who worked at Hamilton Hall from December 2008 - January 2011
CONTACT THE POLICE BELOW
BUT NOT IF YOU JUST WANT TO FIND OUT WHAT HE HAS DONE
Please call Police Constable 2557 TRENT -
Incident / Reference number C:11:C:8746 -
on 01202/01305 22 22 22
or e mail her on
otherwise e mail John Bellamy on
Since Kristian left us because the police were catching up with him, I have had loads of phone calls and e mails from those who have been burned by him over the years and it seems he is not just an opportunistic thief - who sees an opportunity and grabs it - but someone who has made a career out of stealing, lying and manipulating people and it has brought much sadness, grief and heartache to those he has conned. Stealing money from a man who was ill with PCP and on deaths door is dreadful. Conning an old lady out of her life savings is unthinkable. Stealing charity money while pretending to have cancer - leaves me speachless. I truly thought better of him than this and it is sad that after experiencing him, it leaves you distrusting and questioning everyones motives - which is sad - and like everyone else before me, I am sad for Kristian.
Like many, I do miss Kristian, even for all his lies and cheating ways. he has a heart of gold when it suits him and he is the kindest and most thoughtful man I have met in a long time and I don't care to think that all his kindness was just a way of getting around me, gaining my trust and friendship so he could con me. I care to think that somewhere inside this man, is a caring soul who is just caught in a trap and cannot find an exit, even though I honestly offered to help him, he still ran and out of fear, has never looked back.
He is such a bright, intelligent, presentable and hard working man that he could have the best job - earning a lot of money - and have friends and respect - instead of the loathing, the hatred and the bile filled words that I have read from others on e mail. He could have it all, and all through his time here at hamilton Hall he was desperate - absolutely desperate - for friends and respect and worked so hard at befriending others - and bullshitting us about how everyone loved and adored him and made up such stories about his life and background that always proved to be false - and it saddens me that the people who did be friend him and he became close to - he ended up stealing from them. Find out their weak points - who had money - who had anything - he could steal - and to have absolutely no conscience - no guilt, no remorse and no feelings at all for those he has harmed, sends a very sad and pathetic message about how this man doesn't understand the basic - the most basic - of things - LOVE.
His family seem to have disowned him. Friends last as long as he is in town and before he is back on the run again with the police after him and friends left in shock and horror at what he has done, and I am desperately sorry for all concerned.
I have thought many times since Kristian vanished about deleting this page on my web site, but then I hear in my head the pain and anguish in peoples conversations with me on the phone - since Kristian vanished and since I let it be known what he had done - from others who had been stung by him, and that alone keeps this page on this web site. One man is so destroyed that he cannot get on with his life as he doesn't know who he can trust, and this is a common thread from many who have been 'taken in' by Kristian and now feel very hurt and betrayed.
Yet I cannot fathom why he has allowed this to be a way of life. he is a wonderful man who could really be in a good well paid job, and he has no one to blame but himself. It is such a shame, especially as I offered him a way out but he could noit accept it as it meant telling me thr truth and - to be honest - I think he is unaware of what the truth is any more - or certainly - afraid of his own truths, and is so caught up in the Walter Mitty - that as he gets older, he will find it harder and harder.
I feel desperately sorry for everyone concerned. Including Kristian.
He was certainly my best worker - ever.
Until proven guilty in a court of law - even though I have evidence and a confession from Kristians own lips that he stole from me, all this is conjective until proven in court. It seems his rights are more protected in law than those he robbed from and his human rights are paramount above his victims. The law is an ass and the police have done precious little in finding him as he is a low priority case - and as usual, the victim is offered little respect and I was even told off by the police women above for actually putting this on my web site - but as they are doing nothing to find him, I shall continue with this in the hope that someone - somewhere - will read this, see him, and get him facing his accusers in a court of law so these people can have closure.
The human rights of the victim seems to come second to those of the person who has abused them. As far as I am concerned, as soon as a thief picks up a brick to throw through my window to rob my home :- As soon as a mugger spots a victim and takes ain :- As soon as anyone puts in motion any kind of illegal act against another - THEIR HUMAN RIGHTS SHOULD COME SECOND TO THE VICTIM - WHO DID NOT ASK TO BE ROBBED, RAPED, MUGGED ETC. and the manner - all too often, that the legal authorities offer the victim is second rate compared to the rights of the criminal. Too many times the victim is left with a life of fear because not only have they been abused by a bad person, they have been abuse dby the very system that is suppose to protect them.