Sunday February 01 , 2015

ILLEGAL GAY LOVE IN INDIA / NEW YEAR RESOLUTIONS /

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CERTIFICATE OF EXCELLENCE
HAMILTON HALL 2014



I often see these awards and think - well - who voted that the best pub / club / gay venue - as no one asked me and who voted it the best ???   ... and consider it all a load of bollocks to get you to spend more money in their bar.  Trip Advisor;-  while I say they are tossers and a waste of time - this certificate of excellence is an award because of the amount of positive feedback we have received from those who have stayed here and THAT is wonderful and I am proud and thrilled about that.  Compared to many other venues, we could easily be a 3 or 4 star B&B but I do not buy into the tourist board schemes which - again - are just money spinners for the council - and I do not waste my money with something that has such little meaning. 

66% of visitors attend alone.
22% attend  with a partner / friend
6% come on business

 


New Year Joke:

When I found out I was Bi Polar, I didn't know whether to laugh or cry.

 


 



India just made gay love illegal!



Two Indian Supreme Court judges just decided that gay sex is illegal.

ILLEGAL


But if we act fast we can help reverse this crazy backwards ruling.

Men and women in India now face police harassment and life imprisonment. This hateful decision is being met with outrage, and if we now show India that outlawing love is making them an international embarrassment we can get the Indian Parliament to fast track passing a law that the judges have to respect.

Sign now to help love conquer fear in India. When we reach 1 million we’ll get all our names written on hundreds of giant hearts ringing the Indian parliament, then place prominent ads showing that the world will no longer accept making love illegal.


Join me in this campaign here, and let love conquer fear:

http://www.avaaz.org/en/indias_gay_outrage_loc/?klGnVib


SIGN HERE
 


       JB Comments: 

With more and more countries turning their backs on LGBT rights - like Russia and now India,  I do have to wonder WTF is going on.  How come we seem to be going backwards instead of forwards - and why governments are reverting to old fashioned belief structures from the past rather than look forward and - with open hearts for everyone,  learn and premote  tollerance.  Damning certain parts of any community to destruction is not a healthy way forward for society and jailing, beating and even killing those from the LGBT community is certainly not going to make it go away - it will just shrink into the shaddows and create a whole underbelly of society in hiding for fear of their lives. 

If we go back into the Christian past,  with the church for centures damning gay man and burning them on the bonfires as witches (and the gay men were bound together and put at the base of the fire with the bound kindling wood - and anything that is bound together is calkled a FAGGOT ) and other gay men went back into the closet - got married and lived a ' straight lifestyle' in hiding.  Their children and their grandchildren then passed on the gay gene so that future generations of LGBT mena dn women would survive.   Maybe, just maybe, had the church of the middle ages been more acepting of the LGBT men and women in their villages - and allowed them the right to live with their partners and not persecute them,  maybe - just maybe - the gay gene might have not been passed down
through the generations and we could well have a much smaller LGBT community today - Who know - that could be absolute twoddle or it could be a viable truth.   We shall never know, but we do know that by damning those from the LGBT community - moving backwards in thinking and living a life in fear - does not create a healthy environment for anyone, as after the LGBT's who is next - fat people - smokers - to say nothing of going backwards and turning against black and asians, muslims and jews and just about anyone and everyone who see things differently to those who have been brain washed by the media ?

Dangerous times and we cannot be complacent and ignore these facts that we are still under attack and must never rest and be arrogant.

Not a healthy way forward for a society in the 21st century.



 

 


NEW YEAR RESOLUTIONS

These resolutions I SWEAR I will keep to my promise

NOT to ADHERE TO ANY OF THESE.



