SHORT NEWS w/e 23/11/25
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SCROLL DOWN FOR CRISIS AT CHRISTMAS
John Bellamy writes:-
1 out of 3 reported abuses are towards men.
If you need to escape any kind of physical or emotional abuse at the hands of your live in parter, and you feel you need to escape for a few days to sort yourself out, figure out what to do, and have nowhere to go - Hamilton Hall will offer a few free days with all food etc. to help you find your feet, get some answers - offering a cooling off period and will help with a sensible attitude in order to help you help yourself. Straight, Trans, Bi or Gay - all men are welcome if you are pushed to the limit and just need a breating space.
This came about as I received an e mail promotion from REFUGE promoting care and support for women and children suffering abuse at the hands of men, and I returned their e mail asking what they did for men receiving abuse at the hands of women, as it is rife and yet left largely unreported.
This is their answer below:-
Hi John,
Refuge's specialist area is supporting women and their children, but we do recognise anyone can experience abuse. If you our someone you know needs help, below I have outlined several different ways in which you can reach out to Men’s Advice Line, who are specifically funded to support male survivors of domestic abuse.
· You can ring their helpline, open Monday-Friday 10am-5pm, on 0808 8010327
· They also offer email support, Monday-Friday 9am-5pm on info@mensadviceline.org.uk
· Alternatively, you could use their webchat, available on Wednesdays 10am-11.30am, and Thursdays 2pm-4pm: https://mensadviceline.org.uk/contact-us/
I hope these options are helpful for you.
Kind regards, Marie Supporter Care Executive
Phone: 020 7395 7771 | Email: supportercare@refuge.org.uk
Call Refuge’s 24-hour National Domestic Abbuse Helpline: 0808 2000 24/7 or visit www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk for support.
NOW: You will note that REFUGE takes calls 24/7 while male abuse victims are limited to certain times and certain days and so - basically - men are ignored. VERY APPRECIATIVE of Marie answering and sharing this information, but it is all still VERY ONE SIDED - and it would appear as if only women are abused when the truth is VERY MUCH the opposite. Just as many men are abused by women and not always physical - as all too often it is emotional, sexual abuse ( withholding sex ) constant nagging, bitching, as well as demoralising and constant put downs as well as slaps. Official figures put it at 1 in 3 abuses are towards men, but that figure is wrong as most men do not report the abuse. Women do, as they love to play the victim. Men are embarrassed to report abuse. Women know this.
One Local man hit his wife and knocked her out after she attacked him with a frying pan and a knife - cutting him badly and in defence he hit her back, AND HE WAS ARRESTED EVEN THOUGH SHE HIT FIRST AND CAUSED AND CREATED THE ENTIRE SCENE. He was eventually relesed and she arrested and done for causing physical injury and she was jailed for 7 days, but the fact was, the police immediately assumed he was the abuser and arrested him. She cried and played the victim role, as women are so good at doing...
WOMEN ARE JUST AS ABUSIVE AS MEN - IF NOT MORE.
Men’s Advice Line is a team of friendly Advisors who will listen and believe you. Our team are available to offer you non-judgmental support, practical advice and information.
Our focus is to increase the safety of men including those who identify as trans, who are experiencing domestic abuse (and the safety of any children) by providing confidential support.
We are strongly committed to offering a high-quality service. The Men’s Advice Line was accredited for the fourth time by the Helplines Partnership in June 2022.
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A man wandered into a shelter with only a bag of blankets and walked out with a Rottweiler who’d been returned three times—what makes two lonely souls recognize each other in a single, life-changing moment?
He walked into the shelter yesterday (Oct 13, 2025) morning holding a bag of old blankets and walked out holding a soul that had been broken and waiting far too long.
This Rottweiler had been left behind. Again. Returned thrice. Labeled “too much.” Too big. Too strong. Too misunderstood. But all he ever wanted someone to sit beside.
The staff said he’d stopped eating.
Stopped wagging his tail. He’d just lie there, head on his paws, watching the door as if hoping the next person might be the one who didn’t walk away.
And then he came in. Not looking. Not planning. Just listening. To the silence. To the eyes that didn’t bark but begged. And something inside him whispered, “He’s not too much. He’s just been without enough love for too long.”
So he sat. No words. No treats. Just presence. Slowly, painfully, the Rottweiler moved closer. Laid his head on the stranger’s knee. And finally let out a breath he’d been holding for months.
That’s the moment this photo was taken. Not a rescue. A reunion between two hearts that didn’t even know they were lost, until they found each other.
Now, this big boy rides shotgun. Sleeps beside the bed. Follows him from room to room like a shadow stitched in loyalty.
Because sometimes the most broken dogs create the strongest bonds.
To anyone out there thinking of getting a dog, don’t just pick the perfect one. Pick the forgotten one. The overlooked one. The one whose heart still hopes just like his did.
-Because you’re not just saving a dog. You’re saving a piece of yourlf too.
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NOW GUYS, THIS IS YOUR CHANCE:-
With Christmas coming, send in your stories about a time when you helped someone in need, a stranger who needed a meal, a warm coat, an old quilt or even just company or a £5 hand out.
