Saturday August 30 , 2014





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I often see these awards and think - well - who voted that the best pub / club / gay venue - as no one asked me and who voted it the best ???   ... and consider it all a load of bollocks to get you to spend more money in their bar.  Trip Advisor;-  while I say they are tossers and a waste of time - this certificate of excellence is an award because of the amount of positive feedback we have received from those who have stayed here and THAT is wonderful and I am proud and thrilled about that.  Compared to many other venues, we could easily be a 3 or 4 star B&B but I do not buy into the tourist board schemes which - again - are just money spinners for the council - and I do not waste my money with something that has such little meaning. 

66% of visitors attend alone.
22% attend  with a partner / friend
6% come on business


I was amazed recently to find an assortment of pillows I have never bought, and my pillows nowhere to be seen.  Same goes for blankets. I have some blankets in the rooms that I have never bought and the ones I did purchase - it seems there are just a couple  left.
So - do people steal them and leave crappy ones in their place - so did they bring a bed pillow in their luggage to swap ???



Thought you might like to see these e mails to and from Hammy Hall.  

It did make me laugh.


To Hamilton Hall :-    ' If I come to see any of your clients in the hotel do I have to pay anything?'

My Answer: :- 'I have no idea what you are talking about … . in plain English please.'

His answer :- 'In plain English: Can I come to your Hotel and have sex with your clients (I expect your clients to pay me) You can not expect me to pay for anything as I am short of money.'

My answer :-  'In plain English - FUCK OFF'



There Is Always One:

I was threatened with prosecution under the Discrimination Act by an asshole who booked a room ( the dorm room sharing ) and THEN announced he had read my web site concerning snorers, and announced he snored.  I was a bit sharp with him as he had not made this the easiest booking - messing me around - and all for the cheapest room,  and as I do not want other guests complaining about his snoring, I suggested an upgrade to another room, and he barked that he had better cancel and I pay all his money back - and after I reminded him we have a ca
ncellation policy which means he would loose £30 - he turned into someone else and tried to threaten me.
Me:  The man who has spent 40 years campaigning for equality - going on the marches - holding banners etc. and now this little prick tried to report me for discriminating against him for medical reasons as he claims his snoring is medical and therefore I am discriminating against him.  He forgets that if he has a medical problem that may cause others to be disturned,  it really is up to him to make sure he books a correct room in an hotel where others are not disturbed - not deliberately choose the cheapest option - a room for 4 people sharing - KNOWING he may very well disturb others. 

What sort of selfish asshole would do such a thing ? 

It just goes to show how there are some really vile people out there - who will stoop as low as this just because he was not getting his own way and then tried to ' take me on.'

How childish.




It is such a shame when someone turns into a vile bitchy queen,  obnoxious and agressive, doesn't listen and repeats the same old crap over and over and over and who will not listen and will not calm down and will not respect others and will not behave - after they have had a few drinks.  Personally I dislike drunks. I dislike their whole demeaneur even if giggly and fun.  I especially dislike it when they are too ' in your face'  and will not take no for an answer and will not leave you alone and back off... and last night I had to have a little talk with someone over their behaviour and again this morning as it is not fun for me and when other guests mention it over breakfast and when I find out how others were disturbed by it, then I know it is time to take action and control the situation before it gets out of hand. 
A lame apology was eventually forthcoming but only after a severe talk from myself,  and we shall see if the good guy returns or the bad guy - as the bad guy will be told to leave if he cannot behave himself.  We all want a pleasant few days and my guests deserve the best that we can offer and when one individual with attitude spoils it for the others,  then this individual obviously has a need, a desperate need, for attention at any cost,  and this is where the therapist side of me kicks in and recognises various signs and where I put my therapist hat on ( so to speak )  - and tell people to behave.  Bit like a strong Mother figure... 

Sadly this individual ' had a go' at several people staying and most left the room every time he came in and he became the talking point of the weekend - with much fun and laughter spoken about him behind his back,  as everyone was gobsmacked at his vile attituide, rude manner and agressivness.  He was not physically threatening,  just one of those gobby vile queens who sees life in a very distorted and disturbing way compared to just about everyone else and this attempt to ruin the weekend for everyone else backfired on him as everyone just walked out and ignored him.

