Stress management starts with identifying the sources of stress in your life. This isn’t as easy as it sounds and you need to spend some time thinking about this and being honest with yourself. Your true sources of stress aren’t always obvious, and it’s all too easy to overlook your own stress-inducing thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. Sure, you may know that you’re constantly worried about work deadlines your love life, money problems and maybe even about the children, but maybe it’s your procrastination, rather than the actual job demands, that leads to deadline, familt and emotional stress.
Until you accept responsibility for the role you play in creating or maintaining your stress ( and remember, IT IS YOUR STRESS ) , your stress level will remain outside your control.
Think about the ways you currently manage and cope with stress in your life. Your stress journal can help you identify them. Are your coping strategies healthy or unhealthy, helpful or unproductive? Unfortunately, many people cope with stress in ways that compound the problem.
Unhealthy ways of coping with stress
These coping strategies may temporarily reduce stress, but they cause more damage in the long run: Most will have a negative effect on your health and will leave you worse off in the long run.
If your methods of coping with stress aren’t contributing to your greater emotional and physical health, then it is time to find healthier alternatives. There are many healthy ways to manage and cope with stress, but they all require change. You can either change the situation or change your reaction. When deciding which option to choose, it is always helpful to think of the four As: Avoid, Alter, Adapt, or Accept.
Since everyone has a unique response to stress, there is no “one size fits all” solution to managing it. No single method works for everyone or in every situation, so experiment with different techniques and strategies. Focus on what makes you feel calm and in control.
For me personally: If after a bad day when I have been stressed and I might have barked at someone for getting in my way and slowing me down, or who I consider did something wrong and I told them so;- at night before I go to sleep I rewind the day in my head and review what has happened, and on those bad days I lie there hating myself;- hating that side of me that reacted so badly and knowing that my reaction was bad. I beat myself i my mids eyc anf torture myself dreadfully.
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