I've lost my erection...
- 2 hours ago
- 5 min read
Dear John:
I am depressed. I am down. I am old and now I have lost my erection and now I feel REALLY old.
I was never that sexual, having been married and have 3 grown children and since my wfe and I divorced many moons ago, I have been - on the fence - gay wise... I enjoy sex with men but my emotions are still for women, sex is one thing, affection is another.
I have had several bouts of cancer in my prostate and have had it removed, but as I am not passive, this does not affect me much BUT - with the meds I am on, I have almost completely lost the ability to get an erection.
I wank and I can come, but with a limp dick in my hand and not the proud 7 inches I had, and besides not getting hard, my dick is shrinking. I use to be a proud 7 inches and am now just over 5.5 inches, and the thickness has gone down as well, and all in all, it does so depress me.
I live alone and am 70 years of age and while fit, I do have lots of cancer treatments and every day aches and pains expected for a man of my age, and compared to many the same age, I am doing wonderfully, It's just - when I go to a sauna, no one wants a limp dick. I go to Naked Mates events, and again, limp dick.
Do you have any suggestions John ? Derek.
Derek;- You are not 16, or 30. You are 70 and need to give thanks that you are still alive and kicking.
NOW: How many others do you think - who are members of - for instance - Naked Mates - who generally are older and with fuller figures - are diabetic, have bowel problems, and prostate problems and maybe even cancer of the prostate or bowels. How many, who like me, have had a hospital stay due to a UTI ( Urinary Tract Infection ) How many have arthritis or gout. Most have been in hospital in the last few years for something, or at least, are on reguar medication for something. Everyone has their ' bridge to cross' and everyone welcomes the onset of older age in different ways.
Erectile Dysfuncion is nothing new and does affect older men, and just as the onset of my hair slowly turning white and a bald patch materialised ( or as Woody calls is - my Crop Circle ) I accept the changes to my body and my hair line and the fact that I also have problems getting a hard on, and often wank with a softie, and it does occasionally get hard but doesn't stay, so :- I made the decision that I am not fucking others any more, oral sex only, and while I get so many who want me to fuck them, I am NOT about to embarrass myself or made to feel inferior by someone who just lies there with their ass in the air doing NOTHING but complain when I don't get hard - and as far as I am concerned, my decision is right for me and if others dont like it, tough fucking shit. IT IS WHAT IS.
WELCOME TO OLDER AGE
Erectile dysfunction (ED) is the consistent inability to achieve or maintain an erection for sexual activity, often caused by underlying vascular disease, diabetes, nerve damage, or psychological factors like stress. Symptoms include difficulty getting or keeping erections. Treatments include oral medication (Viagra, Cialis), lifestyle changes, and therapy.
Common Causes
Physical (Organic):
Cardiovascular diseases, atherosclerosis, diabetes, hormonal imbalances (low testosterone), nerve damage (Parkinson’s, multiple sclerosis), and pelvic surgeries or injuries.
Psychological: Stress, anxiety, depression, and relationship issues.
The more you worry about it, often the worst it gets.
Medications:
Certain antidepressants, antihistamines, and blood pressure medications.
Lifestyle: Smoking, obesity, and chronic excessive alcohol consumption.
Symptoms
Persistent inability to get an erection.
Inability to maintain an erection during sexual activity.
Reduced sexual desire - too tired and besides, the movie starts in 10 minutes...
Risk Factors
Age: Risk increases with age, particularly after 40, though it is not an inevitable part of aging.
Medical Conditions: Diabetes and heart disease are significant risk factors.
Lifestyle Factors: Smoking, obesity, and lack of physical exercise.
Shitty arses, this looses me a hard on straight away and there is no getting it hard again and while I know this is psychological, tell that to the arse that needed to douch first. but then, - it is the Hirshey Highway.....
Treatment Options
Medications: Oral phosphodiesterase type 5 (PDE5) inhibitors, including Sildenafil (Viagra), Tadalafil (Cialis), Vardenafil, and Avanafil.
Psychological Counseling: Therapy for performance anxiety, stress, or relationship problems.
Lifestyle Changes: Regular exercise, smoking cessation, improved diet, and weight loss.
Other Treatments: Vacuum devices, injections, or penile implants if medication is ineffective.
Viagra / Cialis and other drugs are easily available ' on line' without eveN a medical exam - BUT BE WARNED, never take too much, and do NOT do poppers with stimulants as it can kill you and if you have a weak heart, you need to consult your doctor befor taking any kind of stimulant.
Prevention
Adopt a healthy, plant-based or Mediterranean-style diet.
Engage in regular daily exercise.
Quit smoking and limit alcohol intake.
Manage existing health conditions, such as diabetes and hypertension.
Get out of your head that there is a problem as that just makes it worse.
Try Vacuum Pumping your dick. It helps if loosing its size and shrinking and it helps with sexual desire, even if only on your own and to enjoy a good wank.
I find using a sound helps me get an erection even if just for wanking.
To learn more - speak to John Bellamy
01202-399227
Don't get pissed off at life because you have lost the ability to get an erection. There really is SO MUCH MORE TO LIFE than constantly looking for the next shag or the next blow - or - come to that - being seen as a sexy person, hot and fuckable... Sex is an important thing in many of our ives - and it does become an obsession if we are not careful. Sure - I was a sex worker and have had tens of thousands of sexual experiences and have fucked tens of thousands and sure - I MISS FUCKING - but having had 3 bouts of an UTI, and hospitaliised over it, and this is because I bare backed and while safe from HIV, does have the possibility of poo getting into your bladder and HAY PRESTO - hospital time and I am so over it... and if someone gives me grief, then they really can go fuck themselves.
You are so much more than your dick and balls, You just need to realise that - especially as you get older - and move your constant crutch thoughts to something somewhere else.
John Bellamy
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