One evening everyone was playing a game in the lounge and slowly everyone left and came up to my apartment where we sat and watched a movie together and chilled, laughed and generally had fun and it was some time later they shared with me that they had come up because they wanted to get away from ' the man'  and while this made me giggle,  I did feel sorry for a man who did not know how to behave to such a degree that he and his lover were abaondoned by just about everyone as they simply didn't like being with them.

I had words twice with the guys partner and told him the full facts and he even said he had wondered why everyone had left the lounge the night before and wondered where everyone had  gone and how they were left alone all evening, and I had to make sure he knew the exact reason, as if he cannot get through to Mr. Vile' then the man will never learn and grow and improve.

So - not being afraid to speak up - I did - and it is doubtful anything will change,  but it is a very long time ago since I met a more vile gay man who everyone grew to dislike intensley.  Booze was part of the story and a fucked up individual was a large part of it as well.

Luckily,  this is very rare at Hammy Hall and I sincerely hope he hears what was said and makes some changes or he will end up a very lonely and sad old man with no friends.




It is the most amateurish and incompetent company I have ever had the misfortune to expect a delivery from.

After telling them I am NOT HOME BETWEEN 1 - 5pm - take a guess what time they tried delivering a parcel here - go on - guess...

Yup that is right - Between the very hours I told them I was not available.  Actually at 2pm.

When I complain, which you have to find a number from their web site as there is nothing at all on the card they post through your door,  I got condescending and rude attitude from Customer Care and told there was nothing they could do to change things and the parcel would be returned to the sender if I was not there all day to receive it - or collect it myself from their depot, which is miles away and why the hell should I - they have been paid to deliver a parcel so I expect it delivered in a competent and professional manner, sadly, something UKMail are unable to offer.


I never got my parcel and hile I have no idea who it was from or what it was,  UK Mail's arrogance and bed customer service was paramount in this.  They kept claiming the sender needed to upgrade his contract with them so they can deliver at different times and this is just bullshit to me. The copmpany failed to deliver a parcel - especially as they were instructed what times I WAS NOT AVAILABLE, and they still screwed it up.






I watched a cringey youtube video about 'X MEN AND THE GAY AGENDA' through the films ' X MEN' (  CLICK HERE AND WATCH IT NOW ) and how the director had sex with young boys and raped them as part of the gay agenda to turn young boys gay, and I have never ever heard anything so absurd. WHAT THE FUCK IS A GAY AGENDA ?  I have been an out gay man for alomst 50 years. I have run various gay organisations, gay business' and even worked for 20 years in the sex industry - involved with thousands of people over the years and not once, never ever - have I ever heard of a hidden gay agenda and it seems it must come from the straights who are convinced we are about to brainwash all young boys and take over the world - or something.

I must point out here that paedophilia is predominately straight - about 90% straight - and not gay at all,  yet the straights do like to scream and holla about gay men screwing young boys and in all my years I have only ever met one man who had been convicted for having a wank with a teenage boy and he as a little odd - as in he was not the sharpest pencil in the box - or to the point, he had special needs mentally himself. 

What is this gay agenda that the straight world seems to transfixed with that we gay people know absolutely nothing about - and when you say this - all they can say is that we are lying, living in denial,  hiding the truth from the people,   when the truth is - there is no gay agenda any more than there is an agenda by gay men to take over the world and turn all men gay - or for gay men to fly to the moon and make it a gay macca or any other ludicrous ideology created out of warped minds bent on some kind of fear based rhetoric that has - in many ways - been used for centuries to damn and destroy people they fear - and why do they fear gay man - 

It REALLY is about time these scared little boys grew up and turned their attention to the mass murder and mayhem their own governments are  doing in Iraq and Afghanistan and how even America is now getting into bed with their own worst enemy, the one country they claim is the creation of all evils and all terrorism ( no - not America itself although you wouldn't be far wrong ) but Iran.  Let's concentrate on truth here and not the fear based crap that so many like to throw about that is precisely that - CRAP.

Now:  If you know something about a gay agenda that I have been missing for the last 50 years - other than we demand equality and acceptance just like black, asian, aboriginal and Essex people have been demanding for decades ( just joking about those from Essex... )  then PLEASE enlighten me , but be honest, be truthful and above all, be adult and  do not approach your thoughts through your dick or through fear but through rational adult and educated input of honesty.  Anything else is just dangerous and unenlightened.







So tell me - why - exactly - do they pay footballers in the UK so much money when it seems that when we play anyone outside of the UK, they are absolutely useless ?







