When I am conned out of money it really disappoints.

gaymen2
May 17
3 min read

When I am asked - for the first time in 25 years, if someone could pay half now and the remainder after the fact, I actually agreed - much as it went against my inner feelings - and he came and he enjoyed and he had all that was available and then he left and went home and I never heard again.

A month later - as agreed - I applied to his credit card for payment and it would not clear , dozens of times trying over as many days.

Was I being conned ?

I phoned and he was very apologetic and said to try again in a few days when he had the chance to put monies into the account, and here we are - again many weeks later - and fuck all .

Once again the card is declined.

So once again I e mail and eventually get a response telling me he has moved address - and no new address offered - no longer on the phone number I had for him and how very soon the e mail address I have for him will also be changed and again, no new e mail address offered - so I HAVE BEEN CONNED - STOLEN FROM - TREATED LIKE A FUCKING IDIOT and this really disappoints me. After all we do putting back into the community and after all we offer for free - to be conned and stolen from really irritates me.

So am I being treated as a fool ? Am I being stolen from ? Do I now take this person to the Small Claims Court which will destroy his credit rating and cost considerably more than is owed - difficult if he has moved and I have no details for him - or do I forgive and forget.

BUT - WHY SHOULD I FORGIVE AND FORGET ?

Hamilton Hall is a NOT FOR PROFIT VENUE and if someone is genuinly broke I have always offered free vacation periods with no strings attache and when someone cons me out of money like tis - I see it as no different to stealing from a charity and that - my friends, is where I draw the line and take action.

I thought I was doing the kind and thoughtful, considerate thing in letting him pay in two halves and where does being nice and thoughtful get me - as how am I to pay my bills - where does the money come from to keep Hamilton Hall open and it's staff paid - FURIOUS at myself and FURIOUS at an asshole trying - and it seems succeeding - to get one over on me.

I am already supporting Hamiltion Hall with my own personal pension money and then this happens ?

I really do not care what the reasons are - he conned me.

It sadly never fails to amaze me how many people there are out there and especially on the gay scene and who will stab you in the back as soon as look at you and will steal, manipulate and lie, to your face, to get what they want and they have, - like Donald Trump, absolutely no thought of the harm, the destruction and the misery they dish out to others with absolutely no guilt at all.

So before I name and shame you publicly - I offer a chance to pay up and be a decent human being and not just another con artist stealing from worthy causes.

It is up to you Duncan, It is up to you .

Do the decent thing or forever be known as a thief.

John Bellamy

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