1)  GO TO THE GYM AND GET MORE EXERCISE
2)  SMOKE LESS
3)  GET TO BED EARLIER
4)  KEEP MY APARTMENT TIDIER
5)  TAKE UP DRINKING
6)  WASH MY CAR WEEKLY
7)  SPEND MORE TIME WITH FAMILY
8)  TAKE A MONTH LONG HOLIDAY TO A HOT AND SUNNY CLIMATE
9)  SAVE £10,000 THIS YEAR
10) EAT LESS COOKIES AND CAKES
11)  SAY THE WORD FUCK LESS
12) GO TO THE BEACH AND SUNBATHE NAKED MORE
13) LEARN TOLLERANCE FOR FUCKED UP QUEENS
14) NOT BE AFRAID OF SPIDERS
15) STOP GIVING AWAY SO MANY FREE HOLIDAY PERIODS TO THOSE IN NEED - ESPECIALLY AS WE ARE SO     BROKE AND STRUGGLING MYSELF FINANCIALLY.
16) VISIT THE LOCAL GAY BARS, CLUBS AND SAUNAS.
17) TAKE MORE TIME OFF FOR MYSELF.
18) BARK AT TELEPHONE SALES PEOPLE WHEN THEY CALL AND I AM UP A LADDER OR TAKING A DUMP AND THEY DISTURB ME WITH TRYING TO SELL ME SOMETHING
19) BE NICE TO GUESTS WHO ARRIVE OUTSIDE OF OUR ARRIVAL TIMES AND DISRESPECT ME IN WHAT LITTLE TIME OFF I ENJOY.
20) SAY THE WOIRD CUNT LESS


I am sure I will think of tons of other things I do not intend doing this year - and I shall add them if and when they come to me.
So what about your list of things you do not intend changing...


and to those annoying - irritating little queens who like to read every word as  gospel and offer an attitude and bitchy comments when nothing is warranted,  this is a joke. Some of the above may be serious and some actually not so serious and before you offer your opinion,  LAUGH AND THE WORLD LAUGHS WITH YOU - PISS ME OFF - and you will be dismissed as  ' THE WEAKEST LINK.'
 

 


This Christmas video is great fun and clever:- DOGS AND CATS DINE
 

 


30 YEARS LATER
 


After being apart for 30 years - my American X lover and I have finally decided we cannot communicate any longer. Love him to bits and I always will, but he drives me mad with bullshit all the time and I seek truth - and not bullshit. Sad - but I cannot carry that around with me any longer. It hurts when you realise someone you thought better of - is an asshole after all.  ( So I am available ... ha ha )

The above was part of my January Blog sent out recently and I have to say,  I have received more e mails in return from you all than  I ever have  concerning this part of what was a long blog, and a very big thankyou to all those who wrote offering understanding and sympathy. 
It seems that I struck a chord with many with this and many have stated they are going through much the same, even if not for as long as 30 years, but it seems many of us hold out redundant hope that some people may prove themselves more worthy, better human beings or even just nicer than we think,  and all too often we are proven completely correct - they are assholes and will always be assholes and when we eventually realise this fact and GIVE UP TRYING,  life is so much easier without them. 

Trying as we do to show them their errors, and where we can see right through the bullshit,  and where we try and make these fucked up people, better people, kinder, more thoughtful and understanding of others and help them be less screwed up,  does not always serve us and there will be times when our hard work and compassion pays off and people do actually change for the better,  but some are lost to us and we really need to learn when to let go and move away - emotionally and physically - for our own sake as well as theirs.

After 30 years of knowing how fucked up this man was, I have fought, and I mean fought, to keep a friendship going - long distance - and it has been a fight over the years with many ' this is the last time '  - but somehow I refused to give in and accept defeat as I have always considered him more worthy - a better person
crying out for help - and I turned my back decades ago on my sister who eventually died of vodka - as after years of batteling with her to try and get her off the booze, the abuse in return eventually forced me to give up and leave her to her own devices, and she was dead within 2 years -  a very sad story - and I swore I would never turn my back on a friend / family member / lover again -  and I never have - until now.  Strange thing is - as soon as I sent the final e mail stating that this time he was dead to me - that his e mail address was blocked and I wanted - absolutely - nothing more to do with him - I felt calmer, more at peace - within my soul - and I know I have done the right thing. I know the angels - the universe - has heard my pain, felt my tears, experienced the abuse and listened to my prayers - and I am strangely calm today, even if a bit sad for him.  

