Saturday March 28 , 2015








Hamilton Hall is getting  a whole new computer system installed over the next few days so if you do not get an answer to an e mail straight away or your booking is taking a few days to do,  please be patient with us and wait.  It is a massive job,   and my new IT guy is ' on the ball.'   ( Just wish I was...)

SPRING IS HERE and the daffs are flowering and tons of other things are sprouting out of the earth and getting ready  for flowering soon.   The sun is bright and clear today after a wet and windy night and everything looks clean and crisp and ready for a long hot summer ahead.  I love the spring as it holds great promise of things to come... hot days - long warm evenings,  a busy hotel, great laughter and fun,  enjopying the garden and growing our own tomatoes etc...  So thrilling.

Bought a new wadrobe for Room 2 and have now decided to put a more Indian feel into that room so will be shopping in Glastonbury later this week and see what we can find ...  and as we have a quiet spell ahead - it is time to get the atic sorted out and the basement done... and this week a new kitchen floor is going down and some re painting in the kitchen taking place to brighten it up and make it fresh.
Some venues leave it for so long that eventually the entire venue is a dump,  whereas I choose to update and replace and redecorate and sort out the venue on a conmstant basis so it never gets run down and never is in need of much ayttention as we keep it up on a constant basis, and  this is one reason we are always short of funds and yet why Hamilton Hall is always ionm good nbick and well worthy of your spending some time here.

BOUGHT ON E BAY - this week, my first item where I had to place a bid and see if I had won the bid,  and I did, so at last I am e bay trained... ha ha ... I bid on an antique Indian sari and the original price seemed low so I doubled it and put the bid and as there were no other bidders at all, I got it for the price they were asking and I am thrilled... Just waiting now for it to turn up.
Tons of people buy almost everything on e bay and as my first time - I can see why some find it quite addictive but you would need to check how much youy are spending as it would be very easy to overspend.
I am re-doing room 2 with an Indian theme as there is a great deal of beauty in Indian artwork and I shall take a day off and go to Glastonbury next week as there are many lovely shops  full of oriental, Indian and all sorts of stunning objects etc.  and slowly the room is coming together...  It'll be lovely.  It all started with a new wardrobe - and it just felt it had an Indian feel to it and it set me off....  ha ha ...    This is the time of the year when all the touch ups, re paints,  stick downs, clean and recover is going on getting good old Hammy Hall spruced up ready for the summer ahead and thank God for Robert - who lives and works here - and Chris from next door, as they are doing the hard work while I make lunch... ( typical housewife - also telling them what to do from the comfort of the kitchen... )

Glastonbury is lovely .  I haven't been in ages and am quite looking forward to the 2 hour drive from here through pretty countryside and almost no motorway or dual carriageway at all, just country roads and beautiful scenery.

Went to Glastonbury today ( yes I took a day off - and out )   and whatever you do - DO NOT USE YOUR TOMTOM - as it will send you through the country lanes - barely one lane wide - through some pretty scenery but NOT the most direct or fastest or anything else,  while claiming it was the fastest and most direct -  just lanes that do eventually lead you to Glastonbury but in a very VERY irritating and annoying manner.  I know the way - I have driven it many times, but not for some time and I thought I would trust Chis's TomTom and see what happened - and so much for that.
On the way back I decided to completely ignore what Basil Fawlty was telling me ( John Cleethes  on TomTom) and went the way I knew - and it was straight forward and so easy and yet all the way,  TomTom was trying to take me off to the right - off to the left - off anywhere into rural country lanes and off the main road, which is still only one lane each way so not a dual carriageway or motorway - and still not that speedy,  and to keep trying to take me the most illogical  route imaginable shows that we truly cannot trust technology.  I have to admit to taking the same time to get there as I always did - about 2 hours, but when you are driving past farm buildings and cow poo,  and you are driving 4 feet from their front dopor and their animals, you do wonder where the hell this lane will lead you and should you ignore what you are being told and just turn around. 
Had a lovely day although it was cold and wet but still managed to buy some things for our new Room 2 's Indian feel - and while costly in Glastonbury, I adore the place... Love the spiritual buzz and the friendly people, the eclectic cafes and shops and the whole feel of the town / village.  I would never wish to attend the festival - too many people and too much mud - and this is the wrong time of year anyway - and it is good to get home, unpack, explore the new things, make plans for hanging various pieces tomorrow,  and enjoy a restful evening after 4 hours driving ...