I am SO loving this hot weather and how the people have changed into smiling happy people after a long and grey winter.  The garden is looking wonderful,  the town of Bournemouth is full of people enjoying the facilities we offer here, - the beaches are busy and the naked beach is full of laughter and fun.  Bournemouth is the largest holiday resort in the UK and I JUST LOVE IT when it is busy with tourists enjoying exactly what we have here and to be honest - and maybe a little biased - there is nowhere in the UK as lovely..

Bournemouth is known as the night-club capital of the southcoast - putting all other resorts like Brighton in the shade ( straight clubs that is ) and many of them look as if they should be in New York or some other city as they are absolutely superb clubs.  Sandy beaches not stoney - hundreds of restaurants and cafes, all the shops you could ever want and if you come to Boscombe shopping you will find a huge aray of owner run shops that are not all part of multinational chains - which is unusual these days as all high streets are usually the same...  Stunning parks with an amazing aray of tropical plants and palm trees,  theatres, swimming pools, golf cources, casino's, cinemas ( Bournemouth was the fist place in the country to have a twin cinema in one building - back in th '60's )  and we even have our own Bournemouth Symphony Orchestra.  Dorset is the most beautiful county for country drives and walks, and in August we have the huge Air Show and even athe worlds largest Steam Fair.

The gay scene has shrunk here recently with two of our bars closing and we now have just 2 bars, 2 clubs and 2 saunas,  and as I always say, there is more to life than jst gay bars, whioch does amaze some people who seem to want to live gay gay gay 24 hours a day - and with maturity, may discover the shallowness of many on the gay scene.  ( or maybe I am just tuning in to an old fart... ha ha ) 

Whatever your thoughts - I absolutely love this area and would never want to return to London to live and having spent years in Mexico, Hawaii, America and many places in Europe,  this is my home and I welcome you here at any time...








Julian Assange's dramatic arrival at the Ecuadorian embassy

The news today is about how Julian Assagne has been holled up in the embassy for 2 years at a cost of around £11,000 a day to tax payers to keep a police presence outside in case he tries to leave.


£70,000 a week from tax payers money.

Remember guys:  This man is only wanted for questioning - THAT IS ALL - to answer questions on trumped up charges of rape.  I do not see the government paying out millions of £ looking for other people who have not been proven guilty, have no warrants out for their arrest or anything else illegal - he is only wanted FOR QUESTIONING by Sweden... THAT IS ALL,   and we all know it is because America wants to get their hands on him because he has shown the world what a criminal and immoral government it has and they wish to silence him and hide their guilt.

This is absolute madness.  I fully support this man and all wistleblowers who expose government corruption and abuses and this is another government abuse - wasting so much money - OUR MONEY - and over 2 years that is over £7 MILLION - and for what ?

The USA want this man. Period. I do NOT believe the trumped up charhges against this man - it is just an excuse for the US government to bully its way around the globe and shut up anyone who tells the public the evils they are getting up to. 




On November 1 2014 we have a major problem ! The British parliament loses the right to legislate over us in 43 very important areas, the British parliament will have to seek approval from the EU for any laws they wish to pass on those 43 areas. The British Parliament also loses the right of veto over those areas. Those areas are as follows:

1)Administrative cooperation, 2)Asylum, 3)Border Controls, 4)Citizens initiative regulations, 5)Civil Protection, 6)Committee of the regions, 7)Common Defence Policy, 8)Crime prevention incentives, 9)Criminal judicial cooperation, 10)Criminal Law,   11)Culture, 12)Diplomatic judicial cooperation, 13)Economic Social Committee, 14) Emergency International aid, 15)Energy, 16)EU Budget, 17)Eurojust, 18)European Central Bank, 19)European Court of Justice, 20)Europol,  21)Eurozone external representation, 22)Foreign Affairs High Representation Election, 23)Freedom of Movement of Workers, 24)Freedom to Establish a Business, 25)Freedom, Security, Justice, cooperation & evaluation policy, 26)Funding the Common Foreign & Security Policy, 27)General economic interest services, 28)Humanitarian Aid, 29)Immigration, 30)Intellectual property,
31) Organisation of the Council of the EU, 32)Police cooperation, 33)President of the European Council election, 34)Response to natural disaster & terrorism, 35)Rules concerning the Armaments Agency, 36)Self-employment rights, 37)Social Security Unanimity, 38)Space, 39)Sport, 40)Structural & Cohesion Funds, 41)Tourism, 42)Transport, 43)Withdrawal of a member state


