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  is just another con

I was offewred a free listing on YELL.COM and then the spam mail started in vengance.  I soon found out that may have offered me a free listing - which is of absolutely no use to me whatsoever - but what was actually doing was collecting e mail addresses which they then sell on to busioness on a disc with up to 90,000 other addresses - and this is an abuse.
It was not explained to me that this was what they were up to - and it was not what I wanted at all.

So watch out when offered anything for free,  as there will be a con attached and one in which has not answered even afer 4 e mails from me and silly answers from them where all they do is state they will remove me from their free listing but my e mail address remains in their data base for selling.

This is against the data protection act and I shall be reporting them.




I have put various signs on our front fence for the passing public to read,  offering help to any elderly person during the winter months if the weather is too bad and the streets too slippery for an elderly person to get to the shops, and we will shop for some
basics for them.  They will pay for what we buy but our service is free and from the heart and it does state,  that we can also help with some of our own stock from Hamilton Hall as I always keep plenty of tinned soups,  beans,   porridge,  long life milk,  bread and other basics in house and willingly share with an elderly person if they are house bound and the social services cannot get around because of the weather.

It may be 45 minutes out of my day - and it may be a cuppa and a chat with someone who is desperately lonely and who has not seen anyone for days, and just think how your heart will feel when they beam a smile at you in gratitude.




This was the initial e mail from a customer through this web site:

'Hi have you any more spaces for two fabulous people this Christmas? If not then how about dates in January 2015 that would be suffice. Also can you send me some information on your hotel as I do not have time to trawl through your labyrinth maze of a website. Also this is going to be surprise for my truly remarkable young man I would like a nice bottle Krug Rosé Brut NV Champagne and arrange some flowers, chocolates on arrival etc. Look forward to your response with price and more information on your gay hotel. Also is payment discrete as I have to be careful and prudent in one's actions as one is married. Your hotel and staff need to be wise and discrete in handling practical matters; exercising good judgment or common sense thank you,  BT'

This e mail shocked me when the author turned into a vile malicious asshole - and I knew it was fake as the champagne is £255 a bottle in Waitrose and they expect a small hotel like ours to have this in stock ? It beggars belief., More to the point, this is one of the oldest cons in the business. It is fake. It is a way of stealing money from me and as I was not born yesterday,  I basically told this person to fuck off.

In 15 years I have never been asked for Champagne for the room and besides the fact that we are not licensed, WTF did he expect.  He continued with quite offensive e mails because I had caught him out as the lying con man he is - and in an average year I get around 150 blatant cons - tricks to steal money from me, through e mails like this, and this Champagne is a common one I have had several times before.  
It works like this:

I receive an e mail asking if they could collect 20 bottles of this stuff from me if they can pay in advance with a credit card.  They then collect the booze and vanish and the credit card bill comes back later as stolen and I am out of pocket.

Then there is the 12 Priests who want to stay and fully pay in advance with a £4,000 extra to charge so I can send them the £4000 to cover translaters etc. and when that one turns out to be fake, I am again, out of pocket. 

Magazines that do not exist offering me an editorial on the venue if I just spend £500 on an advert and the free editorial will be a whole page...
Web sites that ask for hundreds of £ a year and you never - ever - hear from them again. The web site may be up and running but for what you have paid ,  it is a complete waste of time and does nothing for your business. ( usually gay sites ) 

I get asked if I would like to adverise on tons of gay holiday web sites full of gay friendly hotels - and it is grossly too expensive for gay venues to advertise on -  so what is the point ?   It is not,-  therefore,-  a gay site but an excuse to advertise all the corporate hotels and none of the gay venues,  and is nothing more than a con.

Tons of people claiming to be from a Tourist Office hoping to use us as a venue and what is the special offer we are prepared to offer them, what discount of commission;- and my answer is absolutely nothing;- they pay the full fee and no bonus or comission is paid by the venue ( me ) as I know exactly what they are trying to do... con me. 

I suppose some people are foolish enough and some gullible souls have found themselves in deep doodoo because of a weak moment on e mail and which they really did not mean,  but end up in the clink.    One loacl women thought a black guy offering her love all the way from Nigeria was genuine and she was so pleased in her late 60's to find love, that she parted with £68,000 to pay for immigration and lawyers so he could come and live with her here, and it beggars belief that this woman could be so lonely;-  and now she is lonely and her life savings have been stolen from her.  Really tragic. 