So as much as he claims to have changed and how I know nothing of who he is these days - even this is bullshit - as he has not offered me that new side of himself at all, he has offered me just as much abuse and emotional baggage as he ever did, and he has proven to me that he really has not changed at all.  BUT maybe - just maybe - he HAS changed, he IS a better person and IS loved and adored by many as a kind, thoughtful gentle man - and maybe - just maybe - it is ME he resents, is jealous of and wants to abuse - and maybe there is nothing I can do about that.   Maybe he knows, deep down inside, that I am his last chance. Maybe he is afraid of the healing space I offer and maybe he just resents the fact that he has a very small penis and I have  a great big one. 

Maybe the fact we have slogged it out for so long, is that he desperatelty wants the help and guidance I offer but pushes it away like many addicts -  and then it is an excuse to have another drink - another snort - another excuse why life isn't fair to them, when they bring it all on themselves,  and when we eventually turn away and ' abandom them' - they take it all as 'poor me - no one cares and I am alone'  

There does, however, come a time when emotional exhaustion takes over and we realise we have had enough. Times is up. The final bell has been rung. The game is over. Time to move on, a little sad as I personally love this man a great deal and feel his pain and anguish,  but will not allow his abuse - his fucked up ranting and his neurotic attitude to affect me any longer.  This man who has utterly disgusted me with his manner. This man who has acted lower than low. This man who will always be in my thoughts and dreams,  and even in my heart,  is now no longer a part of my emotional life and as far as I am concerned, he is dead and gone.

Hard ?   Yes maybe - and I sincerely hope I can keep to it - but for survival and for my own inner strength - there are certain people we need to dismiss as dead to us in order to be who we are - and Darryl is one of those now... it just took a long time for me to give up on him,  but he has forced my hand and now I retreat to safety within my own soul and pray someone else is there for him;- that they will not let him away with the constant - and I mean CONSTANT - bullshit lies all the time and  that he finds happiness and joy and stops the abusive lifestyle he has known his whole life,-  for he is the abuser and even tried to kill me on two occasions decades ago,  and I pray that he finds peace within his heart and most of all, that he learns to  cope with the truth that lies within him and the truth that makes him who he is  and not the fantasy version of himself he assumes is accurate and real.

 

 

Hi John    Just read this, and completely feel for you with the American. I have been moping all week about a man who uses me and is not honest. I don't want to be alone, and had high hopes for this man, but have to make the decision for myself that he is not a good person for me. Tough choices, but it still makes me very sad. I'm sitting in a spa basically hiding from the world right now, trying to get over it.  Just letting you know you are not alone.
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Thank you John for your lovely update. Hearing from you always reminds me of happy times spent at HH ! Wishing you all the best for 2015 and let's hope that the universe provides just in time ;-) Will drop by later in the year when things have warmed up a bit

Big hugs from

Simon in Berlin

 

Dear John: And a Happy New Year to you John! Your newsletter once again projects the warmth and friendship of Hamilton Hall! You have taken a massive step forward in being able to let go of the past 30 years. I am still struggling with discarding a past relationship, living in perpetual hope that everything could remain as it first was, but not so! We all grow, change and adapt and eventually reach a point when we have no choice but to accept what once was can no longer be. And yes, who needs the bullshit! Robert sounds absolutely perfect as support for your work and ideals at HH and I am so pleased that you have someone reliable to help. I look forward to meeting him! I have been back in London for just over a week now and it seems I will be able to take some time off work again during early March. Once I have the confirmed dates I will call you to make a booking for at least a few days. Having spent 10 weeks in the glorious South African sunshine, I am finding it difficult to cope with the short, grey and cold days here. So right now I can't think of a better tonic than Bournemouth, being naked at Hamilton Hall and relaxing in your undeniably unique hospitality!
Fond regards and big hugs.
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Hey there John, a Happy & Prosperous 2015 to you !
I always enjoy your Blog, full of news & your great conversation, I almost feel that I'm there talking to you !  I guess Missy must be calming down, no trials & tribulations this  time !Enjoy your supper this evening, it sounds delicious, I'm having Lasagne, first time I've made it, so here's hoping it's good !  You'll meet that special someone this year, I'm in no doubt, 'cos you're a very Special person.  Take care, with kind thoughts from a FREEZING Scotland.

