I was such a fool and you warned me.
By Adrian W. I was conned out of £110,000 by someone in Ghana and now I feel such a fool. John Bellamy - You warned me and it caused me to stop coming to Hamilton Hall. I was really angry at you for lecturing me about being foolish and thinking some hot stud from Ghana would be in love with me and want to come and live with me and want to spend his life with me and I fell for all the stupid lies an BS and I paid out over a 3 month period just over £110,000.
You were totally trying to help me wake up before I foolishly lost my heart to a con man and yet, I turned against you and towards the con man and now feel so foolish.
Now I have to admit, you were right and I was such a fool.
I am still alone and now my life savings have gone.
If you remember me showing you a picture of a really handsome and hung like a donkey guy in Ghana I was writing to - ( pictured left - which isn't even the man I eventually met .) You told me I was an old fool to believe this was genuine and I was so hurt. You told me he was only after my money and possibly immigration into the UK but more than likely, just my money and I would not hear it.
You were so kind and gentle with me but I was not hearing a word. I wanted praise and not being told it was fake. I wanted to believe it was true as I wanted him to be really in love with me. I wanted it to be real. I wanted you to be pleased for me. I wanted the world to know someone was paying me attention and who said he wanted to be with me. I fell hook line and sinker as he said all the right things. I now realize he was probably reading from a script.
I felt so insulted at your lack of consideration that someone would actually want me, for me, a 59 year old over weight man with a pretty average uncut dick and nothing special to look at - and a retired railway worker because of ill health and on a small pension from work and other than some savings from my Mothers estate after she died, I was alone and unhappy. That's when I came to Hamilton Hall for a number of years prior to meeting him.
He started e mailing and saying how he found me on line and wanted to get to know me better, and we had wonderful chats through e mail for almost 3 moths before he started asking for cash.
Originally it was just £500 to pay his rent as we went forward with him saying he would like to come to the UK and meet with me as he had nothing left in Ghana after his whole family were killed and that was the second time he asked for money to bury his parents, two sisters and a brother all - supposedly - killed when their home caught fire. He said they would be given a paupers burial if I didn't help and - I helped.
So that was the first big cheque for £20,000 and I can honesty say I did believe him. He seemed so truthful and broke down on the phone talking of his loss and my cheque book was out so fast. He came over as trustful and confessed how much he loved me for helping in this way. He claimed he was having a really hard time getting use to being there alone with no family left and there were taxes to pay on the fathers estate and - you guessed it, I paid that as well and that was £33,000 - and I know - FOOL..... but I sent another amount through to help him. This is where the story gets worse John and I have to admit I am so ashamed for being such a nob.
I flew to Accra, the capital of Ghana and although he said it was not a good idea and kept trying to talk me out of it - he said he would meet me at the airport.
I waited for hours in case he was late and eventually took a cab to the hotel and thought maybe he would turn up there.
I was in the hotel for 5 days before he turned up and I was climbing the walls - and as by now I was suspicious, he was nothing like his pictures at all and came with some friends who robbed me blind. They took everything but my passport and clothes and all my travellers cheques for the trip and credit cards were taken and I was left crying and sobbing alone - and whoever he was - just left and I never saw him again.
His e mail address was a hot mail account and closed.
I had never felt so foolish and down as I did then, having to get myself home with precious nothing.
Everyone said I should have gone to the police in Ghana but I just wanted to bury my head in shame and grief and get home to cry in my own bed and feel miserable at home. To wake up to what had happened.
Heartbroken and feeling so foolish. So foolish that I should think someone would be interested in me. I dived right deep into depression after that.
It gets worse John.
By the time I got home and reported the cards stolen was nearly 5 days later and he had almost emptied all my savings through the card and I only have myself to blame. YOU WARNED ME.
The bank were not interested in helping but then, that's to be expected from the HSBC and in all I lost just over £110,000 and now I have nothing left in savings and rely totally on my small pension. My parents worked so hard for so many decades to pay for that house, and when they died I sold it and put the money in the bank to help in my retirement and now, the whole lot has gone and I feel my Parents anger even though they are both dead and I feel their annoyance at how hard they worked and some thief in Ghana is benefitting from all their hard work.
I am a desperate old fool. I fell for the handsome face. I fell for the kind words. Someone was actually interested in me for a change. I felt important and didn't want to believe it to be fake. I wanted to be loved. I wanted to love in return. I just wanted what millions have, a partner - someone to cuddle at night and be with, and foolishly although you warned me, you were right.
So now I feel so unloved, unworthy, and broke. So my warnings are if someone pays you attention, do as you said to me at the time John, ask yourself
' What can I do for you ?'
and always suspect others motives until proven to be genuine. I am at a loss and worse off than ever.
Thanks for listening John and I wanted to apologise to you as you were right and I flopped you off and stopped coming to HH and now cannot even afford to come, but wanted to say ' You were right - I was the fool ' and to say thank you John. You tried to wake me up but I chose to ignore you. You are very blessed John. Blessed and wise. Adrian W.
John Bellamy answers:
Hard story to read and I am so sorry it went the way I thought it might. I have offered Adrian to come as my guest some time but I think he is too embarrassed although I have told him not to be...
( Adrian is not his real name )
I have heard this so many times.
Lonely people prayed on my hung handsome men or women who are just after your money an don't give a damn for you, while pretending to be lovingly interested and with a future together.
