Monday December 22 , 2014









I often see these awards and think - well - who voted that the best pub / club / gay venue - as no one asked me and who voted it the best ???   ... and consider it all a load of bollocks to get you to spend more money in their bar.  Trip Advisor;-  while I say they are tossers and a waste of time - this certificate of excellence is an award because of the amount of positive feedback we have received from those who have stayed here and THAT is wonderful and I am proud and thrilled about that.  Compared to many other venues, we could easily be a 3 or 4 star B&B but I do not buy into the tourist board schemes which - again - are just money spinners for the council - and I do not waste my money with something that has such little meaning. 

66% of visitors attend alone.
22% attend  with a partner / friend
6% come on business






Every single event that takes place at Hamilton Hall comes from myself - every idea, every notion and just about everything;-  and as much as I ask you all what you want - the response is zero.  It is the same for any gay venue, yahoo group and charity - when it comes down to it,  99% of people are somewhat apathetic and seem to expect someone else to do it all for them. Joining in and taking part seems impossible for some people and it is as if their GET UP AND GO HAS GOT UP AND GONE and it is left to the very few to organise, plan and facilitate and then feel very dispondant when input from others is so dreadfully low.  Many great events and workshops etc. are cancelled because of lack of input and unless someone else organises every little detail,  most seem content to do nothing.  Your help below is requested.  You can sut and paste onto an e mail and address to

What is your age ?

Have you stayed as a B&B guest at Hamilton Hall ?

Have you attended a workshop at Hamilton Hall

If YES - What was the worksho

When was this - which year ?

Have you attended theme weekends elsewhere ?

What was this theme weekend ?

Who hosted it ?

Where was this ?

Do you have any sensible and constructive ideas for theme weekends at Hamilton Hall ?

Could you help host the event ?

Could you suggest where to advertise the event ?

Any further advise you can offer ....


As a MEN ONLY HOTEL - one of only a few left in the UK today that is strictly men only
and the only residential venue in the UK hosting more events and theme weekends than anywhere else -




One suggestion I would make is to open up for cash one night visits - it sometimes makes it much easier.  Ry xx

How about a Tight Jeans weekend. Regards Malcolm..

John: Would love to spend a whole weekend in nappies and diapers.  Any plans for a weekend for us kids into our babyhood.  Robert.




Usually are far too sweet for most people so - put in half the amount of mincemeat and add a piece of tinned pear and top off with a large sponfull of Chestnut ( you can get it in tins ) and add the top of pastry and bake as usual. They are quite yummy and if you sprinkle with icing sugar before you serve, they look real pretty.



Jeremy Thorpe has died aged 85.  I remember being at a party decades ago where he was dresed as the maid and was hit from one side of the party to the other by guests who knew he wanted this and he was forced to serve the drinks,  cleam the ashtrays, get the coats and generally be a slave in drag.  All very odd.  A great man gone to waste.


Dear John,

How wonderful to read about the comings and goings at HH and of course your more personal news. It has been three years since my last visit to your amazing establishment. I am continuously promising myself that another visit is long overdue and that I need to make the time to come down to Bournemouth. My work commitments have once again been so very restrictive this past year and at long last I have been able to take a lengthy break back home in Durban. But I do promise to find a weekend to be at HH, and perhaps one of your interesting workshops, once I return to London during January. Your guests comments about HH are spot on, there is no other place quite like HH and it would be tragic if you were forced to close down. Don't ever let that happen!
I will use this opportunity to wish you a very happy Christmas and a prosperous New Year!
Warmest regards and big hugs,
John xxx

Dear John
  Ive never replied before....but I do love your blog, your energy and your continued positive spirit.  Being a hotelier myself....I know exactly how you feel Having to put up with miserable, ungrateful, cheap guests who arrive in posh cars...and expect the Ritz. They carry designer luggage yet don't want to pay even basic prices, but expect an early check in and a late check out...all for £25 a night. It is a very hard business.  And the only people who ever write on trip advisor are the haters, and rarely do the lovely customers write anything.
I have also been advertising a TRANNY Night once a week at my hotel...with varying levels of success...they all want it for cheap...and then the tranny shaggers ring, and turn up. They don't want a to buy a drink at the bar, or need a room, but expect a tranny suck them off - ha ha ha ha. I could write a book on this crowd of people.
  Anyhow - I wanted to wish you continued success...and every happiness in the future, and hope to get down to meet you sometime soon.
  Best wishes.  Philip