How about offering a FREE CHRISTMAS DAY MEAL through CRISIS and help a homeless person - ' one of our own' - have a decent meal and a medical check up - and all for a small donation of £29 per person helped.
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They opened the champagne and began undressing.
When the bridegroom removed his socks, his new wife asked, "Ewww - what's wrong with your feet? Your toes look all mangled and weird.
Why are your feet so gross?"
"I had tolio as a child," he answered.
"You mean polio?" she asked.
"No, tolio. The disease only affected my toes."
The bride was satisfied with this explanation, and they continued undressing. When the groom took off his trousers, his bride once again wrinkled up her nose.
"What's wrong with your knees?" She asked. "They're all lumpy and deformed!"
"As a child, I also had kneasles," he explained.
"You mean measles?" she asked.
"No, kneasles. It was a strange illness that only affected my knees."
The new bride had to be satisfied with this answer. As the undressing continued, her husband at last removed his underwear.
"Don't tell me," she said. "Let me guess…. Smallcox?"
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A man finds a goose that was shaking with cold stuck to a pole in Montana. As he got closer he realized, wrapped up in her wings, was a tiny puppy she was shielding from the freezing temperatures.
We have so much to learn from the animals. Beautiful. (Both the goose and the puppy have recovered, were adopted together, and are doing well.)
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Mario, a 14-year-old boy,
shouted to his father to stop the car.
The father obeyed immediately, unaware of what had happened to the boy. He didn't even have time to ask. Mario got out of the car and ran to save a kitten thrown out by a cruel driver.
Stunned by the shock, the man didn't know what to do, but Mario soon returned carrying a poor cat that was meowing and writhing in fear, trying to escape. It had a paw injured by the blow, but Mario managed to calm it down a little and asked his father to take it to a veterinarian to have the kitten checked.
The man did as instructed, and when the veterinarian examined the cat, he said it had some bruises but nothing serious. He bandaged its paw and sedated it to treat a few minor wounds. The doctor told them they should leave it for a couple of days so he could give the kitten a thorough check-up and administer the necessary medication.
They did so, and Mario's father, who still didn't quite know what had happened, heard Mario describe how he saw a man throw the cat out of a moving car; unfortunately, he couldn't identify either the man or the car's license plate.
Two days later they returned to the vet; the kitten was almost well. The doctor told them they could take him home as long as they continued giving him medicine for his paw, which was the most injured part.
When the kitten arrived at Mario's house, he hid and was reluctant to come out; it was clear that he had been mistreated before. But Mario's family, with a lot of patience and love, finally managed to make the kitten gradually forget the mistreatment he had suffered, and after a while, the kitten, whom they named "Luck," would climb onto the sofa and settle down next to a member of the family, although his favorite was always Mario.
Mario's mom told her son that they shouldn't wish ill on that damned son of a bitch who did such a thing to a poor little animal, and Mario, being the good boy he was, just asked God that that bad man would never have any little animal again.
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He hadn't smiled in days, terrified of his upcoming 12-hour surgery. Then, two Navy SEALs walked into his room.
10-year-old Cody had been in the hospital for weeks, his body broken from a terrible car accident. To save his spine, doctors had to put him in a "halo brace," a metal ring bolted to a vest to keep him still. It was painful, scary, and he hadn't smiled in days.
He was facing another, even more dangerous 12-hour surgery. The night before, his Child Life Specialist, a woman whose job it was to help him cope, asked him what his one biggest wish was. "I want to meet a real soldier," he whispered. "A real hero."
That specialist had a brother. He was a Navy SEAL.
The next morning, the call went out. A SEAL team was in the middle of a 48-hour urban training exercise just miles away. When they heard the request, the team leader didn't hesitate. "We're going."
Two operators, still in full combat gear—faces covered in camo paint, night-vision goggles flipped up—walked into the pediatric ward. The hospital went silent.
They entered Cody's room. He'd been crying, but his eyes went wide.
"Hey, Cody," the first SEAL said, his voice gentle. "We heard we had a real fighter in here."
"You're... you're real," Cody whispered, his eyes locked on their gear.
"We sure are," the second SEAL said, smiling. "And we heard you were going into a tough fight today. We wanted to give you this." He unclipped a patch from his vest. "This is our team patch. We only give it to the toughest guys we know. And you? You're tougher than any of us."
For 10 minutes, Cody wasn't a sick kid. He was a new recruit, being visited by his brothers-in-arms.
John: I really filled up with tears when I read this story. Thanks.
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I stopped at McDonald's to get something quick to eat
and overheard a mother talking to her little daughter.
The girl asked softly, "Can we eat here, please?"
They bought a hamburger and sat at the table next to mine. Then the mother took a thermos out of her bag and poured what looked like tea for her daughter.
As I listened, I understood bits and pieces of their story. They had just left the hospital, and the mother had carefully saved just enough money for the bus fare. She had spent the little money she had left on a hamburger because her daughter had never been to McDonald's.
I finished my coffee, went back to the counter, and bought a Happy Meal. I placed it on their table and quickly left before they could say much.
But I will never forget the gratitude in the mother's eyes and the big smile on that little girl's face.
Sometimes even the smallest act of kindness can mean the world.
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