Q & A - 05/04/26
- 22 hours ago
- 5 min read
Dear John:- I am a little nervous to write, but what the heck - I am a straight man, or so I always thought.
I have been married twice. First wife died after 7 years and 2 kids and second wife I divorced as there was no love and no intimacy between us, so what was the point. She also was not a good Mother to my kids - her step kids.
I have enjoyed a shit sex life - being shy and not good at chatting up women, so I have only ever had sex with my two wives and no one outside of these relationships.
I felt I was missing out.
It had been a couple of years since I had any form of sexual contact and then it was with a woman I paid and she was very good and showed me some stuff I had never even dreamed possible, and I enjoyed.
She told me I needed - however - to get myself a gay lover if I really wanted to enjoy good sex, which coming from a women sex worker I thought quite - either odd - or very intuitive of her. She said that gay men have it the easy way as no pregnancy - no mothly periods, no mood swings because of hormones, and men know what another man enjoys.
So I gave it ago.
Went to a local gay sauna - found online - and as nervous as I was, and I was shitting myself John I have to admit, and as hard as a board my dick was, I experienced my first 'blow job' and OMG John, the experience - that first experience - changed me forever.
If this is what men do together then I wanted more. Much more.
I am a Single Parent but my kids are now 18 and 21 so neither are at home as one is married and the other is at university and living away from home, so I am independant and - hogged that gay sauna for the next few weeks becoming a regular - as I knew nowhere else I could find gay sex. Found your leaflet for Hamilton Hall at the sauna and have been reading your weekly newsletter and it has been a revelation. I am determined to come and stay with you as I feel you could help me learn so much more that could / is important for me to learn. Is that okay with you. I also watched your YouTube channel. Michael ( Southampton )
Michael: There are some important lessons / guidelines to learn about the ' gay scene' as it can suck you in and blow you out in bubbles if you are not careful. It can be a dog eat dog community - many ' eat their own; and there are many back stabbers on the scene, and a little awareness of this - does help.
If you enjoy sex with a man and / or a women but could never actually love a man as you could a women, then you are straight bisexual.
If you can have sex with either but never fall in love with a women like you could a man, then you are gay bisexual.
If you can have sex with either AND fall in love equally with either, then you are happily bisexual.
But do not get caught up in labels - pronouns that just irritate - ALWAYS PLAY SAFE - use condoms, be sensible and never do anything because it looks tempting but dangerous. Trust no one, except your gut instinct.
I am here any time you want to chat.
JB.
John: Am thinking of leaving my home country as it is changing too fast in the wrong direction. I see because of our own President, he is making it dangerous to live in any European country as he rambles around taking pot shots at just about anyone that crosses him or doesn't reward him with some made up award and Americans are now hated more than we were before - all around the world - because they see us as being responsible for this appalling man.
Oliver! legend ended up penniless after having four homes around the world
Story by Fran Winston
Although best remembered for creating the beloved and enduring musical Oliver! Lionel Bart was one of the most prolific composers and playwrights ever to come out of the UK, despite the fact that he couldn't read or write music. Andrew Lloyd Webber described him as the father of the modern British musical". In 1963, he won the Tony Award for Best Original Score for Oliver!, and the 1968 film version of the musical won a total of six Academy Awards, including the Best Picture Oscar.
First of all you dumb fucking moron, the United States has not protected Europe for years and decades. Europe hasn't been under threat and hasn't been attacked by anybody and they are fully capable of defending themselves. Second of all you fucking nut job, the United States cannot tell any other country to do anything as WTF do they think they are. American laws are NOT applicable anywhere else but within the USA so STOP trying to throw your weight around other countries as it simply does not work and just makes America look stupidly dumb.
John: Excuse my absolute ignorance,
but sex changes, are they gay in the first pace ? I apreciate our sexual desires and wants change with time,
and I appreciate we love many different people over the course of a lifetime,
but I am curious were the affections go for a trans person. Teddy.
ave always felt you were born in the wrong body.
You were born a biological male.
You feel female and always have.
Yet you marry and have children.
Then you come out and decide to have a sex change to become the woman you always felt you were.
It takes years of serious therapy and physical operations - pain, stitches, hormones, things changing by the day, - not an easy journey for anyone.
Things change.
But what does not change
Is your skeletol frame that if dug up in a hundred years, will show a male body - a male frame, - and no matter how much you rearrange the fleshy bits to become female, the bone strcture will always remain male - PERIOD.
Your affection and your sexual desires change very little and if a straight married man has a sex change and becomes a 'lady' then S/He is now a lesbian.
Think about that for a while.
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John: I have read your newsletter and I am paying it attention. I am also stocking up of food stuff etc. as if this war gets any worse we will have shortages and I do not intend being caught without. Thanks for the advice. Well given and well received.
Joseph.
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