WEATHER MEN ADMIT TO GETTING IT WRONG for last weekend when they said it was going to be a heat wave and it is nice to see they are starting to admit their mistakes.  Mind you, One would assume they have years of practice at apologising for getting it so wrong as it seems that at least 80% of weather predictions by the MET Office - ARE WRONG - and not just slightly wrng, bt DISASTEROUSLY WRONG.  Rain when they say dry - Fog when they say clear skies - Wind when they say it is to be still - and over the years what with ' BarBQ Summer' - which was a miserable mistake - it seems th MET is unfit for purpose.

OUR CONSERVATORY here at Hammy Hall - just as you walk in the front door, use to be our smoking area and since the law change hardly anyone has used this space at all and it is rather wasted, and while full of plants,  no one sits out there any more or even sees it... SO :-  This summer we are clearing out most the plants and with some tables set up,  are going to grow some indoor veg like lettuce and tomatoes and see how we get on.  I have no experience of indoor growing  and any suggestions or hints you can offer,  the better.    The conservatory has a solid roof and windows on the east, south and west and gets plenty of sunshine and the windows have blinds to shut out the harsh summer sun,  and I am hoping for a good crop of home grown food to share with the guests in the summer - and all this despite the guest who wrote the daft review somewhere that all our food was ' microiwaved food slopped on a plate.' 
I already grow some stuff ' out the back'  and have enought opmatoes to feed the street ( last year ) and if you can suggest something that may be easy to grow,  pretty and colourful and will feed the five thousand ( ha ha )  and is available in my local garden centre,  I will give it a bash...  Only too keen to grow my own and have less harmful chemicals in my food.

MISSY HAS A NEW FRIEND:  Chris - my neighbour who does all our maintenance here,  has acquired a new dog from a friend who could not cope with it, and this 5 year old Jack Russel cross has become part of the fmaily as he lives in and out of Hammy Hall and Missy,  my dog,  has taken to him and they are friends.  He does bark sometimes when he wants something and he does have to be kept on a lead when you walk him as he likes to go off on his own,  and he is not my dog and I am training Chris as well as the dog - and not how to SIT and ROLL OVER and BEG - ha ha -  but how to be as well behaved as Missy.... ha ha
The first night he was here he was humping just about anything that would move, my leg, my arm, Missy told him off a few times so he wasn't going there again but this did not deter him from trying his luck with us - and he was like a mad thing - determined to get his lipstick ( or dipstick ) out for all of us to see and we did giggle.  Thinking this was going to be a nuisance we discussed having his balls cut off and he must have heard for the very next day he settled down and has not pestered or climbed a single leg since.  Maybe he heard. Maybe it was just that initial meeting. Maybe it was my human sex appeal that confused the little fella ( I can understand that ... ha ha )  and maybe being around Missy - a spayed bitch - that was hard for him,  and maybe it was just all new and exciting - as now he is very well behaved and while he does like to bark occasionally and is not as well behaved as Missy,  he is doing alright and is a sweet little thing.

PRIDE - THE MOVIE - see below
I sent out an e mail to our adult bating group members  offering a free copy of the DVD to anyone who booked within 48 hours for the upcoming event we are hosting here and I did not have a single enquiry.  Not one.  Interesting how people ask repeatedly for varius things and suggestions are always being offered and when you plan such an event - as requested - and then it flops because of lack of numbers, it does dishearten and batray trust,  as it costs me money organising and planning these events and when you ask for it and then do not attend it dissapoints.  Hugely.
COME ON GUYS - you will complain if Hammy Hall closed down and there really is nowhere to visit for such events and we do have the largest Diary of Events for gay and bisexual men anywhere in Europe,  and without your custom .........