I could go on
as it is endless the way people try and con venues out of their money  and this guy above with his champagne was no different.   A con. A liart. A thief.   And then he actually has the timerity to leave a negative response on Trip Advisor and as usual, these anonymous reviews are never monitored correctly by TA and anyone can leave a negative response and we have absolutely no idea who these people are and their anonymity allows them the protection we are not offered as an advertised business.   I think TA should always ask for more ID before allowing a review to go public,  and I do not care how busy, how huge, how difficult this would be for them,  as they have the future of many businesses in their hands and they need to take more responsibility for their actions.



'I found the owner self obsessed, annoying, crude and offensive. I was shocked when he exsposed his genetals at breakfast and pulled down my partners pjs as he brought coffe up to our room. The room was comfortable and clean, genrally the hotel was comfortable other than the breakfast area had a funny smell, not sure what that was. It was exspencive and we had to pay extra for a cooked breakfast, there was no activity going on and given the advertisement we felt cheated. Apparently what was included was continental breakfast which apparently all purchased from Liddles. Sorry fella but we won't be visiting again.

This review came from a  couple of guys in Southampton who came during a quiet spell here and spent an age talking to me about their new breakfast cafe they are about to open in Southsmpton and all seemed fine to me. We got on well, shared a laugh and although I thought them a litle boring and uninteresting,  we chatted for ages over breakfast and they were in no hurry to leave the table  after they finnished and we talked for ages.  Then I find this on Trip Advisor and it wakes me up to the fact that some people are just so two faced, so cowardly they are too scared to talk to me about this face to face and how all they wanted was advise on running a cafe and then turned into people I wished I had never been so nice to... but then... that is my nature.

To attend an event at Hamilton Hall YOU BOOK AND PAY FOR IT and it seems they were expecting an event for no cost - as in for FREE - and that 'aint about to happen.  They came for a weekend at £160 for a double room for 2 people for 2 nights - AND THEY EXPECT AN EVENT IN THERE AS WELL... @ £40 a night each...

Quite ludicrous.

Lidl's is also not spelled that way and so what - bread from Lidl is no different to bread from Tesco so what a stupid comment.  The funny smell in the dining room was probably fresh ground coffee. In 15 years I have only offered a cooked breakfast for the last 5 years  and before that - only continental was available.  In any Best Western or Holiday Inn breakfast is an extra charge at around £10 - £15 for a standard English Breakfast - and all off a hot plate as well and not cooked fresh;-  so WTF do these queens want for their £40 a night ? 
I may be like Marmite, but to be honest,  how many of us can look in the mirror and state that everyone likes us - EVERYONE, and if you do not like me after I have donated hours of my time helping you, then you are just an asshole, a user, a vile person I would rather not have wasted my time with - and the only reason they came was to suck information out of me and then leave this kind of review on TA.  I am absolutely disgusted at how some people behave and appalled at how some suck the life out of others and then find fault with them afer all the help and guidance offered.  Absolutely disgusting couple.

There really are some nasty people about.  So - maybe I will drive up and experience their greasy spoon cafe in Southsmpton one day soon.   I can visit Ikea at the same time as I often buy my candles from there -  Want to join me for a laugh...?



We have been having some really wonderful weather down here this week ( late January 2015 ) with bright and sunn y days, and yesterday I took my dog for a long walk around Christchurch Golf Course which has some truly stunning views over Hengisbury Head, th sea and vast areas full of horses and swans - yauchts moored and so much beauty - and with the bright sunshine on the  water and the vast open sky blue above,  it rally is a wonderful season to be alive.  It is cold, but far from freezing and I am wrapped up warm and the dog and I enjoyed a really lovely hour in the fresh air together.



When injustice becomes law,   defiance becomes duty.






I am reminded of how Transport For London tried breaking the law - bullying and intimidation to screw me of £175 for something they lied and cheated in stating was illegal when it was not, and after an 8 month written and phone called argument between us,  I WON and they REFUSED to apologise or pay compensation. Today - I would sue them.  They were claiming  money on false charges - breaking the law - claiming the law was on their sides when it was lies lies LIES - and as the mighty power of TFL is enough to make most people pay up - and not fight - they usually win - so they are no better than CRIMINALS BREAKING THE LAWE AND LEGALLY GETTING AWAY WITH IT . They are no better than scum.


