Is sex between strangers allowed and safe ?
This question keeps being asked of me here at Hamilton Hall as if I am the expert. I have suggested that like me - they could Google it.
No idea why some people cannot Google things for themselves.
We have already been through one pandemic which descimated our community where tens of thousands of young gay men died back in the late 80's and 90's - and we survived.
If you were not born back then and have grown up with HIV / AIDS, we survived by ABSTAINING - NO SEX - or at least SAFE SEX - because we were scared.
DEATH IS SOMEWHAT FINAL.
We took responsibility.
We were mature.
We were intelligent enough to figure out the dangers and we survived by keeping it safe. Once we knew how it was sexually transmitted, SAFE SEX became the norm. Tens of thousands of others who were not so safe - maybe because they thought it fake news, or maybe because they were just irresponsible or the dick was so huge they just had to sit on it - or maybe they were just with the wrong guy at the wrong time and these people have been dead and gone for decades now.
In one year I went to 14 funerals and only one was for a lady friend with cancer, as all the others were HIV related and all in their early - mid 30's.
I was a sex worker from 1985 - 2000 and as a top, I fucked tens of thousands of men - always with a condom, and never even caught crabs. Not a single thing, and not even wankers cramp - which is very real thing.
Maybe I was just lucky or maybe I took control of what I was prepared to do and how I was going to do it and always played safe and today I am still HIV Negative. I took responsibility for myself and those I was having sex with.
Many guys are just stupid - many are irresponsible - many just don't care and many thing ' live fast and die young' - which is fine but don't you fuking dare take me with you.
Naturally we all want to get back to having sex again - as many of us do not have a partner and have gone without sexual contact for over 5 months.
I searched the internet and found this piece below:- There are many such pages available and if you are to lazy to Google something yourself, then realise you part of the problem and not a guide out from under this chaos.
All close contact (within 6 feet or 2 meters) with an infected person can expose you to the v
irus that causes coronavirus disease 2019 (COVID-19) — whether you're engaged in sexual activity or not.
The virus spreads by respiratory droplets released when someone with the virus coughs, sneezes or talks. These droplets can be inhaled or land in the mouth or nose of a person nearby. Coming into contact with a person's spit through kissing or other sexual activities could expose you to the virus.
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People who have COVID-19 could also spread respiratory droplets onto their skin and personal belongings. A sexual partner could get the virus by touching these surfaces and then touching his or her mouth, nose or eyes. In addition, the COVID-19 virus can spread through contact with feces. It's possible that you could get the COVID-19 virus from sexual activities that expose you to fecal matter.
There is currently no evidence that the COVID-19 virus is transmitted through semen or vaginal fluids, but the virus has been detected in the semen of people who have or are recovering from the virus. Further research is needed to determine if the COVID-19 virus could be transmitted sexually.
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Since some people who have COVID-19 show no symptoms, it's important to keep distance between yourself and others if the COVID-19 virus is spreading in your community. This includes avoiding sexual contact with anybody who doesn't live with you. If you or your partner isn't feeling well or think you might have COVID-19, don't kiss or have sex with each other until you're both feeling better. Also, if you or your partner is at higher risk of serious illness with COVID-19 due to an existing chronic condition, you might want to avoid sex.
The safest type of sexual activity during the COVID-19 pandemic is masturbation. Be sure to wash your hands and any sex toys used, both before and after masturbating. You might also consider engaging in sexual activity with partners via text, photos or videos, ideally using an encrypted platform to provide privacy protection.
Beyond sex, there are other ways to create or maintain intimacy with a partner at a distance. Go on virtual dates together, share music you enjoy, write letters to one another or dress up for each other. Be creative. ( JB: Dear God - they cannot be serious...write a letter - WTF - is this supose to be sensible advise for alternatives to sex.....)
If you are sexually active with someone outside of your household, consider these precautions to reduce your risk of getting the COVID-19 virus:
Minimize the number of sexual partners you have.
Avoid sex partners who have symptoms of COVID-19.
Avoid sexual behaviors that have a risk of fecal-oral transmission or that involve semen or urine.
Use condoms and dental dams during oral and anal sex.
Wear a mask during sexual activity.
Wash your hands and shower before and after sexual activity.
Wash sex toys before and after using them.
Use soap or alcohol wipes to clean the area where you have sexual activity.
JB Comments: So there you have it guys. We seem to be back to the SAFE SEX we endured for 25 years under HIV / AIDS and sadly it seems that this time it is not just the gay world that is at risk of anonymous sexual contact but everyone.
This time the governments of the world will not ignore ( as they ignored the gay world ) and will work immediately on finding medications that work ( unlike the middle '80's where there was NOTHING done at all for so long as it was just seen as ' the gay plague' and who cared a fuck about us - certainly not Ronald Raegan and others - who put NOTHING into Aids research until after thousands had died globally.
This time they weill hbget theoir fingers out and do hat needs to be done because Granny and Grandkids are all at risk and not just the cock sucking queers.
The hypocricy is staggering.
So Play Safe everyone, as hard and as gagging we may be, to stay alive we must, once again, be careful who we have sex with and how and - sory guys - if you take chances and if you fuck around and if you pass it onto others - and you know the risks - what does that make you ? What does that say about you ? What should we write on your tomb stone ?
'Killed his whole family and circle of friends.' perhaps...
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Well done John. You tackled the question of having sex - or not - in the days of Covid 19. Having also lived through the last plague to hit the gay world, and having lived with HIV for over 30 years, it has not been fun. At one time 4 hourly meds to be taken 24/7 - being up all night vomiting with my head down the loo - serious weight loss and I had my will written and was even read the last rights in 1999 as I was at deaths door, and yet pulled back and took a different route and lived and today - with the correct meds, I am as fit and as healthy as I should be for a man in his mid 50's. But I would be dead if I had not taken responsibility and followd the guidelines and kept myself alive.
Today, it is a blast from the past as Safe Sex returns.
Thanks for enlightening me about sex in the days of Covid 19. Now I know, now I can act accordingly. Rue.
Just when I thought it was safe to go back in the water - ( quote from Jaws there...) as just as it was okay to not wear a condom when fucking if someone is undetectable, seems we have to go back to wearing a condom again as safe sex rules in the day of Covid 19. So bang goes my sex life again as cannot fuck for anything with a condom so would rather suck and wank with a guy... it is too frustrating when condom causes droopy dick. Neil M.
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