WHAT CAN I DO FOR YOU ?
is the question I always ask if someone pays me a little more attention than normal as having been a sex worker running a massive escort agency, I could earn people a LOT of money in a VERY short time, and I was always wanted as a ' friend' by many who didn't give a fuck for me, but for what I could do for them and how much money they could earn through me... and I was always suspicious when anyone paid me personally too much attention as - maybe I am just a cynical old witch, or maybe, I am no ones fool... and maybe, just maybe, I am right, the world is full of scummy people out for all they can get and are resentful to those who have something they envy and want.
its me with the cut dick...always good to see the smooth muscular guys.....mmmmm
Anyway I read the article about the chap and the guy from ghana....oh dear....it does happen a lot and also to many women....guys from ghana...Nigeria...tunisia etc etc....I got chatting to a scammer on a dating site...i had a week off so free time so decide to play about with him....after a few days he asked for only 50 quid...said he would send nude pics of his dick and ass etc....and for 100 quid pics of him nude with some friends...said they all hung etc.....but i must keep it all a secret as nobody knew he was gay etc....!!!....
so i got a western union payment slip and filled it out etc and made it look like i had sent it to him....of course he went to collect it and no money....!!....so i told him i would send again as maybe an error....anyway he asked for 2k and said that when we meet he could bttm for me...first time for him....and can i help out with school fees etc....i told him i travel around africa on business.....he went again for the money and nothing of course waiting for him....we chatted for a few more weeks and he finally admitted he was in the internet cafe along with 20 or more other boys using fake pics and trawling the gay sites to fleece westerners....told me one guy in his village got 200k out of bloke and had built a flash house, bought flats and cars etc so the other boys see this and also try....they even have a sort of ' school' where they learn what to say and if they get cash they share with the teacher.....
----------------------------- Hi John,
Just been reading through your blog posts and feeling a bit guilty of not making enough effort to keep in touch really.
Your articles really inspire me and motivate me to channel my own writer’s voice. Whenever I read your stuff it’s like talking to you, and I miss our chats.
I guess I could make the excuses of being too busy, not really being an email-y person and wanting to save all the exciting stuff for when we see each other again in person, but something in the universe prompted me to just write this email and let you know that I often think of you and just because I haven’t written to you doesn’t mean that I’ve forgotten the impact you had on me back in 2020.
I do believe that people are supposed to meet and I have been reflecting just now on how your path is in many ways one I feel I am yet to tread - not exactly in the same way as we are two different people but in the sense that you and I both integrate our spirituality with our life purpose and mission to share wisdom for personal healing in a creative and unorthodox way.
One day I may still tell your story, in my own way (probably as a drama) once I’ve got to grips with my own personal narrative and where I’m coming from as a writer. I’ve been doing lots of shadow work and inner child regression these past few months to help me figure that out - it’s really powerful stuff and will probably come in useful for the rebirthing workshop in May which I’ve booked for.
Looking forward to seeing you again soon- it feels way off but will probably be here before we know it. Life goes quick when it’s full.
Some of you have heard how I had a very wealthy lover in the USA over three decades ago who died a few years ago absolutely broke. Not a dime to his name. Not a penny.
It must have been extra hard for him as he had never known poverty - never experienced going without - never knew what is was to be broke - just without funds - which were usually and quickly replenished without lifting a finger. He died - apparently - living rent free in a friends house in a bedroom - when this man had been use to having multi millions and it is desperately sad. At the end of your life when you want to relax a little, finding out your money has all gone must be hard and tragic and lifechanging - but for all the wrong reasons. He had nothing to draw on, no past history of being broke, and it hurt.
His arrogance meant he couldn't get a job - working in a bar - serving in a restaurant - being a cleaner or even doing what he was trained to do as an interior designer, as that was all too embarrassing for him now, so he went without and suffered.
Many pay into a pension plan for decades to have it stolen at the last minute - Maxwell comes to mind plus a few others - and that must sting you in the butt that some rich cunt has stolen your pension - like Green and BHS - who swans around the world on one of his 3 multi million £ yachts while thousands of people struggle because this cunt stole their pensions. Any nothing is done.
No wonder the world is so angry. No wonder people are wanting change.
Same old corrupt system.
Same old corrupt government officials.
Same old bullshit lies. Clearly, the powers that be don't give a fuck what ' the common people think' as they simply don't care. They are rich and powerful and we are not. Manipulating the truth through the news outlets allows them away with murder - look at the sex pest - tax evader - lying almost every breath he takes - Trump - THEY EVEN MAKE THE MOTHER FUCKER PRESIDENT - and we wonder WTF the planet is in such a mess.
Every phone call or e mail could be a con to steal your money and everyone has to be on guard of this - 24/7 - as it comes from those who do not give a shit and will easily fuck you bare back with no lube and make you bleed - metaphorically speaking - and leave you for dead by the side of the road. THEY HAVE NO HUMANITY - NO HEART - NO SOUL - AND ARE TO BE PITTIED.
Oh and jailed for a hundred years if caught and I am sure there would be a queue to smack the shit out of them by those they left broke and hurt.
We do not live in very nice times and each and every single one of us - MAKE IT GOOD - MAKE IT PLEASANT - AND BE NICE and then we can all move forward together - trusting.