Pope Francis Demotes Highest-Ranking

US Cardinal Over LGBT Issues


It's been in the news. Now it has been confirmed. As of this past weekend, Raymond Leo Burke, America's highest-ranking cardinal at the Vatican, was officially removed from the Vatican's Supreme Court, and demoted to chaplain of the Knights of Malta, where he will reign with much less responsibility. The ultra-Conservative and anti-gay cardinal, continuously challenges the jurisdiction of Pope Francis, and the Catholic Church's new receptive stance on homosexuality.

How ironic it is to find the demoted cardinal is from the United States. What does that say about America - that even the Catholic Church and a pope are ahead of so many anti-LGBT lawmakers and extremists in this country.

Weeks after taking office in 2013, Pope Francis asked, 'Who am I to judge?' speaking of the LGBT community. Since then, he has had great support for his progressive views, and of course, great opposition. Raymond Burke is one of the pope's strongest opponents. The 66 year-old Burke believes homosexuality is, 'always and everywhere wrong [and] evil,' and continuously questioned the authority of Pope Francis, now 77. Burke told Buzzfeed in October:




Thanks to Chris who told me this one - and it really works:


  1. Get a metal pot stand.  Put 3 or 4 Tea Lights - lit - in the middle together and have each one a couple of inches from the other
  2. On the top on them lower a terracotta garden pot with its bottom upwards and where the candles heat burns up the inside of the pots and not straight out of the whole at the top. 
  3. The heat of the candles will heat up the pot so you cannot even touch it and the heat from just 3 or 4 small Tea Lights will warm the whole room. 

Be careful with candles and never leave to burn without supervision or where children, the elderly or pets can knock them over;-  and not in a draughty location. 

If using Tea Lights NOT on some kind of metal or glass stand, then ALWAYS put them on a solid surface - NOT PLASTIC - as Tea Lights will melt down through the plastic and set fires.  They become extremly hot - hotter than a lot of people realize. 

Always put them in a safe countainer when alight and always take care with naked flames in the home.

I have been using one for the last couple of weeks and I have noticed I can turn down the heating in my own private lounge as it actually has been getting too hot and is a wonderful way of heating the place without paying a fortune to the gas and electric companies that are so screwing us all. 


click above to read all about this dangerous legislation





Eighty-eight thousand deaths a year?
One in 10 people in America die from alcohol abuse each year.




US Secretary of State, John Kerry representing a country which makes Genghis Khan look like a wimp when it comes to illegal invasions, still retains the prize for jaw dropper of the decade:

"You just don't, in the 21st century, behave in 19th century fashion by invading another country on completely trumped up pretext", he pontificated on CBS' "Face the Nation." 

It really is enough to take your breath away,- the gall of this idiot.  Does he assume we are all idiots ?



The following BOURNEBATERS poll is now closed. Here are the
final results:



- YES, 19 votes, 41.30%
- NO, 14 votes, 30.43%
- INDIFFERENCE TO SEX, 1 votes, 2.17%

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'We have all been in abusive relationships, and sometimes we were the one being abused.'

Marianne Williams

















So - remind me once again, what is it that these guys above are guilty of - oh I remember -

sharing the truth of what our governments are up to that they want kept hidden for fear

the people will rise up in absolute horror at what they have been up to and kick them

out of power and make a lot of changes - perhaps.  

So, it seems the government has more to hide from the people than they care to let on.  

I wonder why ?



Had a couple of guests stay recently who worked as geologist with a ' BIG PETROLEUM' company ( hint ) and when I asked them about Fracking they both said much the same thing,   that it was not environmentally a good idea as the concept of high pressure water and chemicals being pumped underground was unknown and the damage these chemicals were / would / could do to the water table, the environment was dangerous and unknown and could cause earth quakes and it could be very dangerous to human and animal health.   There simply was no evidence to claim it is safe whereas the common sense about the dangers is clear.

This coming from professionals who work in the field  , travelling the world working in the oil and gas industry for over 50 years between them.

Interesting that two very seperate geologists both said much the same thing.