Hi John:  Read your latest blog you sent out and as usual,  it always makes me smile.  How lovely that you are freely going to invite other gay hotelier and sauna owners down for a free weekend in the new year.  A time when many will need a break,  but John, what about you ?  You need a break as well and while this is a kind gesture which I bet not one other gay venue has ever considered offering,  with your gout and ' old age approaching' ( lol ) we want you there for a lot longer.  Too many of us rely on Ham Hall and desire you to continue for ever and ever as where would we be without you.  I think I have been around 12 times in the last 2 years alone.  Take some time and relax and chill out yourself.  No use killing yourself for all those ungrateful gay men who just take take take and only think of themselves all the time - ( oh how the gay scene is such a vile place )  and Ham Hall ius like a little bit of paradise for so many like me.  Long may you reign.  XX Barry


These e mails above are just a few of the many I received in response to my recent Blog Post Out.  Since sending out my blog which mentioned my Gout I have received so many wonderful e mails from people advising various therapies etc, and BIG THANKYOU to you all for your thoughts.  I have some things to work with now as the good old doctor seems useless and I now have some choices.  Thanks everyone.




Not at all surprised Aldi and Lidl are taking over from the larger and older  supermarket chains like Tesco, Sainsbury's and Asda.  Tesco is one of my regular haunts but this last 18 months or so I have bought less in Tesco and so much more In Lidl and Aldi - not because it is cheaper as sometimes it is the same, but because I don't want one store to have all my money. 

Last year I told my guests we had locally sourced Venison on the menu at Christmas, and it was absolutely delicious - and the ' locally sourced'  was from my local Aldi - Now - they got it from New Zealand and the bullshit on posh venues that claim to have sourced their products locally is rather daft because OF COURSE THEY BUY LOCALLY, WHY WOULD ONE DRIVE HUNDREDS OF MILES TO BUY A CABBAGE when your local market like Tesco is local ?  I tease my guests and have a laugh with it as it is like the gay hotels that claim to be 'GAY OWNED AND RUN' when they are not gay venues at all, but mixed and so gay / straight friendly and everyone is welcome;- so just another hotel then like tens of thousands of others - absolutely no different -  This, therefore, is NOT gay owned and run but merely gay owned, and why would anyone need to know the sexuality of the owners in a mixed venue ?  It is just another con. If you take the time and legal expense to find a way in which you can run your venue as a gay / men only venue, and if you bother to spend the time and the money with your lawyers and study what the law says - then you may be able to advertise as we do - as a MEN ONLY VENUE - and all legal, but please do not bullshit us with words that confuse and mislead... GAY OWNED AND RUN - is bollocks.   You are not better than Tesco.


1)  Too many tills not open and queues getting longer and you expect us to use the self service tills or even use hand held scanners and not even offer an incentive or discount to do so.  If I am buying a trolly full of stuff and will be spending over £150 several times a week, and you expect me to now unload and scan and re load and pack all myself, then I expect a 10 or 15% discount as you are saving staff and yet not offering your customers anything for their bother.  DO NOT give me the rubbish about quicker service when my local Tesco has around 30 tills and there are NEVER more than 6 or 7 open at any one time,  SO OPEN THE DAMNED TILLS AND GIVE THE SERVICE WE PAY FOR.

2)  Stop moving stock around the shop all the time and listen to how so many people moan about this aspect of shopping and how it wastes customers time searching for an item which seems to dance around the various aisles and shelves all the time and this REALLY PISSES PEOPLE OFF.  I listen to the OAP's as well as younger customers and yet you seem oblivious to the constant moan about this.

3) Too many items seem to dissappear from the shelves for a month or so, and then magically re appear in different packaging and with a 15 - 30% price increase while being EXACTLY the same product as before, and this is just a complete RIP OFF and where Tesco assumes we have not noticed...  I listen to little old ladies in their 70's and 80's complaining amongst themselves about how prices are hidden and so forth - so how come Tesco's does not hear all the complaints.
Tesco's own Diarrhoea tablets - 80p for 6 - vanished from the shelves and returned a few weeks later at £1.30 - and after I complained  - within a few weeks were reduced to £1 - and are easily found in numerous discount drug stores and even Poundstretcher for between 80p and £1 and I refuse to now buy these in Tesco and will go anywhere else - but NOT tesco, after the con, the lie, the bullshit played with this one item in trying to mislead and steal from us.  Claiming to be helping the poor during this credit crunch is really patronising clap trap from a store who just wants our money and to offer a declining service with less and less staff and all while your staff are grossly unhappy ( try talking to some of them some time and hear how unhappy they are at the way they are treated with contempt by managers )  and maybe management might learn somethings.  If only they were not so arrogant.

4)  Too many mis priced items or items simply not priced at all, and when you bring this to their attention they always blame the customer for moving things and this is to cover their own incompenance

5)   My 83 year old Mother some years ago was ripped off by Tesco claiming a burger was just £1 when the freezer full - right under the sign - was lamb and mint burgers at £1.99 and for a woman on a pension, this was quite a difference and really embarrassed her at the till.  The correct £1 burgers were 30 feet away from the sign - so why not put the sign over the correct burgers instead of misleading people.  I complained as an old lady had been misled and I found this disgraceful and while complaining, 3 women in their 30's were also confused and misled and complained - and the manager actually did get a ladder and move the sign. 

We - the public - by and large - are not stupid and are voting with our feet and with our money and Tesco - YOU ARE ON TRIAL FOR THEFT, FRAUD, DELIBERATE MISINFORMATION & MISLEADING THE CUSTOMERS -  CAUSING CONFUSION AND BLATANT LIES. 
I am sure Asda, Sainsbury's and Morrisons are just as bad, I just rarely visit these stores and hear they are all the same and all do the same crappy things to confuse and mislead the customers and I just LOVE IT when they try and talk their way out of the bullshit with more bullshit and I can only assume the staff members I speak to at times - ie: Managers - believe this crap and they obviously do not listen to the staff on the floor who have to put up with ragging customers fed up with being misled,   and these managers obviously believe what they are told by head office - which is bollocks compared to what is happening on the shop floor and with the realities faced by shoppers.

Some need to come down from their ivory towers and move amongst the ordinary people some times and see what real life is like and how we common folk, do pay attention and do have the opportunity to go elsewhere and I am so pleased so many have taken that choice and it is reward that 2 local Aldi's have recently doubled their size and one local Lidl is doing the same.  My massive Tesco is undergoing  a massive refit and it will be a more designer store, which is wonderful, but unless they get some simple and basic concerns dealt with, I shall MOST CERTAINLY be buying more and more in Aldi and Lidl and less and less in Tesco, which for a hotel is a considerable amount and Tesco is feeling the pinch yet seems blind to the reasons.

ie:  Cartons of porridge - individual cartons. On average in Tesco - between 90p - £1.20p




I have been so stressed all summer struggling with a computer that although is only  a year old, has always given me major headaches by crashing all the time, deleting stuff I have written and generally messing up and making work for me so long winded and frustrating, I despair.  Time for a new one - and time for someone who is expert and good to assist and take control if and when something goes wrong and who can put it right and not on a temporary basis,  as I already have more work than I can handle and when I waste hours every day trying to run my business with a screwed computer,  it really stresses me out.  So if you are local and wish to help - paid naturally - please get in touch. 01202-399227


Christmas and New Year at Hamilton Hall have just a few vacancies open. BOOK NOW.



This is the new poster to be found

at the front door when you walk up.

It is viewed by all those walking by and everyone can see that we are PEOPLE MOTIVATED - NOT PROFIT DRIVEN - and I get a great many comments from locals about how we offer so much for free.





Spirituality and Men (SAM)
is a self-development group run by men for men, aiming to explore the spirit of man through informative dialogue, honest interaction and the silence of meditation.

This group meets on the first Sunday of every month at Global Co-operation House.


For further information, please contact the SAM team:



Thought you might like to see these e mails to and from Hammy Hall.  

It did make me laugh.


To Hamilton Hall :-    ' If I come to see any of your clients in the hotel do I have to pay anything?'

My Answer: :- 'I have no idea what you are talking about … . in plain English please.'

His answer :- 'In plain English: Can I come to your Hotel and have sex with your clients (I expect your clients to pay me) You can not expect me to pay for anything as I am short of money.'

My answer :-  'In plain English - FUCK OFF'





I watched a cringey youtube video about 'X MEN AND THE GAY AGENDA' through the films ' X MEN' (  CLICK HERE AND WATCH IT NOW ) and how the director had sex with young boys and raped them as part of the gay agenda to turn young boys gay, and I have never ever heard anything so absurd. WHAT THE FUCK IS A GAY AGENDA ?  I have been an out gay man for alomst 50 years. I have run various gay organisations, gay business' and even worked for 20 years in the sex industry - involved with thousands of people over the years and not once, never ever - have I ever heard of a hidden gay agenda and it seems it must come from the straights who are convinced we are about to brainwash all young boys and take over the world - or something.

I must point out here that paedophilia is predominately straight - about 90% straight - and not gay at all,  yet the straights do like to scream and holla about gay men screwing young boys and in all my years I have only ever met one man who had been convicted for having a wank with a teenage boy and he as a little odd - as in he was not the sharpest pencil in the box - or to the point, he had special needs mentally himself. 

What is this gay agenda that the straight world seems to transfixed with that we gay people know absolutely nothing about - and when you say this - all they can say is that we are lying, living in denial,  hiding the truth from the people,   when the truth is - there is no gay agenda any more than there is an agenda by gay men to take over the world and turn all men gay - or for gay men to fly to the moon and make it a gay macca or any other ludicrous ideology created out of warped minds bent on some kind of fear based rhetoric that has - in many ways - been used for centuries to damn and destroy people they fear - and why do they fear gay man - 

It REALLY is about time these scared little boys grew up and turned their attention to the mass murder and mayhem their own governments are  doing in Iraq and Afghanistan and how even America is now getting into bed with their own worst enemy, the one country they claim is the creation of all evils and all terrorism ( no - not America itself although you wouldn't be far wrong ) but Iran.  Let's concentrate on truth here and not the fear based crap that so many like to throw about that is precisely that - CRAP.

Now:  If you know something about a gay agenda that I have been missing for the last 50 years - other than we demand equality and acceptance just like black, asian, aboriginal and Essex people have been demanding for decades ( just joking about those from Essex... )  then PLEASE enlighten me , but be honest, be truthful and above all, be adult and  do not approach your thoughts through your dick or through fear but through rational adult and educated input of honesty.  Anything else is just dangerous and unenlightened.




Now that the summer is over we are allowed with the dog on the beach again and she just loves it... hates the water --- but loves the sand and running around.
Any day you fancy a glorious walk with me and my dog, usually around 1pm,  just pop on by and you are very welcome to join us and we can chat and share a laugh while we take in some beautiful scenery somewhere, not necissarily the ebach, as Bournemouth has tons of stunning places to walk a dog.








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an amazing lyric and video about gay love



The world only beats a path to your door when you're in the bathroom.


When I'm finally holding all the right cards, everyone wants to play chess.


It was a whole lot easier to get older than it was to get wiser.


This is so sweet, a dog who discovers he doesn't have to swim




Tony Bray died just before Christmas, and I shall miss him.  He was a good and dear friend who visited and loved Hamilton Hall and would sit in the Conservatory meeting and greeting people as they came and went and everyone loved his peaceful and charming manner.  He was 79 years of age and a real sweetheart.    He will be missed, dearly missed.








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