When I was London's Top Sex Worker between 1985 and 2000 - it never failed to amaze me how many people are fascinated - awe struck - at how sex workers manage to ' perform' on time and when needed and how we put up with those we do not fancy while still managing to ' do the dirty deed.' It also amazes many how we put up with bad manners, smelly bodies, cheesey foreskins, shitty asses and arrogance beyone your wilders dreams.
You would be ASTOUNDED at the COMPLETE lack of thought towards the sex worker by some who assume a shitty ass and smelly body is acceptable and that as the sex worker is being paid, they will put up with anything -
WELL THINK AGAIN -
WE DO NOT
AND WILL NOT
AND WILL TELL YOU TO YOUR FACE.
It's unnacceptable behaviour.
For a start ;-
With £150 ( 1990 prices ) in your pocket at the end of an hours work - this is an incentive to give as best you can.
With being able to earn 2 or 3 times the National Average Take Home Hourly wage - and yet you are aso taking that home 24 hours a day and not the 9 - 5 with an hour off for lunch - means you are earning 3 or 4 times more than most people.
With the freedom to work when you want - earn what you want and when - and be free of asshole bosses telling you what to do while not having a clue themselves - With the freedom of no commuting to work - and as much time for your self as you want - it was a great lkife.
Mind you - JEALOUS - ENVIOUS - VINDICTIVE - RESENTFUL gay men are on mass if and when you have something - do something - or are someone - they resent, are envious and / or jealous of - and many on the gay scene while being fascinated with sex work, are pissed jealous that they are too old, too fat, too small a dick, too fat an ass - or anything they feel makes them unworthy of selling their body for sex - and it could be just that they are too much like ' the guy next door ' - and if you are going to pay hundreds of £ for a shag - you do not want someone who looks like the kid next door but more like a super star - someone with something bigger - harder - tighter - hairier or smoother - slimmer and more toned - someone who will share an intelligent conmversation with yoiu - listen to your problems and even offer a sympathetic ear and a shoulder to cry on and someone who shows an interest and helps in more than just a shag.
Many cleints may have come for a shag - and they got their shag - and often when dressing after a shower at the end - this was the time when the real reason for their visit would be shared - as while dressing clients would chat about their lives, wives, kids, jobs, problems and THIS was when I often invited them to stay for a cuppa - and with bewildered expressions of disbelief that the sex worker wanted the client to actually stay and chat some more - this was the time when some true healing would be shared and the client would leave eventually a changed man - not from the shag - but having someone to hear them - to listen and to comprehend and show some solidarity and undersatanding and in many cases, some advise that could and would benefit them enormously - and it took so little - just to show some humanity - some understanding, which sadly the gay community is sorely lacking in - and when you have taken the time to put yourself out to help others, the rewards are huge.