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Hi John,I have a Question ? Do you allow Healthy Hiv+ Guest to stay at your Hotel ?

Maybe I over reacted a tad, but when I received this e mail above - I despared for the future of humanity when someone can ask such a backward and dangerous question to a gay venue who advertise - and have done so for 21 years - how we offer free holidays for those with HIV and those in need of a holiday but who cannot afford one. I was shocked that anyone could be that backward. Shocked that anyone could actually show themselves to be that backward and to offer such a bigoted view to the world, for that is what this is - a bigot. What if he has asked if we took blacks or jews - any different ? No of course not.

How anyone can ignore decades of medical breakthrough and major breakthroughs BY THE LGBT COMMUNIUTY to get the recognition we need - not just as equals - but with medication for HIV, marriage, pensions and life insurace and so much more. Being HIV Positive and not being allowed into venues is going back more than three decades when fear surrounded everyone with HIV;- but for goodness sake, - we are lightyears ahead now and yet this - prat - seems to have completely overlooked all the knowledge available and ask me this absolutely dumb question and my answer is below.

Dear Philip.

You have been receiving my e mails and weekly Blog since 2014 .

7 long years.

Now you ask if healthy HIV Positive people are allowed to stay.


Do you honestly think we screen our guests and disallow HIV Positive people from staying ?

Have you never seen how we offer free holidays to those who are ill with HIV or are in need ?

Have you REALLY not paid attention to ANYTHING that has happened in the last 7 years and do you REALLY think your question to be a valid and competent question from a grown man after almost 40 years of HIV education ?

I am shocked anyone can still be stuck with a 1980’ mental health space as backward and as dangerous as this.

Hun – What planet are you on ?

I am absolutely shocked at your question and can only put it down to you having a real senior moment.

That question is disgraceful and you should be ashamed for asking such a thing and if you do not get how dangerous your comment is – AND AFTER HUNDREDS OF E MAILS AND OPPORTUNITIES TO GO TO MY WEB SITE AND CHECK IT OUT FOR YOURSELF – when clearly you are just too damned lazy, or a complete fool, and this indicates that you are NOT someone I want at my venue as your mental health place is decades behind the rest of us and you clearly are not paying attention to very much.

Not appreciated and you will be banned from Hamilton Hall if you remain this stupid and think you can get away with it without someone like me picking you up on it.

Absolutely disgraceful behaviour from a grown man and I shall most certainly put this on the Blog next week to show people exactly the sort of fool we have to put up with.

An apology helps and you realizing what a dangerous thing you asked would also help as otherwise, I have absolutely no respect for you at all.

John Bellamy

Now I may have over reacted, but when I think back to the scores of funerals I went to, the scores of friends who died, the scored of bedsides I sat at: - the young, the handsome, those with decades ahead of them - dead and buried and here this man is 30 years later and he has learned absolutely nothing at all, absolutely nothing at all - ,and I find that disgraceful.

How do you feel about this e mail:


He responded with :- 'You are nasty queen ! with bed bugs'