Can I sue the hospital ?

John: Some time ago my boyfriend died as a result of chemotherapy. Can I sue the hospital or doctors ? Matthew. You can try but you will not get anywhere Matthew.

IF you can prove negligence, it will be a very long and stressful process and could easily take you a decade to get anything as the NHS protects itself, and do you know it kills tens of thousands every year with bad medication - bad nursing - doctors doing the wrong operation and so much more but in your case, you need to take responsibility as you KNEW what medication your partner was on and yet, it seems from your short e mail above, you did nothing.

Chemotherapy is KNOWN to be toxic and a very dangerous drug Matthew. It can kill as many as it heals.

We all know this and you would have been told all about Chemotherapy when it was first talked about with your partner.

You were also able to thoroughly check out all drugs and side affects 'on line' as well - as I do appreciate when doctors talk and offer medical procedures going forward, we are often in a state of shock and do not always take in all that is said and we can - quite simply - get the wrong idea SIMPLY because we are not listening properly.

Doctors do not promote a dangerous therapy - or ANY medication - without first informing you of the side affects etc. and there are HORRENDOUS side affects to Chemotherapy, one being - DEATH OF THE PATIENT.

Did you check out for yourself the many good books on the cancer industry and a couple of VERY good books are by Philip Day -

HEALTH WARS & CANCER- WHY WE'RE STILL DYING TO KNOW THE TRUTH

and both are informative and easy to read and I expect, Matthew, you trusted the doctors and didn't ask many questions and trusted what they said was accurate and true and went along with all they said without questioning until it was too late.

PHILIP DAY - CANCER BOOK HERE

ALWAYS - ALWAYS - ASK A MILLION QUESTIONS - DRIVE THE DOCTOR AND NURSES TO TEARS -I DON'T CARE - BUT NEVER - EVER - JUST TAKE ANYTHING THEY SAY AS GOSPEL AND NEVER EVER JUST TAKE ANY DRUG WITHOUT CHECKING IT 'ON LINE' FIRST.

Then at least if you choose to take the drug you know what to expect and this, Matthew, is where you have to take responsibility for you and your friends health - and any Mother knows to check check and double check what the doctor is saying as even an inoculation can cause more harm than the actual illness the inoculation is against.

Matthew - you know this already.

I nursed a friend in Sarasota, Florida for 5 months and he was dying with cancers and was on drip chemotherapy once a week when I got there and saw how ill the chemo was making him, and gently talked him out of continuing with the medication, as we agreed, the chemotherapy was what was taking its toll on his health AND NOT THE CANCER.

He had absolutely no symptom from the cancer at all, no pain, no swelling, nothing - and other than a blood test that showed the cancer, he would have been none the wiser and stated that he would rather have NOT HAD THE CHEMO and probably lived the last few years PAIN FREE - whereas the chemotherapy left him nauseated, sick, frail, vomiting the night away and generally very unwell, spending at least 4 days after the infusion - in bed - washed out totally and with complete fatigue - FROM THE MEDS - and it was NOT the cancer - it was the medication.

This was not my first case of looking after someone where the medication did more harm than good and ended up killing the patient.

If I can suggest Matthew - you ask your doctor for a Bereavement Therapist as you are caught in the second stage of grief - ANGER - and blaming the doctors, ambulance drivers, and anyone you feel is responsible, and this is not healthy for you or them. As you can see from this chart, the 5 stages are quite clear and defined and you can take as long as you like sorting through this list and your grief, and I always asked my patients when I was a Bereavement Therapist - ' Would your deceased partner like to see you so down, so angry, so vexed at his / her death'- and they always answered no they wouldn't, so I would always ask ' Then out of respect and value for your partner, why are you ?'

As much as people may wallow in their grief and seem unable to move forward, some enjoy the attention, some need the attention, and that is selfish and dragging others down - and anything you choose to do - is a choice Matthew - a choice you alone can / will make and you may choose to remain angry and blame the world, or you can choose to accept and move on with your life and celebrate your partners LIFE and let go of the death that is haunting you.

Just think what your partner would say if he knew you were suffering so badly. He'd want you to remember the laughter and fun, the days and maybe years BEFORE he became ill and before life took a turn you were neither expecting and - as tragic as it is - remember the good times and learn to laugh again. You really can.

If you would like a few days at Hamilton Hall - as my guest for free - with BB&EM, and we can take a couple of hours to share a chat and see if I can offer some guidance and help and - maybe - just getting away for a few days will help.

John Bellamy

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