'It's like flogging a dead horse.'

gaymen2
Aug 14
3 min read

Updated: Aug 16

Dear John: You asked for input, so here we are.

'I FIND IT DIFFICULT TO CUM.'

I am late 60's. I enjoyed an amazingly healthy and varied sex life from the age of 20 - 50, when it was discovered I had prostate cancer. Medication and a depression took its toll initially and put me right off sex and it went some years before I attempted sex again - other than wanking on my own, and although I was always a top, I cannot - these days - get much of a hard on and so cannot fuck any more.

Many people want me to fuck them and when I say I only do oral these days, many turn away.

Their loss. As much as I am up for a nice long shag, my dick has other plans and tends not to get hard enough and I do miss those days of walking around with a constant hard on and even after a wank, your dick is still screaming for more...

There was hardly a moment in the day when I did not think of sex, - my cock, my arse, my nipples and I would often wear ball weights and tit clamps to work and no one would even know, but the excitement and anticipation it brought me during an otherwise mundane boring work day, was amazing.

Now I look at hot guys and many want to have sex with me, but I know it will be a disapointment for them so say no, as I don't want to embarrass myself - not being use to sexual disasters, I don't want to start now.

I can still wank, occasionally, but my dick is far from bone hard - and I tend to come with a half hard dick in my hand.

Not what I am use to.

Aging is a process. It's one we will all - if lucky to live long enough, go through.

Your body changes. Its needs and requirements change. Your desires both sexual and emotional change and you find yourself happy with things that would not have made you happy years ago, as with age, you mellow and mature and things seem less important.

But I miss my erection. Sure I wake in the night with a hard on but it soon goes down, so there is nothng wrong with me physically, it is probably more emotional.

I am learning to live with it but when I read your newsletter every Sunday and see the stunning guys you offer us throgh pictures, I do wish, I do hope, I do long for that hard sexual connection that I have so enjoyed over many years and to now be - soft - is hard to take... ( punn punn ) or not take at all.

Is this what we are all destined to find as the years pile on ?

Don't think I like being old BUT the good side is that while it takes me so much longer to do things - any thing - than it took me decades ago ( like getting out of bed ) now that I am less sexual, I have the time to spend on other things like, er - tidying out the garage - sorting my summer / winter wardrobe - and generally a lot less time on the computer looking for cock.

Larry H.

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