time is running out to save


March 30th 2015 this offer ends


My brother has just had his first holiday in over a decade  by taking his caravan down to sunny Spain for 6 weeks and he arrived home yesterday to stories of constant rain and wind, flooding and thunderstorms.  He spoke of being in the caravan feeling it rock about all night and having to wear normal winter clothes much of the time.  He and his wife had a great time and enjoyed caravan living and I am sure he will go again,  it is just such a shame for them that the first time away in such a long time, and taking the caravan and car and everything down to Spain was a long haul trip and not a cheap one,  and for the weather to be so bad is such a shame for them. 
Mind - with so much turmoil on the planet and so many peoples lives turned upside down -  none of us can complain as at least we are not living in Syria or Afghanistan - and while we may complain about the credit crunch and shortage of money - job - sex life - no boyfriend - and so much more - I also appreciate what I do have and thank God for the blessings that are bestowed upon me - even if I do not always understand and appreciate - I am alive, I have good health - I have a home and a job I love - and friends and customers I clasify as friends who support and offer their best,  and I am thankful for all that life has given me.  In return, I do what I can in my own small way to put something back - Free holidays - money for just causes - space at Hammy Hall for local political / self help / environmental / mental health and other groups I support,-   to meet here for free - as well as trying to offer a varied and different approiach to some of the news items you hear on the telly - through this web site.    

If only we all did our bit - remembered our humanity and how we are all in this togethjer, regardless of religion or anything...  and be a global family.



I often see these awards and think - well - who voted that the best pub / club / gay venue - as no one asked me and who voted it the best ???   ... and consider it all a load of bollocks to get you to spend more money in their bar.  Trip Advisor;-  while I say they are tossers and a waste of time - this certificate of excellence is an award because of the amount of positive feedback we have received from those who have stayed here and THAT is wonderful and I am proud and thrilled about that.  Compared to many other venues, we could easily be a 3 or 4 star B&B but I do not buy into the tourist board schemes which - again - are just money spinners for the council - and I do not waste my money with something that has such little meaning. 

66% of visitors attend alone.
22% attend  with a partner / friend
6% come on business


New Year Joke:

When I found out I was Bi Polar, I didn't know whether to laugh or cry.




Written by Stephen Beresford and directed by Matthew Warchus

  I ordered this movie from Gays the Word Bookshop in London ( HERE ) after a customer suggested it and I have not cried as much while watching a movie as I did last night.  Filled with sweet tender moments that make you ' fill up'  and several times when the tears really flowed - as the story of a group of gay men and lesbians decide to collect money and support the coal miners during the Thatcher period of destroying the Miners Union back in the 1980's  and the ' coming together' of people from very different communities - 1) Coal Miners - 2) Gay Men and Lesbians - and the acceptance and rewards that these very different communities find through a battle with authorities for acceptance of a way of life and to keep their mines open.

With those from the gay community understanding persecution and bigotry only too well,  they appreciate and value what the miner
s are going through fighting the Thatcher government for the right to keep their livlihoods and their communities up and running.  Gay men have fought for decades for acceptance  in law  ( which we tend to take for granted now we have all we fought for ) but these were the days when GAY PRIDE MARCHES were political and had a powerful message about equality and not the Mardi Gras celebration of - er - what  exactly ???  - as it is these days up and down the country and the London  Gay Pride marches of the 1980's were London based - and tens of thousands would attend from all over the country.   We had a common goal we shared - about acceptance and a change in the law - and the way these gay men and lesbians took it upon themselves to raise funds and moral for the miners - is breath taking - and I did cry - several times.

I found this film to be very moving and as I am old enough to remember the onset of HIV and Aids and all that was ' going down'  in the mid '80's,  this film is well worth a visit and have a big box of Kleenex handy,  oh and you will laugh out loud as well - as there are many very funny scenes.
With some familiar faces - this well produced and executed story keeps its point and keeps you watching.  Not too ' over the top' and certainly not too preachy about gay rights - it hit the nail right on the head and combined the difficulties of being a member of the gay /. lesbian community and a member of a small mining community and a coming together of real opposites with a common goal,  and from this coming together,  acceptance and love prevaile. 
I shall certainly be watching this film a lot with customers here at Hammy Hall and shall certainly now be ordering at least another dozen copies from 
GAYS THE WORD BOOK SHOP - as they helped - back in the '80's - by offering the group of fund raisers to use their facilities in the shop and I would rather spend my money buying the DVD from them than Amazon.







