Are you only in the sex industry for a few months to pay a bill.
Not going to stay selling sex longer than a few months ?
Earning good money but spending most of it on 'the high life'
Having the wrong kind of sex just because they are paying.
Taking risks with your health.
Are you good to your clients and do many repeat with you ?
Is it all getting too much for you ?
Emotionally, sexually and physically - is it fucking you up ?
What happens when your looks fade, you are washed up and screwed up by the industry and you have nothing left to earn money with ? What the hell does an old whore / tart / escort / sex worker / rent boy / social worker going to do with the rest of their life ?
What do you tell people ?
YOU CAN LIE TO YOURSELF AND YOU CAN LIE TO OTHERS,
BUT THE SEX INDUSTRY DESTROYS MORE PEOPLE
THAN SURVIVE IT.
WHICH IS GOING TO BE YOU ?
These workshop weekends are open to gay / bisexual men
and to women in the industry
YOUR FACILITATOR FOR THE WEEKEND:
'I was a full time sex worker, dealing with up to 9 clients a day - every day - 7 days a week for 50 weeks a year for 15 years full time;- and on a part time - occasional basis, for at least a further 15 years. I owned and ran one of England's more sucessful escort agencies and the only one exclusively for escorts over the age of 30 - ( gay men obviously ) and I personally specialised in Massage ( with a happy ending ) and in Play Room Sex - as I had a full dungeon room and offered a leather top agressive service.
I am HIV Negative and never caught a thing - not even crabs, and except from being a little barking mad ( thank God for that ) I am in excellent health - emotionally, spiritually as well as physically.
I have owned and run Hamilton Hall for 13 years and this weekend workshop while being hugely popular with the escort agency owners, as they know how important it is for the escorts to learn some guidance in this business, all too often the arrogance of male escorts demands they already know it all and so do not attend, and then they wonder down the line, why their life is so badly fucked up. There is no one more sutied or experienced toi share the wisdoms of the sex industry - and no one with an exclusively men only venue specialising in events for gay / bisexual men.
Over the years I have seen hundreds of escorts / sex workers come and go. Many have been fine with the industry and earned their money and quit while the going was good.
Many, however, did not.
They ended fucked up emotionally, physically and spiritually - broke because they had spent every penny and now in desperation as they had nothing else to sell to earn money. Many people are 'damaged goods' to start with and the sex industry will find your cracks and will expose them for the world to see and you are then really fucked... well and truly, by the very profession that could - with some guidance and advise - save you from financial ruin.
With some intelligent and wise input from someone who has been there, done that, worn the T Shirt and written the book, you can save yourself from the dangers that the oldest profession WILL throw at you and WILL cause much distress and WILL fuck you up if you allow it to.
So be honest with yourself. You know you need this weekend workshop and you know it will do yopu the power of good.
See you soon. John
Come and share a laugh with other sex workers
and share in some of the wisdoms that could easily save your life.
Come and be with the UK's longest established gay male sex worker for a weekend of conversation, questions and answers as well as
MEDITATION - SELF WORTH - BOUNDARIES
and tons more things to help
WHAT IS IT LIKE FOR THE CLIENT
HOW TO COPE WITH AGRESSIVE CLIENTS
HOW TO AND HOW NOT TO
TAX - HOW DO I COPE WITH THIS ?
'Who is my friend, or are they with me because of the money I have ? Who can I trust ? '
And if you are arrogantly saying you do not need this and
it's a load of bollocks, then you are exactly the kind of
person that DOES need this weekend and your arrogance
is exactly why you will fail,
and fail you will in one way or another.
TIME TO BE REALISTIC AND SEEK SOME GUIDANCE
BEFORE THE BUSINESS DESTROYS YOU
I have seen too many sex workers destroyed by the business. I have seen too many people damaged beyond help. I have seen broken relationships, time in jail and suicides - and all because they did not know who to ask for help and a little guidance. I have seen and witnessed too many people destrpyed by the sex industry and for numerous reasons - not least the sex itself but the very attitude thrown at them by clients and society in general. It is noit a game, it is serious business, and one that can end in death.
Come for this weekend and see if we can help you to build a career that can and will span the decades - if you so wish - and make you wealthy - and help keep your head together.
These days magazines even have ' ESCORT OF THE MONTH' which seems very nice and friendly and above board and acceptable, but do not believe the lie.
CONTEMPT - DISRESPECT - ABUSIVE - INCONSIDERATE
COARSE - ARROGANCE
are just some of the attitudes thrown at you by the very publications all too keen to take your money and then snigger and point fingers behind your back and the gay media is generally the worst. Even for them, it is all about the money you pay them and they do not give a damn for you - as you are just another whore to them.
There is one portion of the general community at large,
who are dreadful towards gay people,
and it is, gay people.
Come and learn some basic guidelines to
'HOW TO COPE'
in an industry that can easily suck you in, chew you up,
and spit you out in bubbles so fast
you will not know what has happened.
SOME ASPECTS COVERED
Clients Self Worth
Disabilities - mental & physical
Friends & Family
Personal sex V Business sex
Abusive sex workers
Street workers / Advertised Sex workers & Agencies
It's not just about sex
in fact the sex act is often only a small part of what a good sex worker offers
Dear John: I hope you remember me. I came with a young escort I have been seeing for some time and we shared a couple of days at your venue and we spoke at length. You shared all sorts on ideas with him about the business and I remember you getting a little irritated with him as he just kept making excuses and denying things even though I was there and full of support for what you were saying. I know this lad will end up destroyed by the sex industry but his attitude keeps him living ia lie, You were spot on with him but he was not prepared to listen. When we drove home he tried to tell me off for putting him through such a hard time and that he did not appreciate the feeling of being ganged up on by you and I, and I did point out that it was not the case and was all for his own benefit.
He was really not amused as he thinks he knows it all and I know I am just another punter to him, but I care and want him to do well, to be sensible and to have a future out of the sex industry one day. He's only 19 and cannot do this forever. As you say, it will destroy him if he does not learn some basic guidelines early on.
Thank you John for your pearls of wisdom and for trying to help him. He is still messing about and always broke and I have had to cut him free and stop seeing him. I cannot sit and watch someone constantly pressing their own self destruct buttons - especially when we tried to wise him up.
I wish we could turn back the clock and I come and see you as an escort when you were younger as you are a sexy man with a sensible head on your shoulders and it is just a shame so many of these young guys are so dense.