 


Daily Mirror Pride of Britain Awards

I have been asked by a customer if he would mind if he put me forward for the Daily Mirror Pride of Britain Awards for all the free holidays and support things I offer locally - and I am thrilled to have been asked.  Not sure how an x hooker will manage or that it will even be processed but it was a real thrill when he asked if I would mind if he nominated me as he respects the work I do - blah blah blah - and this is reward - an honour - in itself.


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Dear John: Read your piece about being nominated for an award , I have awarded you the highest award in the land for what you do at Hamilton Hall. 
A good friend of mine died late last year ( November 2014 ) and he first attended Hamilton Hall with me around 8 years ago for a Massage Workshop, and while I thought he would hate it, he actually loved it and wanted to attend as often as possible, and you might remember Norman from Knightsbridge ( an elderly Canadian gentleman retired and in his 70's )
His family lived in Canada and he had few friends in the UK although had lived here for many years and through his various visits to Hamilton Hall he met others who lived near him in London and formed a great little group of guys who would meet at various museums, art galleries etc.  every week and just spend a day doing something nice with other like minded gay men.  It all started at Hamilton Hall and he was always very greatful to you for your venue and would always laugh and smile his head off whenever he spoke about you.  I think he loved how you would shock with your outragous stories at the breakfast table and you certainly brought a smile to an old mans face.
He died of old age - went to bed one evening and simply died peacefully in his sleep.  He will be missed.
Thank you John. Big thank you.  Robert M.

Thank you Robert. I remember Norman - and yourself - very well and he was an incredible man and great fun. He will be sorely missed and I - kinda - knew he was dying the last time I saw him here and knew - inside - that it was for the last time.  No idea why I felt that,  call it intuition.  Thank you for your kind words and I am glad to have known Norman and to have brought a little sunshine into his world.  He will be missed. John

 

 


Just had a very odd phone call from someone asking about the naked - clothing optional aspect of Hamilton Hall and he actually asked me if I had ever thought about the cleanliness aspect of men being naked on the furniture, and I was slightly taken aback.  I told him that of course I had thought about peoples  asses on my furniture and how we have towels galore and it absolutely amazed me how a complete stranger assumes I had never considered this - as a clothing optional venue - and presumably he assumed I am some stupid plonker with zero brain cells and how I could not possibly have thought about this aspect of running a clothing optional venue - for almost 15 years - all by myself and without this man bringing it to my awareness.   I was actually stuck for words for a few moments - as I was being treated like some fool,  and I responded gently and quietly but really wanted to tell this man that FOR GOD'S SAKE, OF COURSE I HAVE THIS COVERED - WTF DOES HE THINK WE ARE HERE - BLOODY MORONS ?

I tell you,  some times you despair for human kinds future when some people are so foolish and assume everyone else to be the same.


 


A woman just called and said that she was on my web site and how much she was enjoying it and that while we are a men only hotel, she was fascinated with how I spoke on the web site like a normal human being and not some corporate model of professional service with cold indiffernce.  She said she was giggling and enjoiying it and had been for several hours ... so that was a really pleasant and cherrished call and thankyou to her. It cheered up my afternoon.
 

 



HAMILTON HALL

IS GOING THROUGH SOME CHANGES

AND WE NEED YOUR HELP



Every single event that takes place at Hamilton Hall comes from myself - every idea, every notion and just about everything;-  and as much as I ask you all what you want - the response is zero.  It is the same for any gay venue, yahoo group and charity - when it comes down to it,  99% of people are somewhat apathetic and seem to expect someone else to do it all for them. Joining in and taking part seems impossible for some people and it is as if their GET UP AND GO HAS GOT UP AND GONE and it is left to the very few to organise, plan and facilitate and then feel very dispondant when input from others is so dreadfully low.  Many great events and workshops etc. are cancelled because of lack of input and unless someone else organises every little detail,  most seem content to do nothing.  Your help below is requested.  You can sut and paste onto an e mail and address to

gaymen@hamiltonhall.info

 


