Tuesday June 30 , 2015








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Back to basics

Nearly threequarters of Britons want to ditch their Smartphones and return to the 'simple life' - a survey found.  The Kellogs  poll found we want to re-embrace reading and grow our own food.

So it seems the revolution of technology has been embraced and seen for what it is, just another tool that ultimately gets as boring as anything else - and in our quest for playing games,  the ultimate - ultimately - bores.  And lets face it guys, how many use their phones and computers to play games and how many for reading global news or for educating themselves...  as it seems Grindr / gaydar and the likes are the most viewed pages for many on their appliances and as for reading something of importance... very few.

It is summer here in Bournemouth with glorious days and warm nghts where I keep my bedroom windows open all night - and the sweet smelling fragrance on the air is wonderful. The other evening when walking the dog out last thing before bed,  the smell of the roses at the front of Hammy Hall, even at night, was wonderful.  We have also been eating our own home grpwn lettuce for some time and the tomatoes are a way off yet,  just starting to flower,  and it is great to grow something for yourself, and while I would love a bigger garden and grow a ton of my own veg.  I do what I can and enjoy the fuller flavours.

Busy at Ikea the last few days buying some new cabinets for the Community Room and then the joy of finding space for all the junk that was in the old cabinets, much of which went in the bin -  how we store crap is amazing.  I put a couple of cabinets outside on the pavement and within minutes a car drove up and a couple of Polish guys popped out and loaded them in.  I offered a helping hand and they were very greatful of the cabinets, and I am pleased they will be used and enjoyed and have gone to a new home.  I could have sold them through he internet and probably got £50 for them, but for the fuss and the time and having to find somewhere to keep them in the meantime, I am just glad someone else wanted them.
Great stuff and the Community Room is taking on a new look and a clean crips look which is pleasing to me.  new ceiling fan - new lights coming soon...  and even some new drawers for my own apartment so goody... maybe now I can put some of the stuff away - you know - hide the junk in drawers... ha ha




I recently e mailed 6 different MEP's concerning  TTIP and how dangerous I considered this trade agreement to be for us all, and it has been interesting to see that while the MEP's were all from differtent parties,  the only one who bothered to reply has been William Dartmouth UKIP MEP - and he states that UKIP is against the agreement which is exactlky what I hoped for. 
Interesting though that no one else bothered to answer and there simply is no excuse.  When members of the public write concerned about an important life changing piece of legislation that has the potential to bankrupt the NHS and even governments -  and all at the expense of supporting corporate power OVER the people, and not FOR the people,  it is disgraceful that none of the other MEP's bothered.
I now wonder if they even know what the TTIP is ?

I know a lot of people consider political things to be a bore, but if there was ever a piece of dangerous legislation attempting to force its way through global governments and which has the potential to destroy anything and everything we hold dear - even down to the environment - then this bill needs your attention and if you are bored by it all, then in all honesty, you deserve all you get.  If you cannot be bothered to work, then stop complaining you cannot live on benefits - GET A JOB.

If  you do not like the way your council is repairing the roads, THEN GET INVOLVED AND COMPLAIN.
If you think the banks or corporate business is screwing with things, then have your say, BUT FOR GOD'S SAKE - do not sit at home moaning and doing nothing, and this TTIP agreement NEEDS US ALL to get motvated.

Imagine:  Monsanto makes a seed product - say a new variety of corn, genetically engineered - and it ends up poisoning the land, animals, environment and even the water supply - ( just imagine )  and various governments then ban it - MONSANTO CAN SUE THOSE GOVERNMENTS FOR LOST INCOME DUE TO THEIR BANNING THE PRODUCT - EVEN IF THE PRODUCT IS DANGEROUS TO PUBLIC HEALTH, and there is absolutely nothing, and I mean NOTHING - governments can do to stop it, and could cost us all - not only BILLIONS in compensation to the very company that messed things up in the first place with their GM foods,  but there is nothing we can do to stop nit and these corporations CANNOT AND WILL NOT BE HELD ACCOUNTABLE AND CANNOT BE SUED.
So again imagine they create a medication like Thalidimide,  and destroy thousands of peoples lives and the drug is taken off the market by - say the NHS - and the company that made this toxic and dangerous drug can then sue the NHS for lost profits and claim for compensation while NOT BEING LIABLE - and people will suffer while profits soar and corporate power reigns supreme over and above our elected governments and faceless CEO's - NOT ELECTED - hold all the power.