"Marijuana is far safer than alcohol, tobacco and multiple other illicit substances, researchers say, and strict, legal regulation of cannabis might be a more reasonable approach than current prohibitions. Those are the findings of a new report published in Scientific Reports that compares the lethality of the recreational use of 10 common drugs, including marijuana, alcohol, tobacco, heroin, cocaine, ecstasy, methamphetamine, diazepam, amphetamine and methadone."



3 IN A BED - repeated again - 06/02/15

The TV programme I was involved in - ' 3 IN A BED' was repeated on channel 4 again today and I recceived around 125 e mails from people full of praise and congratulations and I am always very humbled by peoples comments.  I replied to every single e mail in turn as they had taken the time and I consider it rude not to reply, and 95% came from straight women who understand bullying and how I stand up to the bully in the programme.

It does sadden me though, although it did actually make us all laugh  - when this one below came through this evening - naturally with  a fake e mail address so I cannot answer,  and it REALLY says a great deal about these two men.
You can make your own mind up as I am not even going to waste my time writing a response for this web site:-  they simply are not worth my time.

'OMG just seen the repeat `Three in a Bed` you are so disgusting. As a gay couple we are sat cringing how such a programme & TV can air gay guys like you ?? your both ugly as fuck, obviously riddled, have the total opposite views to life than any normal people so you can`t be surprised to why people hate you. Such a bad example for gay guys. I hope you experience much un happiness in your life. x'

Very sad and actually quite pathetic.

However - this one below was a typical one that flooded in and I share it with you here :-

Hi, I Just watched you on 3 in a bed, and just wanted to say that you were a complete ambassador with what you are trying to provide at your B&B. You dealt with the difficult situation in a calm, composed and measured way and you are to be congratulated for the way you acted. Your B&B seems like a wonderful environment for your specific clientel and your vision. I am so glad there are people like you who are happy to do nice things for people, just because its the right thing to do. lots of love and very best wishes, Annette

Dear John: I think you handled the thinly veiled prejudice you received with great dignity and you laid the smackdown superbly! And hard as it to change minds, I think you may just have started a process of someone beginning to challenge their own fears and prejudices.  So, whenever you get an email from some abusive bigot or terrified conservative, please remember that there are many people out there who feel inspired by what you do and completely support your work.  Dani

Today I received - through Paypall - a donation for £10 to cover the cost of the book I gave Andrew in the programme froma  complete sytranger, a women, who watched the programme and was so moved.  This kind and thoughtful gesture moves me dearly and a very big  thankyou to all those who have sent their best wishes and so many kind wiords about the programme ct. It is very humbling.



Chatting to some guests here the other day and the phone rang. I was away for about 25 minutes and when I returned thay wondered where I had been for so long, and when I said on the phone to a customer they looked pouzzled why it took so long. I mentioned that the enquiry was not so much about the hotel,  but more about how the man on the phone was going to be circumcised in a months time and was asking me all about it.  It seems the hospital and various people involved had offered him no counseling or any kind of advise about what to do and what not to do - afterwards - and he was dead nervous and so - out of the blue, had founf my web site and thought I sounded the right person to call.  My customers were amazed and astounded and couldn't believe it.  I told them how this was quite a common thing here - and that tons of people phone or e mail and ask advise etc. on tons of things and if and where I can offer a sensible answer and try and alleviate their doubt and/or fears - I will.  This man needed to know about after care - managing a cut dick compared to an uncut dock - ie: wanking.  I told him all about it - took him through some sensible techniques and advised him accordingly and if and when he ever coinsiders making a reservation at Hamilton hall, it will be good to put a face to a voice on the phone.    It earns me nothing but is the decent thing to do. 
They were absoluytely amazed and couldn't believe the conversation I had just had - right in the middle of an afternoon cuppa and how casual I was about such a conversation.  There are times when you need someone to talk to about stuff that few can help wqith and if and when I can offer some good and sensible words, I will, and I hope I helped this man.  It took 20 minutes out of my day and I consider that nothing when i consider the anguish he was going through and how he stated at the end how greatful he was for my time and how at ease he now felt.