As a MEN ONLY HOTEL - one of only a few left in the UK today that is strictly men only
and the only residential venue in the UK hosting more events and theme weekends than anywhere else -

 


SOME OF YOUR SUGGESTIONS

PLEASE GUYS - MAKE YOUR IDEAS SENSIBLE AND REAL AS THESE ARE JUST SILLY


One suggestion I would make is to open up for cash one night visits - it sometimes makes it much easier.  Ry xx

How about a Tight Jeans weekend. Regards Malcolm..

John: Would love to spend a whole weekend in nappies and diapers.  Any plans for a weekend for us kids into our babyhood.  Robert.


 


 




SAM BAILEY - ' WITH YOU'
winner of X Factor 2013

 

 




BEN HAENOW
X Factor Winner 2014

 

 


Christmas and New Year at Hamilton Hall have just a few vacancies open. BOOK NOW.
 

 

 


This is the new poster to be found

at the front door when you walk up.


It is viewed by all those walking by and everyone can see that we are PEOPLE MOTIVATED - NOT PROFIT DRIVEN - and I get a great many comments from locals about how we offer so much for free.

 

 

 


SPIRITUALITY AND MEN



Spirituality and Men (SAM)
is a self-development group run by men for men, aiming to explore the spirit of man through informative dialogue, honest interaction and the silence of meditation.

This group meets on the first Sunday of every month at Global Co-operation House.

ALL MEN WELCOME

For further information, please contact the SAM team: sam@uk.brahmakumaris.org

 

 


Thought you might like to see these e mails to and from Hammy Hall.  

It did make me laugh.

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To Hamilton Hall :-    ' If I come to see any of your clients in the hotel do I have to pay anything?'

My Answer: :- 'I have no idea what you are talking about … . in plain English please.'

His answer :- 'In plain English: Can I come to your Hotel and have sex with your clients (I expect your clients to pay me) You can not expect me to pay for anything as I am short of money.'

My answer :-  'In plain English - FUCK OFF'

 

 



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A generation ago, schoolchildren caught fighting in the corridors, sassing a teacher or skipping class might have ended up in detention. Today, there’s a good chance they will end up in police custody.

In Texas, a student got a misdemeanor ticket for wearing too much perfume. In Wisconsin, a teen was charged with theft after sharing the chicken nuggets from a classmate’s meal—the classmate was on lunch assistance and sharing it meant the teen had violated the law, authorities said. In Florida, a student conducted a science experiment before the authorization of her teacher; when it went awry she received a felony weapons charge.

Over the past 20 years, prompted by changing police tactics and a zero-tolerance attitude toward small crimes, authorities have made more than a quarter of a billion arrests, the Federal Bureau of Investigation estimates.

Nearly one out of every three American adults are on file in the FBI’s master criminal database.


The USA has between 5 - 8% of the worlds population but 25% of the entire worlds prisonser are in the USA, and this sorry state of affairs tells us that either this country is absolutely full of criminals, or that the authorities are too heavy handed and abusive with its people and that many - quite simply - should never have been put in jail or even tried in the first place. 
 

 





WATCH THIS VIDEO HERE


an amazing lyric and video about gay love










 

 

The world only beats a path to your door when you're in the bathroom.

 

When I'm finally holding all the right cards, everyone wants to play chess.

 

It was a whole lot easier to get older than it was to get wiser.

 


This is so sweet, a dog who discovers he doesn't have to swim

WATCH THIS HERE

 

 


Tony Bray died just before Christmas, and I shall miss him.  He was a good and dear friend who visited and loved Hamilton Hall and would sit in the Conservatory meeting and greeting people as they came and went and everyone loved his peaceful and charming manner.  He was 79 years of age and a real sweetheart.    He will be missed, dearly missed.
 

 


HOW TO AVOID NEGATIVE PEOPLE - READ IT HERE
 

 






JUDGE JUDY - on GAY MARRIAGE - HERE





 

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