Hi John. Had to share this with you as I thought it funny and tragic at the same time.  I recently was told I should apply for Tax Credits so went on line and found the main page concerning this stated that the page was being rebuilt - so not a lot of help there. So I phoned a number available and after being cut off by the system AFTER I got through and AFTER I had explained to the system what I wanted - it eventually told me through an automated voice that there was at least a 20 minute wait to be connected to a person - and explained that I could do this ' on line' - and remembering that the web site stated the page was being re built, I question the validity and competance of a system that is obviously designed to harrass and stress people out.  Unemployed cannot afford to sit on a phone for 20 minutes waiting as the cost of these calls is not cheap and in all honesty,  I do have better things to do and do not just sit around all day doing nothing as I do work - it's just a very low paid job but I work hard and long hours and the charity I work for pays minimum wage,  and this kind of behaviour by the Inland Revenue is NOT customer friendly.
I did have to laugh and feel desperately sorry for those people who really are ' in need of assistance ' as it is SO DAMNED HARD just trying to get through to someone let alone get the correct forms and so forth.
I read your web site often and thought you'd like this news.  Marcu
s ( Coventry )



How the Red Cross Raised Half a Billion Dollars

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A LETTER FROM GOD - by Scoobius Pip


please - read and listen to the words, they are beautiful and puts the responsibility firmy in our own hands.


This video is amazing - watch it and realise THIS IS REAL -
no computer graphics but tons of real people actually really doing what you see... 


If you want a tear in your eye, watch this very sweet short youtube link






A 9 year old boy at St. George's Bickley CE School was seen playing knights and dragons in the playground and was using a ruler as a make believe sword, and the head teacher called the police and the boy and his mother were interviewed concerning this.  What absolutely beggars belief, is that on the schools web site - the shield and picture below are detailed and is a sword wielding man fighting a dragon -  and yet when a young boy of 9 plays at precisely this,  the police get called  and if we are to find fault - change the schools shield for a posey of flowers or a sunset - as it completely beggars belief.


I read this report on the Metro newspapers website, which I read daily,  and was absolutely stunned that a 9 year old boy - when seen playing with a ruler as a fake sword,  is seen as a threat and the police have to be called - as if the police have nothing else better to do. ( Mind you, if this was the United States, they would have shot him dead on the spot in front of other children and then blamed the boy and his family and got off scott free  - so thank goodness we do not live in that kind of evil empire yet ... )

This disgraceful behaviour by the school and most of all by the Head teacher - Geraldine Shackelton,  sends a very loud message about how our children are not allowed an imagination;-  not allowed to play freely;-  not allowed to copy what we see - and children will be children, and they will play at war games, dragons and demons, rough stuff and tough stuff as that is what they see on the TV:-   that is what is popular culturally and that is exactly what adults are doing all the time - war war and more war - bitching and fighting - lying and cheating during a general election - soap operas with slanging matches between people and there are very few role models left for children to look up and aspire to  as everyone is afraid - afraid they will be cast as an evil doer - a peadophile - a pervert - just because they are good people with no hidden agendas and just want to help - and other than footballers who often do not set a good example,  children have no good role models left any more.

Even Spongebob Squarepants - a hugely popular and awarded childrens programme loved by millions of children around the world - and despite its widespread popularity, the series has been involved in several public controversies, including one centered on speculation over SpongeBob's intended sexual orientation;-  ( I despair - it's a cartoon for God's sake )   and the Telly Tubbies where an adult complained  because one had a handbag and therefore must have been gay - and we look at these occurances and the adults who complain and we must see clearly here folks - we must start seeing clearly and truthfully, that it is the adults that have the problems and by using the police and causing such trouble for a young boy who should be encouraged for using his imagination in play - are creating and harvesting nothing but trouble for the next generation who will grow up afraid to play in case they make the wrong move and someone reads it all wrong - afraid to speak up in case they say the wrong thing - afraid to be creative in case they are labeled gay or even a perv.  - and afraid to do and say anything in case the state comes down on them.  

I was stunned that this happened in the UK as it is the kind of thing we see happening in America all the time -  but remember a friend who was a Deputy Head of a failing school back in the mid 1990's - in London - and who was put into the school to help sort it out,  and he was reported for touching one of the girl students - ( he is an out gay man and everyone knew he was gay ) and within 30 minutes it as realized it was untrue as he was in a staff meeting with 30 other teachers at the time the girl said he was with her - so everyone knew it was a lie by the girl to gain attention,  but he was still investigated and laid off work for 18 months with full pay ( and full stress ) and the council spent over £250,000 investigating what was known within minutes to be a lie - and the abuse was compounded by the very institution aimed at protecting those it abuses.

If we are to follow this onwards, and if we allow this sort of abuse to  continue - abuse that comes from the state and mad people allowed to hold powerful positions of authority, then the next generation will be fucked up and we stand little chance of a stable, sensible, educated and nurtured generation to come, and will have a generation of scared, intimidated and underdeveloped people bringing up our next generation - and that spells even more problems ahead.