And why not.,  If more people just took the time to listen and respond with kindness, wouldn't this be a nicer planet ?


A woman just called and said that she was on my web site and how much she was enjoying it and that while we are a men only hotel, she was fascinated with how I spoke on the web site like a normal human being and not some corporate model of professional service with cold indiffernce.  She said she was giggling and enjoiying it and had been for several hours ... so that was a really pleasant and cherrished call and thankyou to her. It cheered up my afternoon.





Every single event that takes place at Hamilton Hall comes from myself - every idea, every notion and just about everything;-  and as much as I ask you all what you want - the response is zero.  It is the same for any gay venue, yahoo group and charity - when it comes down to it,  99% of people are somewhat apathetic and seem to expect someone else to do it all for them. Joining in and taking part seems impossible for some people and it is as if their GET UP AND GO HAS GOT UP AND GONE and it is left to the very few to organise, plan and facilitate and then feel very dispondant when input from others is so dreadfully low.  Many great events and workshops etc. are cancelled because of lack of input and unless someone else organises every little detail,  most seem content to do nothing.  Your help below is requested.  You can sut and paste onto an e mail and address to


As a MEN ONLY HOTEL - one of only a few left in the UK today that is strictly men only
and the only residential venue in the UK hosting more events and theme weekends than anywhere else -




One suggestion I would make is to open up for cash one night visits - it sometimes makes it much easier.  Ry xx

How about a Tight Jeans weekend. Regards Malcolm..

John: Would love to spend a whole weekend in nappies and diapers.  Any plans for a weekend for us kids into our babyhood.  Robert.



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Thought you might like to see these e mails to and from Hammy Hall.  

It did make me laugh.


To Hamilton Hall :-    ' If I come to see any of your clients in the hotel do I have to pay anything?'

My Answer: :- 'I have no idea what you are talking about … . in plain English please.'

His answer :- 'In plain English: Can I come to your Hotel and have sex with your clients (I expect your clients to pay me) You can not expect me to pay for anything as I am short of money.'

My answer :-  'In plain English - FUCK OFF'








A generation ago, schoolchildren caught fighting in the corridors, sassing a teacher or skipping class might have ended up in detention. Today, there’s a good chance they will end up in police custody.

In Texas, a student got a misdemeanor ticket for wearing too much perfume. In Wisconsin, a teen was charged with theft after sharing the chicken nuggets from a classmate’s meal—the classmate was on lunch assistance and sharing it meant the teen had violated the law, authorities said. In Florida, a student conducted a science experiment before the authorization of her teacher; when it went awry she received a felony weapons charge.

Over the past 20 years, prompted by changing police tactics and a zero-tolerance attitude toward small crimes, authorities have made more than a quarter of a billion arrests, the Federal Bureau of Investigation estimates.

Nearly one out of every three American adults are on file in the FBI’s master criminal database.

The USA has between 5 - 8% of the worlds population but 25% of the entire worlds prisonser are in the USA, and this sorry state of affairs tells us that either this country is absolutely full of criminals, or that the authorities are too heavy handed and abusive with its people and that many - quite simply - should never have been put in jail or even tried in the first place. 



The world only beats a path to your door when you're in the bathroom.


When I'm finally holding all the right cards, everyone wants to play chess.


It was a whole lot easier to get older than it was to get wiser.


This is so sweet, a dog who discovers he doesn't have to swim




Tony Bray died just before Christmas  2014, and I shall miss him.  He was a good and dear friend who visited and loved Hamilton Hall and would sit in the Conservatory meeting and greeting people as they came and went and everyone loved his peaceful and charming manner.  He was 79 years of age and a real sweetheart.    He will be missed, dearly missed.








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Dear John: