greeting people as they came and went and everyone loved his peaceful and charming manner.  He was 79 years of age and a real sweetheart.    He will be missed, dearly missed.








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