My gay lover tried to kill me.
- 1 day ago
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This is a true story. He tried to kill me some years ago and - I laughed.
Picture the scene. 5 star hotel Hyatt Regency on Waikiki beach on Oahu - one of the Hawaiian islands.
We had a log cabin on a neighbouring island of Kawaii and had been there for 6 weeks enjoying the sun and being as I was with my lover, it seemed ideal. So romantic. BUT:- after a while we needed a little bit of life, people and excitement, and while we loved each other, we needed some breathing space with others.
So we flew to Oahu - checked into the Hyatt Regency and naturally, we had a suite.
That evening after exploring the area and sharing the delights of Honolulu, we found this brilliant gay bar and sat at the counter, on stools, as you do - and all of a siudden he attacked me - hit me - no - he fist punched me right in the side of my head - absolutely no warning, no reasion, just WHAM.. and I and the stool I was on - was on the floor with everyone staring mouths open.
He fled the scene as I gatherd myself together, bowed and aplogised for the ' show' - laughing as I dd - and found him outside headed back to the hotel.
We actually had a fist fight in the street as I was NOT about to allow him to hit me at the best of times, and not like this. on holiday, in a bar full of people, IN PARADISE - as his actions were absolutely disgraceful and I was not having it.
Anyway:- The police stopped us fighting and we went back to the hotel and it's a litle vague here, because I remember he continued attacking me and me defending myself and then - I am on the floor and he is dragging me by the feet towards to glass doors leading onto a balcony, - now remember we are 18 floors up,- and he screamed that he was going to throw me over the balcony - and I just burst out laughing, real laughter, and it completely broke the moment and he ran out of the room and vanished for the rest of the night.
I planned the next day to fly back to California and leave him there but he asked - when we met the next day - ' I thought you might like to go to Maui for a few days' ( another of the Hawaiian Islands,.. ) and I was like ' OOoooo I'd love to, BUT YOU TRIED TO THROW ME OVER THE BALCONY LAST NIGHT' -
and all he could say was ' Oh put it behind you and move on' - and so - I did - and spent the next ' few days ' - which turned into 6 weeks, on Maui but I never forgot and while I forgave, I never forgot.
When you get on a plane and turn left. When you are met places by a car and driver. When there are over a dozen homes scattered throughout America, Mexico and Hawaii and your lover is abusive, and you are scared to leave - you do put up with it and you do learn how to pacify and relocate if and when things turn ugly, and while you may say I stayed for the lifestyle, I sayed because I loved him, deary, and eventually through pychology training in addictions, bereavement and relationships:- I grew to learn how to cope, how to deal and how to accommodate my lovers mood changes and temper tantrums for another year or so until it just got too much as we split.
Another long story.
We stayed and played and enjoyed the islands for a few months and eventually flew home to California where he had been putting off sorting through his Mothers estate who had died just a few months earlier and this whole Hawaiian trip and tantrum was his way of dealing with the loss and the fear and sorting through the estate, and while I told him I was here to support and help in any way I could, he took it out on me, his anger - his bereavement, his grief - and this was another nail in the coffin as to why, some years later and many fights and another attempt on my life ( this time inMesxcio with a broke cocacola bottle... But that's another story.
Hawaii was beautiful. The weather was perfect. They - to a point - speak English there - and is almost civilised - sadly with tons of Japanese buying up everything after the war and with the cost of living being EXCESSIVELY high - you are reminded you live on an island thousands of miles from the mainland - America - and island fever does hit home some times and you need to get off the islands and see the world.
Hawaii's history began with Polynesian settlers arriving by canoe around 940–1200 AD, developing a distinct, isolated culture. British explorer James Cook first made contact in 1778, triggering massive cultural shifts and population decline from foreign diseases. Kamehameha I unified the islands into a kingdom in 1795, followed by American-led plantation growth, the 1893 overthrow of the monarchy, and annexation in 1898, ultimately becoming the 50th U.S. state in 1959.
Life has never been dull and I have complete empathy for these women who stay in abusive relationships as they have nowhwere else to go - they feel embarrassed to tell their friends and family and they all say the same thing I would say about him - ' He is so sweet and kind and gentle and thoughtful, when he is not drinking, but when he does, he is the biggest cunt on the planet.' - AND THAT - FOLKS - IS ALCOHOL.
More next week
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