After UKIP won a resounding success in the recent elections,  barely a week goes by before the EU is demanding billions more from the UK to pay towards those corrupt countries who have screwed the system within Europe and now expect the UK to cough up more billions to help them out of the shit they put themselves into through fraud and corruption.   IT ABSOLUTELY BEGGARS BELIEF and either the EU commision is having a laugh at us and assume we are absolute assholes, - or they are the assholes with absolutely no idea what is going on in the real world.

When a country shows quite clearly that it wants out of Europe - or at least some radical changes made - and they then completely ignore this and slam a huge extra charge against us - either they are just fucking morons or this is deliberate - and whatever it may be -   I am now questioning the EU and how it is run and the corruption and blatant fraud and question why we are paying so many billions into this boys club that sees fit to throw this kind of abuse at the UK.




Love spending the day in  the garden - siting geting the sun - and with this spectacular weather lately, I get as much as I can, which is not a lot as I have work to do, but this morning look what I found at the bottom of the garden growing in the bushes..... and I have to say it was a surprise to me as I thought it was going to be a Sun Flower yet this weedy thing grew up instead.

To hell with tomatoes and lettuce - I think I know what I want to grow every year from now on... 

Now, I am not sure what I should do with this example of flowemanhood - maybe pick it and put it in a vase of water and take it to my bedroom and see how it can brighten my evenings...  or set it free to grow and roam where it wants - or keep it prisoner for my enjoyment only.

WTF am I going on about ?  Too much sun perhaps ?  Whatever;-   He is quite a catch.  Just wish he really was in my garden...

Ah well, time to get naked and get some sun.  It is so nice now the summer is here and that long wet - but mild - winter is over. Pray for long hot sunny days and warm evenings where we keep windpows open all the time and enjoy the fresh sea breeze through the house and enjoy the smells of the ocean, flowers and summer.

That leaf he is holding is not that big though.....




Drag Queen Panti Bliss's

viral homophobia speech

6 February 2014 Last updated at 22:03 GMT

An impassioned speech by an Irish drag queen about what constitutes homophobia has been viewed more than 300,000 times on YouTube, prompting thousands of comments.

Panti Bliss was already an icon of Ireland's gay scene, but her profile has just rocketed. In a speech at the Abbey Theatre in Dublin at the weekend, Panti spoke of the "oppression" she feels as a gay person living in Ireland - including her own sense of internalised oppression.

Filmed by Conor Horgan





an amazing lyric and video about gay love



The world only beats a path to your door when you're in the bathroom.

This amazing video of 4 black swans surfing the tide 



When I'm finally holding all the right cards, everyone wants to play chess.


It was a whole lot easier to get older than it was to get wiser.






This is so sweet, a dog who discovers he doesn't have to swim





Dear John

Geoff and I visisted Hamilton Hall many times over the years and you will remember how we hated leaving at the end of the various periods with you,  and always looked forward to the next visit.  Geoff died recently as he had been ill for some time  and knew for the last few years that he was terminal and while we kept this to ourselves,  we were determined to make his last year or so memorable.  

He loved his stays with you and the way you made us laugh.  He loved the dinners around the table together and how you kept the conversation going. He always laughed and smiled when we spoke of you at home and when something happened that reminded us of you, he would say  ' Oh that's a John Bellamy that is ...'  

Geoff was 66 years of age and I will miss him dearly and know,  that at the moment, I cannot return to Hamilton Hall as it has too many memories for me.  One day in a year or so I shall see you again but the memories are still too close and I need some space to find my journey alone and without Geoff ( we were together for 18 years )  and see where my future takes me.

I thank you John for what you have given so freely - the love and support for so many people through Hamilton Hall and know that a lot of happy memories that died with Geoff are now joined with a higher power - and that one day I shall also be re joining Geoff on that journey, but before then I wanted to say thank you for everything.  




Tony Bray died just before Christmas, and I shall miss him.  He was a good and dear friend who visited and loved Hamilton Hall and would sit in the Conservatory meeting and greeting people as they came and went and everyone loved his peaceful and charming manner.  He was 79 years of age and a real sweetheart.    He will be missed, dearly missed.








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