Let children play,   and monitor their play,  but for goodness sake,  the adults need to lighten up - grow up - and relax. Not every childrens game is one of a future terrorist - ( and besides,  it is our government that causes and creates terrorists by its very actions of being the bully around the world in order to gain access to the oil and gas etc. )  and we need to allow our children to use their imagination in fun and laughter - and foster happy children.  Not scared ones.

John Bellamy



After a week of lovely weather we had rain this morning and 

I am sitting here in the office listening to birds singing outside - and it is a joyous sound.




I often see these awards and think - well - who voted that the best pub / club / gay venue - as no one asked me and who voted it the best ???   ... and consider it all a load of bollocks to get you to spend more money in their bar.  Trip Advisor;-  while I say they are tossers and a waste of time - this certificate of excellence is an award because of the amount of positive feedback we have received from those who have stayed here and THAT is wonderful and I am proud and thrilled about that.  Compared to many other venues, we could easily be a 3 or 4 star B&B but I do not buy into the tourist board schemes which - again - are just money spinners for the council - and I do not waste my money with something that has such little meaning. 

66% of visitors attend alone.
22% attend  with a partner / friend
6% come on business


New Year Joke:

When I found out I was Bi Polar, I didn't know whether to laugh or cry.




Written by Stephen Beresford and directed by Matthew Warchus

  I ordered this movie from Gays the Word Bookshop in London ( HERE ) after a customer suggested it and I have not cried as much while watching a movie as I did last night.  Filled with sweet tender moments that make you ' fill up'  and several times when the tears really flowed - as the story of a group of gay men and lesbians decide to collect money and support the coal miners during the Thatcher period of destroying the Miners Union back in the 1980's  and the ' coming together' of people from very different communities - 1) Coal Miners - 2) Gay Men and Lesbians - and the acceptance and rewards that these very different communities find through a battle with authorities for acceptance of a way of life and to keep their mines open.

With those from the gay community understanding persecution and bigotry only too well,  they appreciate and value what the miner
s are going through fighting the Thatcher government for the right to keep their livlihoods and their communities up and running.  Gay men have fought for decades for acceptance  in law  ( which we tend to take for granted now we have all we fought for ) but these were the days when GAY PRIDE MARCHES were political and had a powerful message about equality and not the Mardi Gras celebration of - er - what  exactly ???  - as it is these days up and down the country and the London  Gay Pride marches of the 1980's were London based - and tens of thousands would attend from all over the country.   We had a common goal we shared - about acceptance and a change in the law - and the way these gay men and lesbians took it upon themselves to raise funds and moral for the miners - is breath taking - and I did cry - several times.

I found this film to be very moving and as I am old enough to remember the onset of HIV and Aids and all that was ' going down'  in the mid '80's,  this film is well worth a visit and have a big box of Kleenex handy,  oh and you will laugh out loud as well - as there are many very funny scenes.
With some familiar faces - this well produced and executed story keeps its point and keeps you watching.  Not too ' over the top' and certainly not too preachy about gay rights - it hit the nail right on the head and combined the difficulties of being a member of the gay /. lesbian community and a member of a small mining community and a coming together of real opposites with a common goal,  and from this coming together,  acceptance and love prevaile. 
I shall certainly be watching this film a lot with customers here at Hammy Hall and shall certainly now be ordering at least another dozen copies from 
GAYS THE WORD BOOK SHOP - as they helped - back in the '80's - by offering the group of fund raisers to use their facilities in the shop and I would rather spend my money buying the DVD from them than Amazon.







Spirituality and Men (SAM)
is a self-development group run by men for men, aiming to explore the spirit of man through informative dialogue, honest interaction and the silence of meditation.

This group meets on the first Sunday of every month at Global Co-operation House.


For further information, please contact the SAM team: sam@uk.brahmakumaris.org



Thought you might like to see these e mails to and from Hammy Hall.  

It did make me laugh.


To Hamilton Hall :-    ' If I come to see any of your clients in the hotel do I have to pay anything?'

My Answer: :- 'I have no idea what you are talking about … . in plain English please.'

His answer :- 'In plain English: Can I come to your Hotel and have sex with your clients (I expect your clients to pay me) You can not expect me to pay for anything as I am short of money.'

My answer :-  'In plain English - FUCK OFF'



This is so sweet, a dog who discovers he doesn't have to swim




Tony Bray died just before Christmas  2014, and I shall miss him.  He was a good and dear friend who visited and loved Hamilton Hall and would sit in the Conservatory meeting and greeting people as they came and went and everyone loved his peaceful and charming manner.  He was 79 years of age and a real sweetheart.    He will be missed, dearly missed.








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